The Breast Punishment Primer – Part 1

The Obligatory Preface

In my semi-long and somewhat illustrious career as a merchant of the pleasures of breast punishment through Darker Pleasures, I’ve learned a lot about the “thou shalt’s” and “thou shouldn’t” of erotic tit torment. Many of them I’ve learned through trial and error, while others I’ve only had the luxury of reading about. I’ve had tons of hands-on, teeth-on, yard tool-on, kitchen cutlery-on, hair accessory-on, and gadgets-yet-to-be-patented-on practice in the fine art of breast and nipple torment. I’ve probably written, photographed, and scripted more breast bondage and tit torment scenes than most men have lost socks in the black holes that haunt clothes dryers.

In short, I’ve learned boatloads of information about safely tormenting titties, and I know just as much about “Who gives a damn, they belong to me and I’ll break them if I want to” tit torment.

A wise man once said, “With great power comes great responsibility.”

Not only should that be the adage of all people trusted with the fate of a gorgeous pair of knockers, but I was also told it should be mine as well. So, with the increasing number of folks asking me for advice over the years, and because the person that pays my check is always harping at me to do something constructive with all the time I spend drooling over archived shots of all our gals’ tormented titties, I thought I’d put together this primer in hopes of helping everyone out a bit.

I know that you’ll all be eager to skip from one humorous anecdote to another, without wasting your time reading all the boring, serious stuff. Even so, I’d really suggest you resist the temptation. The boring, serious stuff is very important. This future Pulitzer-winning masterpiece is meant to be read in its entirety. Like the Bible and other good books, if you pick and choose references out of context, you end up with all sorts of problems. Look at all the guidance counseling and emotional trauma that resulted from the Crusades.

Oh, one other thing before I move on to the more fun stuff. Though The Breast Punishment Primer is based on reliable and sometimes scientific information, and I’ve tried my most danged to make it useful and informative, this is all off the record, folks. Despite my credentials in Internet webmaster breast torment website circles, I still claim only a layman’s expertise. What I won’t claim is any responsibility whatsoever for what you do in the privacy of your own bedroom, office, kitchen, S.U.V., back yard, dungeon or secret outdoor get-a-way.

Inflicting physical pain on a consenting pair of Hill Twins can be erotic, fun and profitable, but it should never be taken lightly. Remember guys and dolls, your eager little submissive may have signed all rights to her breasts over to you in that multi-million dollar pre-nuptial agreement, but they’re still attached to her chest.

Don’t do anything foolish.

Just a little legal disclaimer to satisfy our attorneys. Now, on to the show.

“Booby is Only Skin Deep”

Lesson number one of good erotic breast torment is to remember the old adage, “Beauty is only skin deep,” but for our purposes, I’ll be modifying that saying a bit.

Since we all agree that boobs are beautiful, the slight modification I’m going to use should be easy enough to adapt to. That modification is, “Booby is only skin deep.” “Booby is only skin deep” is the cardinal rule of breast torment for all you budding breast punishers out there. Any time you and your wife, girlfriend, next-door-neighbor, slave, or professional escort of the day get together over tea and crumpets for a little mindless afternoon BDSM, always make certain that nothing you do harms anything beneath the naked covering that you can see with the naked eye.

Now, let’s take a rather boring scientific kind of look at one of our favorite objects of torment, shall we?

The innards of breasts are made up of an assortment of fat, glands, ductwork, veins, and other odds and ends that don’t take kindly to being treated disrespectfully. Remember, female breasts are called female for a very good reason, and areas affected by hormones as everyone with that particular chromosome pattern (boy, am I going to take heat for that one). If you damage any of these underlying parts, titties often swell up and start to resemble granite or some similar metamorphic rock, scream and yell, refuse to do your laundry, call the F.B.I., turn into alien beings, or some combination of these.

The three parts that can take a bit of punishment without ruining your day, however, are the nipple, the areola, and the skin. (Yes, I know that these parts are all made of skin. It’s called poetic license, roll with me here…)

The nipple and areola, are the darker parts of the breast. They are generally located at the very tip of the breast and are therefore the closest thing to you when you’re looking for something to grab, bite, or otherwise torment. They are also, by and large, the most popular part of the breast, though we find that they don’t jiggle nearly as well without all the other stuff beneath them. They range in normal color from various shades of brown to various shades of red and pink. Blue and purple come later.

These little parts are actually quite tough, as they were originally designed to be sucked, chewed, clawed, pinched and otherwise mauled by little children who have no idea what erotic tit torment is, yet accomplish it with a skill that would humble the most accomplished BDSM Master on the planet.

Some people would argue that, since little children don’t have teeth, they couldn’t possibly do anything that would hurt. Try asking a nursing mom about the accuracy of that statement some time. Once she’s removed her knuckles from what remains of your teeth, she will explain otherwise, I assure you. Think about it just a minute. Kids are capable of destroying anything. In fact, if our government would simply tell children that all the video games that they could ever want lie just beyond enemy lines, our next war would only last 5.3 minutes at the outside. But I digress.

One would think that one small nipple and areola would have little chance against this type of destructive force, but there they are, just waiting for your clamps and nipple stretchers, proving that they are very tough indeed.

In actuality, the nipple is just crammed full of nerves and can be very sensitive. Great care should be taken when torturing a nipple to make certain that the torments give some kind of informed consent to whatever nasty that you’re perpetrating on it. Even if your love slave claims to have released her entire being to you and is begging profusely for you to use the Cuisinart, keep in mind that hindsight is always twenty-twenty. She may not be quite as cooperative the next time once the white-hot skewer of doom is removed and she’s had time to realize the extent of damage your Dom-deeds have done.

The areola, on the other hand, is arguably less sensitive in some ways than any other part of the breast, including the nipple and the white meat. You might consider this in your travels, as it is in basically the same vicinity, and of similar coloration, as the nipple, and so can be used as a willing substitute for many activities, particularly when cold or really excited, at which time it becomes very hard, crinkly, and chewable. This was the part that was actually meant to be addressed by your ankle biting children. It’s just very difficult explaining that to creatures that drool, spit up and poop for entertainment.

If you watch a curtain crawling infant in action on an unsuspecting breast, they’re really gumming for all their worth on the areola, trying as best as their screaming little mouths will allow pumping from a reservoir of milk that gathers just beneath it and squeeze dinner up through the nipple. Rumor has it that some really enthusiastic moms will keep breastfeeding their kids well past the time when their children get teeth, into their college years and sometimes into dentures. If these lucky little children were gnawing directly on their mom’s nipples with their pearly whites, do you really think they’d be drinking anything besides Similac or Enfamil? Got milk? Not out of my tit you don’t!

Now that I’ve covered the working parts that you’ll be playing with, let’s move on to the rest.

The white meat otherwise referred to as “skin,” is typically known as the boob and makes up the majority of the outer covering of a love mound. In some ways, it is very sensitive to touch and another light stimulus while in others it is pretty much capable of taking on whatever your sadistic heart desires. Many women claim that they can handle tough stuff with their areola more easily than the rest of their boobs, particularly the bottom half that is rather like the dark side of the moon and hardly ever sees the light of day, unless you’re lucky enough to have a slave that frequently cavorts topless in the outdoors.

If you’re concerned about your partner’s enjoyment, I’d suggest experimenting on the gentle side at first. If you’d rather not the experiment, breast skin folds very nicely between the hungry jaws of a clothespin.

As I’ve mentioned, inside your garden variety breast there are all sorts of things you’d probably rather not see. That’s why the creator in his or her infinite wisdom hid it all so smartly behind such an attractive cover.

I took my thirteen-year-old to the science museum recently, and he dashed straight to the anatomy section, being the testosterone-laden adolescent that he is. At first, he asked if he could take home pictures and scale models of the naked twenty-something-year-old homo-sapiens female that they had in full three-dimensional plastic splendor. That was until the display rotated around to reveal the same plastic woman with an equally three-dimensional plastic cutaway version of the same breast that looked something like the anatomy pic above.

Since they didn’t have a cutaway of her cute heart-shaped ass, he immediately converted, rather palely, from being a tit man like his dad to a butt man like his brother. Personally, I was thankful they didn’t have that ass cut away or he may have developed gender preference issues.

Anyway, inside the candy coating are predominantly milk glands, fat tissue, and lymph nodes. The more fat, the bigger the tit, so you folks that like ’em big might want to keep your cholesterol in mind. As for all these glandy-duct-fat-things, most of them can rupture if handled improperly. Busted fat tissue can harden into lumpy things that confuse doctors and x-rays and scare the pee out of most women. Mishandled milk glands can hamper milk production and cause other nasty problems. Lymph nodes, though certainly there for some important purpose, are the site of one of the meanest cancer problems around, and once infected, frequently spread cancer through a body like a bad chain letter.

In summary, regardless of the color of the breast part that you’re about to rope, clamp, pierce, or otherwise perpetrate on, remember most importantly that you want to concentrate your efforts on the candy coating outside and not the soft middle inside.

I’ll discuss how different types of torment can be directed at these candy parts shortly, and what can be done that might be safe for the deeper stuff. So don’t worry all you fledgling Marquis de Sade and “O”s out there, that leaves plenty of room for use of the safe word, as we’ll soon see.

Author’s Note – Serious problems, ranging from fibroadenoma to breast cancer, are very real issues when it comes to playing fast and rough with breasts. Any damage to the inner workings of a breast places the woman at risk. Skin is made to take certain amount of abuse, and nipples and areola are made, within reason, for even more, particularly in a rug rat biting and sucking on them until they’re numb sort of way, but, you do not want to do anything that will bruise, cut, pierce or otherwise cause damage below skin level!

The Good Stuff

Now that we’ve covered the scientific part of our primer and given you all sorts of subliminal reasons to surf for one of the gazillions of articles on breast health out there, I’ll move on to the real reason you’re here – that being the types of tit torment and how to go about doing them. Keep in mind that this is an educational piece of literature. Please keep both of your hands on the keyboard.

When folks talk about torturing tits they likely have any number of goals in mind, usually depending upon whether you’re the tormentor or the tormentee. Sometimes those goals coincide, and sometimes they don’t. Provided everyone is in agreement that they’re getting something sexually, psychologically, or financially profitable out of the deal, common goals aren’t necessarily important.

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For the receiver – generally the person that is bound helplessly and has the breasts that are being physically assailed – one might be striving for the achievement of something referred to as “sub-space.” Sub-space is a state of consciousness that some women achieve whereby the pain caused by having torment inflicted on their tits, generally coupled with some type of pleasurable stimulation located between their legs, transforms into an even stronger form of pleasure.

Having never been a sub, and having been deprived of breasts well into the early stages of cell division, I can only take the words of those women that seek this transcendental state, and work to help get their endorphins into such a tizzy that taking to their breasts with a chain saw would result in an orgasm that rivals the eruption of Mount Vesuvius.

What are endorphins,” you ask. Well, endorphins are chemicals that come out in gangs and go square-dancing through some parts of your brain when other body parts are screaming “ouch!” For the sake of this primer, the “ouch” screamers would be a breast or nipple. Endorphins are rather like Henry Kissinger in his hey-day, basically convincing your brain that what the tormented body part really means is, “Please, sir, may I have another?”

In scientific terms, endorphins are small-chain peptides that activate opiate receptors, producing a feeling of well-being, tolerance to pain, and so on. According to the experts, these compounds are hundreds or even thousands of times more potent than morphine. For our purposes, endorphins can go beyond just the sensation of euphoria to feelings of “flying,” “floating,” “loss of will” and to “psychic connection” with the Master or dealer of torment that can last for hours, or supposedly days, after the event.

This condition of erotically altered consciousness is called “sub-space.”

Now, aside from this spiritual enlightenment, other women simply enjoy seeing their Master, husband, John, or boss enjoying him or herself and are willing to submit to whatever forms of torment their partner cares to lavish upon them, getting off on their partner’s fun pretty much the same way all of us get off on getting our partner off, assuming that is something we all do.

Most find themselves somewhere between these two states of being.

As for the giver – generally, the person doing notorious things to the breasts of the female person that’s tied up and helpless – the goal may be to launch his partner into sub-space while getting his or her rocks off by watching her boobs bounce like big super balls. It may be a powerful thing, where he or she gets a thrill from being in total control over his or her slave’s bod. Knowing that this pair of tits is the most precious commodity that he or she has been entrusted to abuse to the razor’s edge makes the tormentor’s life a spiritual high… or something like that.

Personally, I’ll leave the psychological reasoning for your enjoyment of such things to you and your counselor. I’m a visual guy myself and just like to see boobs bouncing and being contorted into pretzel-like shapes.

It's the simple things in life, you know…

Use of Sex Toy Not Safe While Driving

Have you seen the ad for the sex toy called Auto Suck? It goes like this:

“Enjoy your drive with the ideal mate! Plugs into any car or truck lighter for some hot roadway action. Make sure to keep one hand on the wheel and one eye on the road as the auto-suck makes that long commute or road trip much more bearable. *Warning: this unit may cause ejaculation. This may be difficult to explain to your insurance company. Use at your own risk!”.

Okay, I’m not a prude and I know everyone is entitled to good sex, I understand its our right and I’m all for it but please….Is it really safe or necessary to use one of these units while driving? I think not! Look at the distraction problems we already face on the roads every day. All the fancy billboards and roadside signs that flash or scroll. The idiots who just have to be on their cells phones while driving just to mention a few. Now, throw in a portable sex toy like the Auto Suck and I’m scared to death to be out on the road!

Seriously, and answer honestly, how many of you can keep your eyes open when you are having an orgasm? Come on, it’s like sneezing, you just can’t do it! So let’s give this toy to the male driver and hope for the best. Yeah, this is just what I want a guy to be doing while driving a huge 20,000 pound, 550 H/P, 13 speed/overdrive tractor trailer. Seat belts and air bags won’t mean anything if you collide with one. Can you imagine the lawsuit implications with one of these toys? The ad actually suggests using it while driving. How stupid are they?

In my opinion, your just asking for trouble if you use one of these while driving. If you want to wait until you get to a rest stop or someplace safe to pull off and then hook up with the Auto Suck, fine I’ve got no complaints. To each their own. I suppose used safely it could be considered an “ideal mate”. But I just don’t understand what the advertisers of this toy were thinking.

In 2004, there were over 6 million motor vehicle crashes in the United States (data for 2005 is not yet available). The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) reported a total of 38,253 fatal crashes. There were 42,636 fatalities in those crashes. Non-fatal crashes totalled a whopping 6,143,000 with over 2.7 million personal injuries reported. There was an additional 4.2 million crashes related to property damage.

Given these statistics and the numerous distractions that drivers face every-day I can only hope that if anyone purchases the Auto Suck toy, they have enough intelligence not use it while driving.

Resources:
2004 Annual Assessment of Motor Vehicle Crashes Release September 06,
2005
NHTSA’s National Center for Statistics & Analysis
http://www-nrd.nhtsa.dot.gov/pdf/nrd-30/NCSA/TSFAnn/TSF2004EE.pdf
EARLY EDITION 2004 Motor Vehicle Crash Data from FARS and GES
http://www-nrd.nhtsa.dot.gov/pdf/nrd-30/NCSA/PPT/2004AnnualAssessment.pdf

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How To Choose Your Sex Doll [NEW FOR 2019!]

Choosing Your Bedroom Companion

There has been surge in the variety and availability of sex dolls in recent years.

Sex doll manufacturers have definitely upped their game too.

We’re not talking about those old unappealing blow up dolls, we’re talking about gorgeous-looking sex dolls that look almost creepily lifelike.

They have joints, their orifices have special textures and they’re covered with what feel like the softest and smoothest skin.

If you shell out the extra cash, you’ll get the option to customize these dolls however way you want to fit your preferences.

I mean, ladies, we’re reaching dangerous territories here.

With that being said, all these choices can be a little daunting if you’re shopping around and trying to find out which one is the “the right one.”

It would be shame to get something that you won’t be completely satisfied with because these can go for a lot of money.

Not only are these products very specialized, the best ones are made with top of the line materials, so they can last you a while.

Why would you even need one?

Maybe you’re like me and you’ve reached a point where the old fashioned way of masturbating just doesn’t cut it anymore.

I’m even starting to get bored with makeshift pocket pussies.

Sounds familiar?

Well, a love doll, whether full size or otherwise, could be the solution to your problem.

Some of us need that “heft” and would like to feel something more substantial when jacking off.

It’s a good thing that there are these options for us that could end our frustration with solo play.

AND you’ll never have to worry about contracting any nasty STDs!

So what are sex dolls?

First of all, we have to address the taboo that surrounds this product.

Getting a love doll doesn’t automatically mean you’re a sad loser with an imaginary girlfriend.

It’s not really meant for that.

Sex dolls were made not as a replacement for an actual person.

They were made for the sole purpose of masturbation.

Nothing is ever going to substitute a relationship you can have with a human being.

There is no way you can share the same intimacy and trust that you can have a real partner because, first of all, this is an object.

It can’t talk or think for itself.

We really have to shatter this taboo because there’s nothing wrong with exploring a healthy sexual appetite.

Some gals (and guys, for that matter) think that sex dolls are a bit misogynistic.

It sort of plays into the fact that some men really do view women as mere objects.

While that’s a sad fact, I might argue that it’s better to enjoy these fantasies with actual objects and not real women.

Do you see what I’m saying?

Sex dolls are just an outlet for our frustrations and fantasies while having virtually no real consequence other than some real damage to your bank account.

what are sex dolls
What are sex dolls

However, there is really no shame in getting one of these beauties if you fully understand what you’re getting.

Now that we’ve established that it’s a sex toy, then it follows that used to mimic the sexual act.

What’s so attractive about this is that it doesn’t come with the hassles of having a wife or girlfriend.

You don’t have to be nice to it.

You don’t have to ask for sex.

This is one lady that will never ever say no.

I also have to note that there are other options if you don’t want to go for the whole shebang.

So if you’re not comfortable about having large mysterious packages shipped to your house, you don’t have to commit right away and go for the whole thing.

It just really depends on what you want and how much money you’re willing to shell out.

The very best ones that are ridiculously customizable down to the nails to the poutiness of the lips.

To state the obvious, you can customize the hair, the skin color, the size of the breasts, the shape of the pussy lips. You name it.

You can also tell if it’s high-quality if the parts are removable.

This makes clean up way easier and you also have the option to get these parts replaced.

Eventually, you’re going to want to do this after you’ve been with your doll a couple hundred times.

They won’t last forever.

They also have “skeletons” that make it so you can position it however way you want.

Just imagine the number of positions you can experiment with.

Naturally, the less expensive options won’t look as great.

If you don’t want to compromise on quality, then you could go for something “less complete,” like a torso or an ass.

Some might feel weird fucking something with a face, so this is a good option for that.

As a general rule, the more expensive it is, the higher the quality is going to be.

It’s just like with everything else.

That’s why I suggest that you invest in a good one and stay away from those sketchy websites that offer something that’s obviously not going to perform as it is advertised.

Do you think you should get one?

It could be likely that you’d be happy with something more compact.

But if you’re not the type that would question your life choices, having this thing lying around the house, then you should definitely get one.

Do you think you should get one?
Do you think you should get one?

Especially if you’re feeling a bit sexually frustrated or bored.

I seriously think anyone would get one anyway if it didn’t cost as much as a down payment on a good car.

Anyone who would say no to a free one, is a little weird in my book.

Here are some of the types of guys who could benefit from having a sex doll:

1. Getting a girl just isn’t an option

Getting a girl just isn’t an option
Getting a girl just isn’t an option

Let’s face it. Some guys just get easy pussy and some guys just aren’t born with the right hair and the right jawline to attract a mate.

Hell, some guys don’t even have the saving grace of humor to talk their way into it.

I guess that’s just how life goes, my friend.

But this doesn’t mean that  you can’t have fun by yourself.

If this is the closest way you can get to the female body, then I’d say it’s worth it.

You’ll also have to option to create the girl of your dreams, at least when it comes to the way that she looks.

It wouldn’t be fair to deprive yourself of even just that.

2. You’re busy as a beaver

busy as a beaver
busy as a beaver

Do you barely have enough time to eat and sleep by juggling two or three jobs?

Having to deal with all of this is sure to stress you out, let alone going out, treating a girl to dinner and wooing her to get her into bed.

If you’re trying to move up in the world, where you even find the time to do that?

Well, if you’re finding this all too relatable, then getting a doll is the way to go.

Having one handy is sure to be a pleasure when you do have the moment to settle in and have a relaxing night in.

3. You have problems with commitment

Maybe that’s just one of the issues that you have to overcome or you’re a recently divorced man who is not ready to get back in the game just yet.

a doll is perfect for you
A doll is perfect for you

Either way, if you want constant sex without having to spend a fortune on dates and always having to turn the charm on for the ladies, a doll is perfect for you.

4. You have threesome fantasies that just can’t be fulfilled

It’s not unusual for a girl to not be down for a threesome.

I’ve got to hand it to the ladies.

This is not unreasonable at all.

Being in a romantic relationship is all about exclusivity.

You don’t get to share your affections unless you’re in one of those hippie open relationship type deals that never seem to work.

best sex doll png
best sex doll png

If you’ve got an open-minded enough girl, this could be a good compromise.

You can act out your fantasy safely without her feeling threatened by another person.

Because that’s where the problem seems to be stemming from.

It’s highly unlikely that she’s going to get jealous because of a doll.

5. You’re looking for something better than the real thing

For purely utilitarian reasons, sex dolls are the best when it comes to sensation.

No woman is ever going to have crazy textures inside her or is going to vibrate.

Vaginas pretty much all feel the same, if we’re being totally honest here.

Yes, there are some things that set an individual vagina apart like its tightness or the shape of the labia.

But overall, it’s the same silky hole we know and love.

If you’re looking for something that’s a bit more challenging or even just more stimulating, then a doll is the answer to that.

There are teams behind these products who test the best materials, the best textures, the best configurations, to ensure the best orgasms ever.

Honestly, with the amount of work that goes into these, you really get what you pay for.

Alright. Now that we’ve got the basics covered and you’re starting to feel like you should gift yourself with one of these for Christmas, then let’s explore your options here.

The standard sex doll

So you want something full and are not really keen on something that looks like a severed torso.

I got you, fam.

Let’s start with the more economical options first and work our way up, shall we?

If you’re just looking to test one out and you don’t feel ready to invest in something that would make your girlfriend cry if she ever found out about it, I suggest that you go for an entry-level doll.

Believe me, these won’t go for cheap if that’s what you were thinking

. You can spend $500 to upwards of a thousand bucks for just the entry-level model!

So rethink this if you know yourself and think that you might want to move to a higher end one down the line.

It could save you the money.

Despite being entry-level, though, for $1000, you’re getting something that won’t break and won’t look butt ugly.

They’re just not the most realistic dolls, which could be good for some folks who have an anime fetish or have a thing for that plastic surgery look.

Most of these dolls are small too.

I’m not going to say anything if you’re into that in real life.

Who knows? You might be into… midgets.

You could still play around with the proportions, though.

Even though you have a 3-foot doll, it could have D-cup breasts.

The great thing about these smaller dolls is that they’re easier to hide. So if you’re trying to sneaky about this whole thing, then go for a smaller one.

Things start to get better with mid-range dolls.

They’re more comparable to high-end dolls, but you’ll definitely see the difference in the quality of the build.

For mid-range dolls, you’ll usually get a lower grade of silicone or thermoplastic elastomer.

The problem with TPE is that it’s porous, which means it will absorb lube or sweat and this will stain your doll over time.

The standard sex doll
The standard sex doll

I think it’s also worth mentioning that it doesn’t feel as lifelike as silicone, but it’s a great material if you want something a little firmer.

Another thing to note is the build of its skeleton. Yes, it’s still going to be made of metal, but probably the lighter kind. So the heft you were looking for? Nope, you’re not getting that in this one.

If you’ve positioned your doll to do some doggy-style fun, it’s going to hold that position, but it’s not going to push against you.

It feels a lot more insubstantial and the lower quality metal will wear out faster than that of the kind you can find in a higher-end doll.

But honestly, for the price, which usually goes for about $1000-$2000, you could get some good use out of it for a year or two.

If you calculate that per day, it’s not going to be much.

Now, if you’re ballin’ and always need the best thing that’s out there, go for a luxury doll.

The reason why these dolls are so expensive is because they’re not really mass produced.

They’re really more like artisan products, the way that they’re made.

Every imaginable part of the doll, you can customize. I’m not even kidding.

You can create this doll that will suit your taste to a tee.

People are going to work on this, not a machine.

So expect that it’s someone’s job to attach every eyelash on your doll. It’s that detailed.

Apart from the artistry, you can also be sure that the materials that go into making these dolls are the very best.

The skeleton will be strong and won’t be deformed under pressure.

These dolls will stand on their own and can really take a pounding.

As they should. I mean, these beauties can go for $2000 at the cheapest.

The most beautiful and lifelike dolls could create a $10,000 hole in your pocket.

That being said, a high-end doll will last you a while.

We’re talking 5 years if you carefully maintain it.

Here, I wouldn’t blame if you if you start an imaginary relationship with it.

Fetish dolls

If you don’t have the money for a high-end doll and you can’t customize the dolls that you can afford to your liking, there are dolls that are already premade to suit some of the usual fetishes.

Whether you have a thing for big boobs or a big ass, there are some options for you.

And it doesn’t end there.

You could go for something that looks a little more mature (because fucking something that looks too young is creepy) or something that looks a little cushy.

Whatever floats your boat, bro.

If you’ve thought about it, someone has made it.

Just the torso

Just the torso sex
Just the torso sex

Again, if you don’t have the funds to get a full doll (and honestly, there’s not much you can do with a pair of legs anyway), then you might want to get something that focuses only on the goodies.

You get the vagina, the butthole and the boobs.

What more could you want?

Some guys want something to hold for that extra stimulation, so this could be the right choice for you.

Also, if you’re a missionary type of guy or you like the “prone bone” position,  I would suggest that you just get this one.

It certainly gets the job done and it’s mighty comfortable.

Since it’s more compact, it’s easier to carry around the house and easier to stow away in case someone comes snooping.

Some of these come with a head, if you’re into that.

I don’t know why, but seeing and feeling some hair always gets me going.

Just the holes

Okay, maybe you want something ultra-discrete, then you might just want to get the regular pocket pussy or Fleshlight.

This is great if you find the whole concept of having a doll a little too creepy. I get it. It’s just not for everyone.

What’s great about the Fleshlight, in particular, is that it takes the realism to a whole new level by having some of their models molded out of your favorite porn stars or cam girls’ orifices.

If you’ve ever wondered what it would be like to be with Alexis Texas or Stoya, then this is probably the closest you can get to that experience.

Just the holes
Just the holes

Having your very pocket pussy can be very rewarding because of the selection of the textures you can get.

No real woman is ever going to feel like how these Fleshlight sleeves are designed. No way.

Think of this as just a step up from your regular masturbation technique, which I’m guessing just involves some lotion and your hand.

Well, this is exponentially better than that.

So if you don’t want the bulk and you think a full-blown sex doll is too much for you, I highly recommend that you get a pocket pussy.

And if you’re thinking that this isn’t a hands-free option, you’re sorely mistaken.

There are many ways you can use a Fleshlight without using your hands.

You could wedge it in between your mattress and the box spring. You could get a mount that was specifically made to house the Fleshlight.

You could even get the Launch (their patented auto-stroker) or one of those auto blowjob machines. I swear to you, you won’t be disappointed.

Conclusion and last minute tips

Overall, I would say that having a sex doll (or parts of it) is a great addition to any bedroom.

It enhances your masturbation sessions by adding another dimension to it.

At the risk of sounding like a giddy little girl, I get a kick out of putting my dolls in sexy little outfits that my girlfriend will never wear in a million years.

This is truly the chance to be with a different girl every single night.

All it takes is just some imagination, which we’re pros at tapping into by now, considering how long we’ve been masturbating.

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last minute png

If you’re unsure about what kind of lubes to use with these dolls, I suggest that you always go for something water-based.

Water-based lubes are compatible with any material and won’t damage your doll.

Remember, it’s important to maintain your doll to get the most out of it.

Some dolls go with the warning that the user shouldn’t use water and soap as it damages that doll’s specific blend of skin.

If you want to “refresh” your doll, some cornstarch or baby powder will do the trick.

A quick dusting will make it feel good as new.

You also want to warm up your doll if you want to keep things realistic.

You can do this by putting “her” under an electric warming blanket.

Well, that about covers everything you need to know.

I hope that by now, you feel more equipped to shop around and make the right choice.

Penis Extenders That Actually Work [JAN 2019]

Penis Extenders That Actually Work [JAN 2018]

Penis Extenders That Actually Work: No False Promises, All Science

The vast majority of guys aren’t exactly happy about what they see down there. It also certainly doesn’t help that when we watch porn, the thought that bigger is better is always being constantly being reinforced in our minds.

This is a very delicate topic because a lot of men don’t really like talking about what they think they can’t do anything about.

The others who are better endowed would simply just sit there and smile smugly.

Even though most women would assure us that it doesn’t matter much in the bedroom, we all have that sinking, quiet feeling that it actually does.

I had a girlfriend who said that she’d be happy with anything as long as it’s not a micropenis and she somehow expected to be treated like a saint.

What I can say about that is, a 4-incher won’t make a woman scream out of pleasure.

This is really the source of a lot of men’s insecurity.

Because of that, it has been a long-standing preoccupation to try and figure out what penis extenders actually works.

The whole thing is kind of shady, what with all the scam ads scattered all over the internet.

It’s hard to find the ones that would make a difference.

And guys, I think we’d all be on the same page and say that we wouldn’t say no to even an extra half inch.

That’s why there are many poor souls out there who have fallen prey to fake pills and pumps that promise to help them out in the size department.

I’ll offer some assurance here and say that there is no shame in that.

We’ve all been there.

We’ve all been disappointed time and time again with the same old lackluster “results.”

Well, I’ve done my research and I am ready to put my two cents into the matter.

Let’s do a bit of exploring here and see what our options are.

What makes a good penis extender?

Back in the old days, I guess the prevalent understanding was just to pull on the mothef***** and expect it to stay that way.

good penis extender
Good penis extender

Let’s all heave a sigh of relief because technology has gotten a lot better since then.

In the modern world, these things are specially designed to do it the slow but sure way.

This, in my opinion, makes a world of difference and a lot more sense.

You can’t expect overnight results with something like this.

Why? The main goal here is tissue growth.

That’s right.

We’re now focusing on a cellular level.

None of that bizarre mumbo jumbo.

I suppose the concept hasn’t really changed all that much, but the modern man’s advantage is the access to products that are backed up by actual science.

So how do you do this?

Much like working out, the main thing that you have to remember if you’re considering going through this process is that it requires a lot of dedication.

It’s a regimen that you have to incorporate into your daily routine.

That means you have to put this thing on for a quarter of a whole day for at least half a year.

At least.

It’s not going to be pleasant because it’s not exactly the most natural feeling ever.

Even though you won’t feel that someone is constantly tugging at your junk because it’s adjusted in very small increments, at the end of the day, it’s still a device that you’re putting your penis into.

It can also go for a lot of money too.

Just like everything else, products that cost a lot more do better than the cheaper alternatives.

A lot more research goes into premium devices and they’re made out of the best materials.

But if you ask me, it’s better to save up and invest in a more premium device.

After all, this is your penis that we’re talking about here.

You want something that other guys swear by and isn’t made of some flimsy material that would just break on you after a couple days of use.

With all that in mind, let’s get into it and see what these products are all about to figure out which one you should get.

The JES Extender

The JES Extender
The JES Extender

Conscious about the curvature of your penis?

This one is meant to correct that.

The best thing I can say about the JES is that it’s considered a Class 1 medical device by the FDA.

That means rigorous and thorough testing.

I recommend this one if you just want to try the experience out because the results that you can get from this aren’t permanent.

Even though this might be bad news for those who mean serious business, this is great for those who feel iffy about permanent body modification.

It’s the most compact out of all devices and can be easily hidden under your clothes.

No one wants to know about this, am I right?

The SizeGenetics

Numbers first. This device promises an added 3 to 7 cm to your penis length in only 6 months.

What sets the SizeGenetics apart is their focus on comfort.

The SizeGenetics
The SizeGenetics

Their line of thought was: the more comfortable it is, the more likely you’re going to use.

The more you use it, the faster the results. That’s pretty straightforward.

Since no two penises are the same, with some angling over to the right or the left, this is the one that really took that into account.

You could set this device in a whopping 16 different configurations.

So if comfort is your main concern, this is the best choice for you.

The Male Edge Pro Penis Extender

The Male Edge Pro Penis Extender
The Male Edge Pro Penis Extender

Before you raise your eyebrows at its $225 price tag, let me tell you that this device promises an average of 29% penis growth.

That’s more than a quarter of your size.

Let that sink in for a bit.

Granted, they say that this is on average, so you can’t expect to get the same results for every individual, but I have to say this is pretty darn good for $225.

The reason I suggest that you go with the Pro (because there are basic and “extra” options) is because you’re probably going to want to get this one if you try the lower tier options. Buy it nice or buy it twice!

This is also the one that gets you permanent results.

It has ergonomic straps and top of the line materials, so you know you’re getting the best. These are folks who took this very seriously.

This is the one I tried out myself and I can tell you that it works like a charm. I can’t tell you how surprised I was, but I’m definitely happier for it.

How To Get The Best Fleshlight Experience

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How To Use A Fleshlight

In this list, we’ll cover the basics and explore some ways you possibly haven’t tried before.

Let’s get to it.

First thing’s first.

masturbation fleshlight funny image

What’s a Fleshlight?

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This ingenious device was specifically designed to add boosted pleasure for men’s masturbation sessions.

It’s essentially a portable pussy (or ass, or mouth) that feels incredibly realistic and sometimes even better than the real thing, depending on your chosen sleeve texture.

The case could be either clear or opaque and it comes in a number of different sizes.

The most important thing to note about this case, aside from the fact that it’s made to look like a flashlight (hence the name) for discretion, is that is has two caps.

The cap in the front uncovers the opening of the Fleshlight and the other cap can be twisted off to adjust the intensity of the suction.

With the staggering amount of sleeves to choose from, you will never get bored.

These sleeves pretty much dictate how good your masturbation experience is going to be.

Some are more challenging that others and fit any fetish you could be into.

As an added bonus, Interactive Life Forms (ILF), the maker of the Fleshlight, have come up with line of units modeled after your favorite porn stars and cam girls for that personal touch.

 

Getting started

So you’ve joined the millions of satisfied Fleshlight owners all over the world and don’t know the first thing about how to use it or maybe you’ve been using it for quite some time and have run out of ideas on how to mix things up.

Well, don’t worry. I’ve got you covered.

Let’s say you’ve just taken your Fleshlight out of its packaging.

fleshlight go packaging

The first thing you need to do is remove the cardboard tube wedged inside the sleeve.

Don’t get too excited and stick your junk in there right away.

That’s an accident waiting to happen.

Now, with that out of the way, let’s get into prep.

 

Warm up the sleeve

warm up sleeve

If you’re going for a more realistic feel, then you’re going to want to warm up your sleeve to mimic the actual body temperature.

This isn’t really necessary and you don’t have to do it if you don’t feel like it, as the Fleshlight will likely warm up on its own as you use it.

That’s just how friction works.

But if you want to feel the warmth right off the bat, there are a number of ways you can do this.

This is especially good during those cold and lonely winter months when all you want to do is down a couple glasses of bourbon and stick your penis into something warm and comforting.

Sounds like a good time.

The sleeve warmer

fleshlight sleeve warmer

ILF has come up with their very own patented sleeve warmer as a Fleshlight accessory.

It is lightweight, sleek and just as portable as its counterpart.

What’s cool about it is that it can be charged via USB cable, so you can hook it up to your laptop and never have to go through the hassle of buying batteries for it.

There is not much to be said about the device itself because it’s really just rod attached to a sturdy base and it heats up.

There is not much to it, but it makes a world of difference.

You just slide your sleeve down onto the rod and it shouldn’t take more than five minutes for the warmer to make it nice and comfy.

But how warm are we talking here?

It can go up to 90 to 100 degrees Fahrenheit within five minutes, just the right temperature to make it feel like it’s a body.

According to the manual, it can reach up to 135 degrees, which I’m guessing is what it would feel like to have sex with someone with someone who has a high fever.

it's hot temperature

If that’s what you’re into, then whatever floats your boat.

That’s personally a little too warm for me, but it’s all about preference here.

Don’t be alarmed.

It’s never going to feel like your penis is on fire and it’s a definitely a step up from thrusting into something cold and slick.

That sensation reminds me a little too much of my more experimental days when I would masturbate with hollowed-out fruit and tube socks.

 

The old-fashioned way

fleshlight faucet heating

What ILF has always suggested even way before they came up with their warmer is that you soak the sleeve in warm water anywhere from 10 to 15 minutes.

This has always done the trick, but it can be a bit messy and it takes considerably longer.

Take note: DO NOT submerge your sleeve in boiling water or pop it in the microwave.

This will most definitely damage it and that’s about 80 bucks down the drain.

 

Bundle of joy

wrap up dog blanket

This was my personal favorite before getting the sleeve warmer.

I would wrap my sleeve in a blanket or towel and put it on my radiator for a few minutes.

This was great because I didn’t want it to get wet except with lube and when I’m cleaning it out with water.

Just always remember to wrap it something before you do this.

Putting it on a heater directly will also damage it.

If you’ve got one of those electrical warming blankets or a heating pad, those can be good too.

 

Lube up

always time for lubricant

This is very, very important.

You never want to skip this step if you want to avoid a nasty case of chafing.

Because of the Fleshlight’s secret patented combination of rubber polymers, they advise that you should only use water-based lubes.

This is a simple enough instruction to follow, to assure that your sleeve maintains its freshness and integrity.

Again, this is all about preference.

You might want to play around with different kinds of lube to get best masturbation experience.

You could experiment with thin, thick, warming or cooling lubricants.

I personally like to switch it up from time to time because I don’t want the same experience every single time I pleasure myself.

It also adds to the realism bit because I noticed that girls don’t exactly get wet the same way.

This is just a step that you should never be skipped because it protects your junk, so you can be sure that you won’t feel any kind of pain, discomfort or, worse, infections.

 

What’s your style?

Here is where we can get creative.

Men have always been imaginative when it comes to their masturbation techniques from humping sculptures to couch cushions.

That certainly doesn’t end with the Fleshlight.

Here is where you can experiment with different positions and play out your favorite fantasies.

If you can picture it, you can most likely do it.

 

Going old school

fallon masturbation

The Fleshlight is meant as a masturbation aid, so of course the mind automatically goes to just using it with your hand.

Even though this is the most rudimentary way of using it, this is always going to better than just jacking it with your bare hand.

Just find the most comfortable position, maybe even put on right porn clip and you’re good to go.

You can do this on your back or hold it firmly in front of you so you can slide yourself in.

This is great if you want to have full control of how it’s angled.

If you have a willing wife or girlfriend, it’s even better if someone else does this for you.

A trick up your sleeve

fleshlight just sleeve stoya

If the previous method has gotten old for you, one way to step it up is by losing the case and playing with just the sleeve.

You will lose the suction feature because it’s the case that does that, but you’ll be able to adjust the pressure manually by squeezing your sleeve in the right spots.

If you want to get the most out of your chosen texture, it’s good to explore it this way.

Now, ILF came up with their own “renewing powder,” which is actually just pure cornstarch.

It’s recommended that you powder your sleeve every once in a while to maintain the softness and silky texture it had right out of the box.

The reason I bring this up is because it’s advisable to dust your sleeve slightly before you use it to avoid slippage.

If you’re average sized or maybe even a little smaller, then you won’t get the full use of out the diverse range of textures ILF has come up with.

Sometimes, they reserve the really intense configurations for the more endowed and put these crazy textures right at the very end of the sleeve, which you’re not going to get to reach if you’re under 7 inches.

Well, this is perfect workaround to that.

Simply enter your sleeve from the other end to get in on the action.

You could switch up with textures for a more varied experience.

 

If you like to watch

fleshlight launchpad

ILF released the LaunchPAD and it delighted users everywhere because it took into account the obvious: if you’re using the Fleshlight, then you’re most likely watching porn.

It’s a rubber case that fits a 3rd or 4th generation iPad with Velcro straps at the base to fasten and secure your Fleshlight.

Since it’s made of rubber, it’s very easy to grip.

This is perfect for POV videos because this will better immerse you in the fantasy.

 

If you’re in a long distance relationship

onxy pearl

One of the major drawbacks of, say, being halfway across the world from your loved one is that you’re not going to get any action.

But with the recent innovations, cybersex has become a thing that a lot of couples resort to in order to maintain their intimacy.

The LaunchPAD will work for some good old fashioned Skype sex, but if you want to take it to the next level, Kiiroo has partnered with Fleshlight to create the Onyx and the Pearl.

All you need is a reliable internet connection and you can sync these two devices up to provide real time stimulation for both parties.

The amazing part about this setup is that anything one of you does, the other can feel. So if she takes in the Pearl in her pussy, your Onyx will tighten.

This is undeniably better than just having phone sex and playing with yourself with.

Knowing that it’s a shared experienced helps to reestablish the connection with your special someone.

 

If you want to go hands-free

Sometimes, in order to really get into the fantasy, you have to “forget” that you’re jerking yourself off.

The same concept applies to watching movies.

You know that what you’re watching is made up, but your brain automatically suspends your belief.

This way, you’ll be able to relate to the characters and be interested in the plot as if it was real.

Something like this can be achieved if you take your hands out of the equation.

Here are some ways you can have a totally hands-free experience.

These are great ways to practice if you want to incorporate your Fleshlight into your sex life with a partner because it frees up your hands to do other naughty things.

 

On a mission mount by Liberator

fleshlight liberator

I know it’s intimidating to get a piece of furniture that is specifically designed for masturbation, but you have the cash to spare, this is a great addition to any bedroom.

It’s pretty sizable, but it’s very light as it’s made with very firm foam.

The one end is slanted and there is a hole.

This is where your Fleshlight is meant to go into.

It fits very snugly in there and you don’t have to worry about it falling out.

Actually, it takes some force to get it in there.

The angle pretty much makes it feel like you’re having sex in the missionary position.

The good thing about this mount is that it’s extremely comfortable.

You can rest your elbows in the front and pump away.

To use it, all you have to do is position yourself on top of the mount.

Its width is only 9 inches, so it should fit nicely between your legs.

Of course at this point, it should be all lubed up.

You should be able to easily slide yourself in.
Now, you can imagine yourself in all sorts of scenarios.

You could use a mouth orifice paired with a texture that’s meant to simulate a blowjob and pretend that you’re going to town on someone’s face.

If you get bored with this, you can prop it on its side, spoon it and enter from the side.
Because it’s made of faux leather, cleanup is a breeze.

All you need is some all-purpose surface cleaner and a cloth to take care of your messes.

But perhaps the best thing about having one of these is that you can play out that threesome you’ve always wanted.

This only goes to show that using a Fleshlight could not only be a solo activity, but it could spice things up with a willing partner.

 

The shower mount

fleshlight shower mount

This mount will stick onto any smooth surface, preferably tiles.

That’s why they marketed this for some shower fun.

You can also even mount this on glass if you want to stick it onto your shower door.

It’s easy to adjust the angle, so you can get in any safe and comfortable position that you’d like.

Just like with regular shower sex, it can be quite the balancing act.

You have to careful not to slip, so non-slip mats and grips will help a lot.

The most important thing to remember when using your Fleshlight in the shower, make sure you still use water-based lube.

The SuperSkin (the amazing material the Fleshlight sleeves are made of) don’t do well with anything else.

I realize that since you’re going to be in a wet environment, you’d think oil would be the perfect lubrication, but this is really not a good idea.

It will ruin your sleeve.

DO NOT use soap. Your penis will not be happy about it either.

So stick to something water-based even though you’ll probably have to use a lot of it.

The Launch

fleshlight launch stamina pack

This is another collaboration with Kiiroo and probably my favorite Fleshlight accessory.

You would think that this one is for the lazy, but it requires quite a bit of prep.

First, you have to make sure that the device is fully charged and you might want to have a lineup of raunchy videos on Pornhub ready.

Setting up the device itself is pretty simple.

Just attach your Fleshlight by doing a twisting clockwise motion and wait until you hear a nice little click.

That means you’re good to go.

Lube it up and slide on in.

Here is the fun part.

With the Launch, there are two modes: manual and interactive.

If you want to have full control, then go the manual route.

This allows you to set how fast and how long the strokes are.

The controls are intuitive and makes for a very relaxed experience.

I have got to tell you that this thing is a beast. Because it’s a machine, it’ll never tire (that is, until its battery runs out).

The interactive mode, on the other hand, takes the porn-watching experience to the next level.

Pornhub collated their own special content specifically for this device, so you won’t have to worry about running out of new material.

What’s cool about this is that the movement of the Launch is synced very accurately with these videos.

Whatever is happening in the video, you will feel in real life perfectly timed along with it.

Taking it a step further, this device is also VR ready.

I don’t know about you, but when I first heard about this device, I thought we’d arrived in the future.

Use things you have in the house

It doesn’t matter if you can’t afford these Fleshlights accessories just yet.

You can use things that are already lying around in your home.

Another use for your bed

bed party hard

This is one of the sturdier options.

All you have to do is lift your mattress up slightly and wedge your Fleshlight in between that and the box spring or mattress base.

Kneel in front of your bed and thrust in and out to your heart’s content.

This is perfect for replicating doggy-style sex.

And since your bed is a heavy piece of furniture, you don’t have to worry about your Fleshlight going askew.

You can plow the living daylight out it and it will stay put.

Another great thing about this method is that you can put your laptop, tablet, magazine or whatever it is you’re into right in front of you for easy access.

The pillow, towel and couch cushion method

pillow method

An even simpler way to use your Fleshlight is to just stick it in between two pillows and fasten them together with a belt to secure your setup.

This is great if you want to try all sorts of positions, particularly the cowgirl.

Just hug the pillows while on your back and thrust upwards.

You can also wrap a bath towel around it for some height (the angle is way too low if you’re just going to set it on the bed).

This doesn’t take any time at all.

This one is a classic: stick it in between couch cushions.

That is if you have the luxury of being able to masturbate in your living room without having to worry if someone is going to walk in on you.

On your desk

duct tape

The only thing you will need for this is some heavy duty duct tape.

Just secure your Fleshlight in place and be careful not to get cum on your keyboard.

The advantage to this is that your computer is probably on your desk, right?

You can watch your favorite NSFW videos as you use it.

If you think this is lame and you’re pretty handy anyway, take a trip to the hardware store or look around on Amazon and buy a durable clamp.

After this, you can pretty much clamp it onto anything else.

Take your penis for a walk

shoes walking gif

This is as straightforward as it can get.

Just grab any shoe, unlace it and shove your Fleshlight in there.

Tighten the laces to secure it place, lube up, and you’re good to go.

Since the shoe is planted on the floor, this can take a lot of thrusting.

As far as angles go, this is what feels most like having sex in the missionary position.

Honestly, this can be quite the workout, but I’m sure we can all agree that the payoff is worth it.

Get someone else to do it for you

shall we have sex gif

If you can’t be bothered to do it yourself and if you’re lucky enough to have a willing partner, then get him/her to do it for you.

When most people think about the Fleshlight, they automatically think that it’s a solo activity.

The truth is, this is just another one of those sex toys that you can bring into your bedroom to spice up your sex life with a partner.

Trust me, your partner will appreciate it because he/she will feel included in your fantasy.

This might just seem like an excuse to lay back and watch, but experimenting in the bedroom reinforces intimacy and brings the two (or more) of you closer.

This is also a chance to safely play out your ménage à trois fantasies.

The portable pussy is a lot less threatening than an actual person.

If you don’t have anyone special in your life just yet, you could line up different Fleshlights, perhaps the pussy, ass and mouth options, and imagine the dream threesome you’ve had since you were 17.

Not for the faint-hearted

It sucks when you build up the tolerance for something as pleasurable as an orgasm, but the danger is real and it happens to the best of us.

You can easily retrain yourself and hold off on the masturbation for a while.

The concept is very similar to intermittent fasting.

But if you absolutely have to come as frequently as you do now to de-stress or for whatever reason, these are the options for you.

The super sucker

If you’re all about suction, then this technique is perfect for you.

Lose the case and get a mason jar.

mason jar sucker

You want something big enough to house your sleeve, so it’s most ideal to use a 2-pint jar.

It’s crucial that you use glass, but just be extra careful.

Glass shards and your penis are not a good mix and could lead to a disaster.

Now, the setup. It’s pretty straightforward.

Just put the sleeve in the mason jar as if you were using the normal Fleshlight case.

Find a stiff straw and wedge it in between the rim of the jar and the Fleshlight orifice.

You can then lube it up and put your penis in.

It’s important that your first penetration is done slowly.

Once you’re all the way in, carefully slide the straw out.

This creates pressure inside the jar.

Technique is key here.

If you want something that will suck the living daylight out of you, just pull out as far as you can.

This creates a vacuum.

If it ever gets too intense, just wiggle your finger where the straw used to be to introduce some air inside.

Good vibrations

ILF released their own vibrating option for those who need that extra stimulation.

So if you’re all about sticking to the Fleshlight brand, the Vibro is a cool thing to get.

fleshlight vibro

Out of the box, you are given three vibrating battery operated pellets that you can slip into the sleeve, which create a wonderful vibration that will blow your mind.

Pair it with a challenging sleeve and you might not ever want to leave your bedroom.

If you want to go off-brand, these “bullet” vibrators are available pretty much anywhere.

You can just scour Amazon and find the right size and intensity.

This will definitely save you a couple of dollars too.

The outside of the sleeve have long ridges.

All you have to do is line up the bullets in between these flaps.

You can choose how many bullets you want to put in there depending on how intense you want the vibration to be.

There is a good solution if you think you’re desensitized to a normal Fleshlight and need that extra zing in order to cum.

Conclusion

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These are just some of the more popular ways to use your Fleshlight.

But remember, the only limit is your imagination.

It’s not a surprise that masturbation continues to be a way for men to exercise their creativity.

Just stay safe, stay clean, and have fun!

How To Make Your Own Pocket Pussy

How To Make Your Own Pocket Pussy

An Arts and Crafts Project You Won’t Want To Throw Away

There are so many products out there that are marketed as “Pocket Pussies.”

From the famed Fleshlight to the lesser known fake asses by Cyberskin, these could cost you a pretty penny.

Don’t you worry.

Times are hard and even though you don’t even have the 20 bucks to spare, there are things that are probably lying around in your house that you could use to fashion your very own fake pussy.

Guys have always been known to let their creativity fly when it comes to masturbation.

We take it very seriously, after all.

Why even make a pocket pussy?

Obviously, in order to enhance the masturbation experience, you want something that simulates how the real thing feels.

And you want this thing to be portable and easy to hide because you wouldn’t want your kinks on display for your mom or your girlfriend to see.

Make a pocket pussy
Make a pocket pussy

Overall, it just makes for a more enjoyable time than just using your hand to jack off.

I don’t know if it’s just my age or I do it way too often, but I’ve since lost my liking for masturbating the old fashioned way.

I guess once you’ve experienced something better, it’s hard to justify why you ever want to go back to the most natural way of doing it.

That being said, sometimes a pocket pussy could be a wildly different experience from fucking an actual vagina.

You could experiment with different textures and levels of suction that no pussy, mouth or ass could ever replicate.

This is not say that this is always going to be better than having sex with a person.

That reaches levels that you can’t achieve on your own.

Nothing will ever replace the connection and the intimacy you can have with your partner.

But as far going solo goes, it’s very possible to up your game and break up with your hand once and for all (because, honestly, it’s getting a little weird).

You can find out what texture works best for you.

I also think that it’s important to note that having a pocket pussy has other benefits besides the pleasure that you get from it.

Improve Your Stamina

The most practical one has got to be that it can improve your stamina.

Improve Your Stamina
Improve Your Stamina

Since it feels exponentially better than just using your hand, it can be very challenging to some guys who don’t last long in bed.

I don’t know about you, but I consider it a failure if my girl isn’t fully satisfied after we fool around.

It breaks my heart little, seeing that look of disappointment on her face when I just blew a few pumps a little too soon.
This is a great remedy for that.

With a pocket pussy, you can settle down, relax, and take your time.

Like Going To The Gym, But For Your Cock

The concept is very similar to working out.

The more you exercise a muscle, the more sets of reps you can do.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure this out.

Just keep going at it until you feel like you’re going to cum, hold off on it, take a break for a few moments, and keep going.

This is why using a pocket pussy isn’t exactly the most self-serving thing you can do.

You can tell your girlfriend that if she ever sees it on your bed side table.

I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t be ticked off for that reason.

She might even thank you for it.

If you don’t have anyone special in your life just yet, having a couple of pocket pussies can help enhance your fantasies.

Fancy having an imaginary ménage à trois? Make three pocket pussies.

Honestly, this just adds another dimension to your whole masturbation experience.

Bring Your Fantasies To Life

Are you into POV porn? This is a way to step that up.

I don’t know about you, but I personally find that it takes away from the fantasy when I just use my hand.

It’s helpful to have a hands-free experience, and we’ll get to that later in this list.

If you do have a partner, this is just another one those things you can bring into the bedroom.

Sex toys aren’t just made for solo play, you can also incorporate them into your sex life.

Another orifice can’t hurt or you maybe you guys just want to play around without having vaginal or anal sex.

Whatever the reason may be, this is the perfect tool to use when things are getting a little stale under the sheets.

Initial instructions

Hold your horses.

Before we get into making you a pocket pussy (or a couple), we have to get prep out of the way.

Lube up

Naturally, your pocket pussy will not be able to get wet just like a real vagina would.

I can’t stress this enough. You need to use some kind of lubrication.

First of all, it makes the whole experience feel good. That’s the obvious bit.

But not only will this easily let you slip your junk in and out of your pocket pussy, it will make a world of difference when it comes to safety.

By using lube, you don’t have to worry about the effects of too much friction.

The skin of your penis is very delicate.

You don’t want to get any scrapes or cuts down there.

That’s the easiest way to get an infection, burns and rashes.

Warm it up

If you’re going for something more on the realistic side, then it’s best to heat things up.

Thrusting yourself into something cold and slimy is going to be weird. No one’s going to enjoy feeling like that.

There are many ways you can warm up your pocket pussies, and here they are.

  1. You might not even have to warm up the thing itself, you could just use a warming lube.
  2. Wrap it in an electric warming blanket.
  3. Wrap it in a towel that has been soaked in hot water or if water won’t compromise the build of your pocket pussy (it doesn’t have tape or glue), take it to your tub with you as you enjoy a warm bath.
  4.  You can microwave your pocket pussy, but make sure you follow the simple microwave rules. No metals and nothing very wet. How the microwave works is that it heats up liquid molecules. That’s why microwaving something very dry, like a chip, won’t heat it up as much as something more dense.
  5. Leave it beside a window where it get direct sunlight, right next to your boiler or on top a heater.

Now that’s out of the way, let’s get into some ways you can construct your own pocket pussy and start having some fun.

Veg out

This is old school.

Guys have been sticking it into fruits and vegetables for centuries, even cooked food, for that matter.

Remember that classic scene from American Pie?

Well, this is a very simple option and it doesn’t take much materials at all.

Stuff you need:

1. A long vegetable that your penis will fit into like a zucchini, eggplant or cucumber. Anything will do as long as it’s straight.

2. A condom

3. A couple of rubber bands

4. A roll of duct tape

5. A sharp knife

Right. Got everything you need?

First, cut the end of your vegetable.

This is where you’re going to insert your penis.

Next, cut it in half, lengthwise.

Remove the seeds.

You’re essentially making a case for your penis.

Don’t forget to leave some flesh so it’s not all skin.

You don’t want the vegetable to lose its sturdiness.

Now, wear your condom and put your penis on one of the halves of the vegetable.

Make sure it fits snugly in there.

Make some adjustments if needed.
If you’re happy with the fit, close her on up and put the other half on top.

Your penis should be enclosed by both sides now.
Next, use the rubber bands to create some tension.

When it’s tight enough to your liking, set it by wrapping the whole thing in duct tape.

Slide yourself out, making sure that you’re holding the rim of the condom so you won’t lose it inside.

Fold it over the opening and fasten it with more tape or rubber bands.
Then you’re good to go.

Pour some lube in there and slide your penis in.

Shiver me Pringles

This is my favorite and you’ll like this one if you’re on the longer side.

And if you ask me, this takes recycling to a whole other level.

You’ll never look at a can of Pringles the same way again.

Stuff you need:
1. An empty tube of Pringles
2. Two sponges (the kind that doesn’t have the scouring pad)
3. A roll of duct tape
4. A medium to large latex glove
5. A sharp knife

Ready?

First, take off the lid.

Easy as pie.

Next, put one sponge on flat surface, place the glove on top of that, and put the other sponge on top.

You should have a glove sandwich by now.

After that, pull the opening where you hand is supposed to go so that it hangs off in between the sponges.

Shove the whole thing inside the Pringles tube.

Make sure that are no gaps and the sponges fill the whole opening out.

Next, take the cuff of the glove and spread it apart.

Carefully pull it back over the opening of the Pringles tube.

You want to make sure that everything is covered at this point.

You won’t be able to see the sponge anymore if you’ve done it correctly.

All you’ll see is a tight slit where the two sponges meet.

For some weight, you can fill the can with some rice or beans before you do all this.

That is if you want something with a little heft to it.

The Towel Method

This is perfect if you’re new to this and you don’t have a ton of materials available or the time to spare.

Stuff you need:
1. A hand towel
2. A medium to large latex glove
3. A belt or rubber bands

Pretty simple, right?

The first thing you need to do is fold the towel two times.

Rest the glove on top of the towel with the opening hanging off to the side.

This is important.

You don’t want to lose the cuff in there.

Now, roll it around the glove very carefully.

Make sure it’s nice and tight, so it will feel like you’re actually fucking something when it’s done.

When you’ve got the tightness that you want down, fasten it with a belt or some rubber bands to keep it from unfolding.

Add more rubber bands if you want it to be even tighter.

Peel back the cuff of the glove back so that it hides the edge of the towel.

And you’re done.

Lube it up and go to town.

Silicone Pocket Pussy

This is for the guys who are little handier, have the patience to wait, and looking to make something less disposable.
Stuff you need:
1. A candle that is bigger than your penis in both length and girth
2. A marker
3. A sharp knife
4. Silicone sealant (You can find this in any hardware store and it’s very cheap. Cheaper than a Fleshlight, that’s for sure.)

First, put your penis against the candle and draw around it with the marker.

Done? Put your penis away.

Next, draw inside the shape and trace one that is 25% smaller than your actual penis.

Now, here comes the precarious part.

Carve off the excess wax.

Start off by cutting lengthwise until you get a nice rectangular block.

What you’re making is a slightly smaller replica or your penis, so smooth it out and make it as penis-like as possible.

You want it a little smaller to get that tightness.
When you’re happy with the “dildo,” it’s time to coat it with the silicone sealant.

You want it to be a little thick, so go for about half an inch.

Then all you have to do is wait a couple of weeks (yes, weeks. I told you that you’d need patience for this!) until the silicone is completely set.

Slide out the candle and you’re done.

If it yields a product that you’re happy with, you might want to keep the candle so you can reuse it for another pocket pussy.

If not, then chuck it and try your hand at it again.

This might need some trial and error if you’re not that skilled.

BDSM Collars: A Complete Guide

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bdsm collars: everything you ned to know

The topic of collaring comes up quite a bit in the online BDSM community and many people have different ideas and understandings of how collaring works and the importance behind it.

Some take it very lackadaisically while others may take it as seriously as an engagement or wedding.

If you have been in this community for a while, you have probably talked about collaring and maybe been collared yourself in the past!

If you are new, you might be wondering about what all the hubbub is about!

So, today I will be talking about collars – what different collars exist, when and how they are used, and of course why.

For some, this may be new information to take in.

For others, this may just be a brief refresher.

Regardless, I hope you find it helpful!

Types of Collars

bdsm collar types

Collaring has a very rich and deep history, stemming all the way back to the leather community with regards to modern day BDSM, and even further back with regards to slave culture in general.

To many in a D/s relationship, the use of a collar is ceremonial and holds a great deal of significance and symbolism – showing the progression of a D/s relationship as time goes by and the bond between Dominant and submissive changes and grows.

To others, it may just be a tool to denote playtime.

Let’s start with the basics.

The Play Collar

A play collar is often also called a kitten collar and one you will often find associated with pet play, though that is not its only use.

It is considered to be a temporary and informal collar, often used in dungeons to show that the submissive wearing it belongs to a Dom for the duration of their scene, or is used in play that calls for a collar – pet play, slave and Master roleplay.

The point is, after the scene is done, the collar comes off.

It’s significance ends there.

Outside of the dungeon, it is usually put on at the beginning of play and removed at the end of the scene and aids in the submissive achieving a deeper and ore involved subspace.

They are usually made of leather or ribbon and can be easily fastened and unfastened.

Day Collar

day collar

A day collar is a discrete collar that is made to be worn so that the submissive can still wear a collar to signify their relationship status and possible ownership in public.

It is a safe and comfortable form of expression without being glaringly obvious.

Day collars tend to have a more secretive way of locking or just use a normal lobster clasp.

Some look like dainty, elegant necklaces while others might involve a small hidden lock or be made of sturdier hardware.

The main function is to be able to continue to wear a collar for the submissive and the Dominant to recognize while the rest of the world may not.

In some D/s expressions, though, especially in more strict Master and slave dynamics, if someone has received a full slave collar, it is never to be removed or replaced, even by a day collar for discretion.

Day collars can be made of just about anything

It is common to see ones maid of a light chain and incorporating the Ring of O in the design.

Protection Collar

While this collar does not mean ownership of a submissive, it is still to be recognized and respected.

This collar is given to a submissive by a Dominant who acts as a Dominant in a protective role.

The Dominant is not to be considered their Master or owner, however it ensures that others know, while the submissive wears this collar, they are not to be approached without permission and will likely be properly vetted by the Dominant who holds the collar.

This dynamic is one where the Dominant is looking out for the submissive and would vet other doms before allowing pursuit of the submissive.

Collar of Consideration

This collar is given when a relationship moves into something more serious than just casual play.

It is akin to serious dating in the vanilla world.

It is usually leather and can be removed for public appearances but is otherwise always to be worn when in the presence of the Dominant.

In this stage, the Dom and the submissive are learning more about each other, delving more deeply into their D/s relationship and how they express themselves, learning what the other needs from them in order for them to fulfill their respective duties sufficiently.

Consideration can be revoked if rules are broken or if either party is not getting what is agreed upon from their relationship.

The Training Collar

Not to be confused with a training collar specifically used for pet play, this level is considered a step up and would be akin to a promise or engagement ring in the vanilla world.

At this point there is often a contract or agreement as to what is expected of both parties.

This is the time when the submissive is being trained to be of service to their Dominant, which in turn means more structure and responsibility in the relationship for all parties involved.

These collars will not be removed just from a simple misstep.

It may be a leather collar or a metal collar that can be removed, again, when necessary (showers, medical emergencies, certain social and public events, etc), but should always be worn in the presence of the Dominant.

 

Slave/Formal Collar

slave formal collar

This collar is used when both patties are ready to take their relationship to the final level.

It exemplifies complete commitment and ownership and submission in a D/s relationship and is akin to a wedding ring.

Often the couple will have a collaring ceremony during which the collar is given, placed, and a renewable contract is signed.

This is a metal collar that is never to be removed, save for in a medical emergency.

It shows that the submissive has given everything of themselves over to their Dominant and trusts them to guide them through life.

It also shows that the Dominant is there to guide them through life, to love and support them and their growth.

This does not mean there is no autonomy in the relationship.

It does mean, however, that the submissive is fully owned, happy and willing to serve, and that the Dominant has taken the responsibility of lifting you up through your service.

 

Collaring in Online Communities

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With BDSM becoming more prevalent in mainstream communities, it is no wonder that there are now plenty of ways to meet Dominants and submissives online – whether in specific chat rooms or Reddits geared towards the topic of BDSM, image sites like Tumblr, roleplay sites like Elliquiy and F-List, or dating, meeting and community sites like Fetlife.

BDSM has extended its reach.

However, you may find in online D/s communities and relationships that you have a higher concentration of new entrants into the lifestyle, or those who are learned but toxic, and you may see a collar is quickly given and just as quickly removed.

The term given for this is the “Velcro Collar”.

It is meant to be a negative term and demeaning, though I believe it is also meant to increase awareness and understanding amongst those who engage in online D/s relationships that collaring is not something meant to be taken lightly; that D/s relationships require commitment, maturity and mutual respect.

 

Looking for a Collar?

BDSM Collar Shop

A relative newcomer on the scene, this collar shop has a pretty good selection of BDSM Collars, nipple clamps, and BDSM restraints (check them out here)

They ship directly from the supplier, which keeps their price low, but be prepared to wait 1-3 weeks for your collar to arrive.

That being said, there are some great bargains to be had, and they have custom collars available as well!

Etsy

Etsy is a great place in general to search for BDSM gear – though the price tag can be a bit steep as is expected with handmade custom niche items.

A quick search on Etsy can bring up a whole range of bespoke shops that can make you something unique, regardless of the level or type of collar.

The best ways to narrow your search are to know what you are looking for – type of collar, materials, etc. and have an idea of the money you want to spend.

Take a look around. You are bound to find something you will like!

 

Melted Kitten Creations

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(Image credit: Melted Kitten Creations on Instagram)

This shop specializes in very intricate and ornate kitten play/pet play collars.

They are sturdy enough to withstand playtime and a bit of tugging, but not meant to be roughly handled as they are a little more delicate.

Depending on how stubborn the pet or how rigorous the training and play, they might not be for you.

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(Image credit to Melted Kitten Creations on Instagram)

They have regular releases that are announced on Instagram and often open up custom slots for people to purchase.

They use Etsy as their selling platform.

The prices range from $40 USD and go up from there depending on the hardware used.

 

Restrained Grace

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(On the left, DDLG Pacifier Charm Collar – $55 USD. On the right, Kitten Play Charm Collar – $55 USD. Image credit to Restrained Grace.)

Home of some of the most beautiful and elegant play and day collars I have seen, Restrained Grace’s designs are simple but beautiful, fulfilling both form and function.

They use leather, metal chain and pearls to create stunning collars that can be used in a variety of BDSM sub genres – including pet play, DDLG, and slave dynamics.

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(Lockable Lavender Ring of O Pearl Day Collar – $110 USD. Image credit to Restrained Grace.)

The shop has both an Instagram and an online store front ( https://www.restrainedgrace.com/collections/new-1 ) that you can peruse and purchase from.

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(Rose Gold Steel Infinity Slave Collar – $75 USD./Image credit to Restrained Grace.)

Their prices are pretty decent and tend to range from $30-$120 USD depending on the materials used.

They also have some promoters on Instagram that provide discount codes you can use to save some money on your purchase.

Over all – they offer a wide range of collars that span multiple levels of commitment and different types of play.

 

Sub-Shop

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(SUB Black Leather Rhinestone Letter Collar – $19.95 USD. Image credit to sub-shop.com )

Sub-Shop is one of the most reliable one-stop bondage gear websites I have encountered.

Shipping times are impeccable and product quality has never let me down.

They have every manner of collar – rubber and PVC O-ring and D-ring collars, metal collars, corset posture collars, collars that are also gags, pet play collars and leash sets, slave collars – the only thing I haven’t seen is ribbon/kitten collars – but everything else seems to be accounted for.

Their prices are also very reasonable with a very wide range from $15 to $100 USD.

 

Amazon

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(Amazon.com – $157.00)

Generally speaking – you can find just about anything on Amazon.

A quick search for “bdsm collars” brought up several options – ranging from metal day collars like the one pictured above, to simpler leather or fake leather collars with O-rings, to collars with lettering and locks.

My advice when dealing with Amazon is always look at how many purchases have been made, the rating the item has receive and whether there are any reviews so you do not end up getting something you didn’t purchase.

Price ranges are the most dynamic on Amazon.

You could find something as cheap as a few dollars or as expensive as a couple hundred, depending on what you are looking for.

Again, however, there seems to be an underrepresentation of kitten play ribbon collars, so id this is what you are looking for, you are better off trying one of the other shops that offers this style of collar.

 

Eternity Collars

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(Limited Edition Titanium Eternity Collar in Radiance Finish – $205 USD.Image credit to Eternity Collars)

Eternity Collars is an online shop that is well known amongst the veterans in the community.

They are the go-to source for eternity collars (aka full slave collars).

They have expanded their product style to include lockable leather collars and discreet day collars, as well.

The collars are finely wrought, with a simple, elegant design, and made from quality leathers and metal

The price tag is certainly more hefty – ranging from $60-$300 USD – but it is well worth it.

These collars are made for commitments that are not to be taken lightly.

In Conclusion…

Regardless of whether your relationship is in person or long distance and online – and regardless of the level of commitment or the type of play – there is a collar for you.

Not everyone’s relationship or their expression of it looks the same – it is important to recognize and know the difference between individuality and abuse.

Always remember that a collar is what you make it and keep in mind the weight of importance and respect behind the symbol.

 

The Ultimate Lube Guide For Sex And Masturbation

The Ultimate Lube Guide For Sex And Masturbation

 Creating The Slippery Situations You Want To Get Into

The majority of bad sexual encounters are mainly because things didn’t get wet enough.

There is nothing sadder than a dry hand job and, honestly, a dry vagina borders on questionable.

Similarly, lubrication is just as important when you’re rubbing or stroking one out.

This is why a big bottle of Jergens and a box of Kleenex is a staple on any guy’s bedside table.

The main reason why wetter is better is because you want to avoid chaffing.

The sexual organs are the most sensitive parts of the body and you want to make sure that everything is slippery and comfortable down there to get the most pleasure out of your more intimate times.

You can prevent all sorts of disasters from happening just by taking the easy step of adding lubrication before you get right down to business.
Let’s cover the basics first. Why is it important to use and get the right lube?

If we’re going to be totally honest here, everything isn’t always ideal when you want to get it on.

Sometimes, we need that extra help to get things going.

Here are the most usual situations where a tube of lube would definitely come in handy.

Reasons to use lube

Good old fashioned vaginal sex

Sometimes, even though she’s in the mood, her body says otherwise.

Don’t take it against your girlfriend.

How wet she gets down there doesn’t always correspond to how turned on she is.

Reasons to use lube
Reasons to use lube

In reality, the vagina’s natural lubrication depends a lot on her ovulation cycle.

I’m sure you’ve noticed before that there are certain times of the month when she’s wetter than usual, right?

The consistency of her juices could also vary.

It could get a little thick when she’s closer to her period.

The fact of the matter is, there are plenty of reasons why she could be dry from time to time and most of it has nothing to do with you.

She could be more stressed out than usual or she’s on antidepressants or it could be as simple as using regular bath soap down there.

Anyway, there is no shame in reaching for a bottle of lube when you want to fool around and things aren’t exactly going well down there.

And honestly, she’ll probably appreciate it more than you do.

Straight dudes will never know the discomfort of having something hard rammed into you when you’re just not ready for it.

At least that’s what my girlfriend says.

The more lubricated you both are, the better sex you’ll have and the more frequently it’ll probably happen too.

Knocking on the backdoor

The anal canal has no natural lubrication.

It’s not going to wet back there the way a vagina can.

And even though sticking things into the back door has been one of man’s longstanding kinks, the fact of the matter is, things aren’t supposed to go in your butt.

Before you start enjoying this activity (because both parties certainly can), it’s always going to be uncomfortable at least for the first few times.

You have to take your time and explore to get used to the sensation and learn how to enjoy it.

As a general rule, ass play should always come hand-in-hand with lubricants.

Trying to put things in there, even something as small as a finger or a prostate toy, will always be rough if you do it dry.

Jacking it

I wish someone would have told me that it’s better to go the natural route when it comes to masturbation the au natural way.

The skin of the penis is very, very delicate.

You don’t want to be putting any harsh chemicals on there that could be found in commercial lotions.

Olive or coconut oils are you best bets.

As you know, these are very good for your skin too.

Talk about dual purpose!

You probably figured out pretty early that self-pleasuring is easier and it feels better if you use some kind of lube.

Toy Joy

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Toyjoy

Whether you’re a guy or a girl, from Fleshlights to dildos, lube is an indispensable accompaniment to any of your favorite sex toys.

Most sex toys are made of medical-grade silicone and won’t pair well with anything other than water-based lubes.

Even though this is kind of a hassle to use because it dries pretty quickly and requires constant reapplication if you’re going at it for a while, this is still better for maintaining the materials of your sex toy.

Some toys allow for oils.

That could feel amazing too.

But I’ve never come across a toy that lubricates itself, so those two always go hand in hand.

Check yourself before you wreck yourself

Using lube can prevent you from getting all sorts of infections.

Now, how exactly do those two correlate?

Without proper lubrication, the friction will compromise your skin.

This is especially dangerous because you’re thrusting in a delicate area.

This will irritate your skin, open it up and make you more prone to contracting nasty diseases.

In addition to that, if you’re one of the more careful ones (and I do applaud you for that), it’s important to know that only water-based lubes are compatible with condoms.

Yes, most condoms come are lubed right out of the packet, but if you’re going to be at it for the whole night, you’re going to need more of that wet stuff.

Using any other kind of lubrication will compromise the materials of the condom, making it ineffective.

So whether you’re trying to avoid HIV or unexpectedly having to pay for child support, it is always better to be safe than sorry.

Going sensual

When you think massage, your mind automatically goes to sensual oils and lotions.

While this is all well and good, did you know that silicone-based lube is a way better alternative?

It makes for easier clean up and won’t leave you feeling like you’ve dipped yourself in a vat of lard.

There are also warming lubes that will add to relaxation and pain relief.

The best lube to use in any situation

Lube is not as basic anymore as you would think.

There are all sorts of different options available on the market right now that you can choose from and pair with a specific activity.

Kinds of lube

First, let’s explore what kinds of lubes there are so we can figure out what they can be good for.

Oil-based lubes

Oil lubes are usually more natural, so they’re less likely to contain harmful chemicals and preservatives.

Out of everything, I personally think this feels the best.

But it does have it drawbacks.

Oil-based lubes
Oil-based lubes

As I mentioned above, condoms, which are primarily made of latex, really don’t go together.

It weakens it and creates tiny holes that could allow your little guys to swim through.

It’s also important to note that oil-based lubes pose a higher risk for getting infections.

It’s thicker and it’s a bacteria magnet, so clean up is a must.

You should be concerned about getting this on your sheets too.

Oil stains are hard to remove.

Silicone-based lubes

Silicone-based lubes
Silicone-based lubes

Silicone-based lubes hardly have any water in them.

The best thing about silicone is that it’s hypoallergenic, so you don’t have to worry about breaking into hives when you use this one.

And since silicone is not absorbed by the skin, it just rests on the surface and they last longer, so there would be no need to keep reapplying it over and over again.

 

Water-based lube

This is safest off all lubes, but it dries significantly quicker than the rest.

They’re also not as slippery.

Think hand sanitizer gel.

The upside is that they’re the cheapest way to go and are the easiest to find and they’re compatible with virtually any sex toy.

You would think that water would be the best lubricant, but you would know that that’s not true if you’ve ever had sex in a pool.

Natural lube

Natural lube
Natural lube

If you want to go natural, there are several options that are available.

But remember, this type of lube is harder to find and generally more expensive.

They are specialty potions by “green” stores and those who advocate going organic.

Natural lubes more often than not plant-based like aloe gel, so this is good news for all you vegans out there.

There has also been a rise in sales for coconut oil.

The oil from this tropical fruit can do miracles for just about any part of your body from your hair to your metabolism.

And I have to say, it feels damn good too.

Petroleum-based lubes

Petroleum-based lubes
Petroleum-based lubes

This is better for him than it is for her.

Women should avoid this one because it changes the delicate pH of the vagina and that’s just yeast infection waiting to happen.

For guys, this is okay if you’re just using your hand to jerk off.

There’s always of jar of petroleum jelly in everyone’s bathroom cabinet.

Its consistency is pretty thick so a little goes a long way.

Hybrid lubes

If you can’t pick from these options, you can easily just get a combination of what you like.

Maybe you like the feeling of a water-based lube and the lasting quality of the silicone one.

These would be great to use with a partner, not so much with sex toys.

The best of the best

Now that the basics are out of the way, let’s get into the best options for every situation where you might need to lube up.

The best water-based lubricant

 Shibari Premium Personal Lubricant
Shibari Premium Personal Lubricant

The problem with water-lube is that it usually doesn’t feel all that good.

The reason why they’re so popular is because they are the safest and the easiest to find.

Just go to a 7-eleven and there’s probably one or two brands right next to the condoms.

I’ve tested a lot of water-based lubes and found the best one.

It’s called the Shibari Premium Personal Lubricant. It’s a bit on the pricey side at $1.20 per ounce on Amazon, but trust me, it’s worth it.

If you go for the bigger size, you can save a lot more money and it comes in an easy-pump bottle, which is great because it’s more convenient.

The Shibari is my favorite because it doesn’t feel like any other water-based lubricant.

It’s silky and leaves the skin soft.

Rubbing dries out water-based lubes pretty quickly.

This is why you have to constantly reapply it.

Well, with the Shibari, it’s not necessary to do that as often.

This perfect for vaginal sex, playing with sex toys and it’s condom-safe.

The best oil-based lube

Coconu Best Lube
Coconu Best Lube

My favorite oil-based lube is the Coconu.

It’s vegan and it’s even edible.

It smells amazing, too, and it always brings back memories from my trip to Bali for some reason.

If you really want to go natural, jojoba oil is a good alternative as far as pure formulas go.

What’s great about jojoba oil is that is has antibacterial properties.

To practice safe anal sex, you want to go with something thick and slick, so oil-based is the best choice because it doesn’t dry as quickly.

The best silicone-based lube

Swiss Navy Premium
Swiss Navy Premium

Silicone-based lubes are the most expensive and you’ll have better luck finding them online than in actual stores.

That being said, it’s also the most long-lasting, which means you’re not going to need much of it at a time.

Just one or two pumps of this stuff and this will last you a while.

My favorite silicone-based lube is the Swiss Navy Premium.

It works just as well as any fancier brands, but it doesn’t cost as much.

The best lube for normal sex

The key thing here is to remember that you don’t want to mess with her vaginal pH, so oil-based lubes are a no-no right off the bat.

If you don’t keep this in mind, this makes her more likable to get infections.

HerSolution Gel
HerSolution Gel

We like to use HerSolution Gel.

The reason we like this so much is that not only is it water-based and won’t compromise the balance of her pH, it’s also a libido enhancer too.

I like to rub this all over her clitoris and pussy lips and she swears it’s a lot easier for her to achieve an orgasm with this product.

Apparently, there is a stimulant called L-Arganine that’s in this special blend that induces blood flow to area, making it more sensitive.

This is a great addition to foreplay.

You’re welcome, fellas.

The best desensitizing lube

If anal is something you really want to try and can’t get past the first hump, as it can be quite painful at first, a desensitizing lube could really help you out.

It numbs the area while doing what a normal lube would do.

My girl’s favorite desensitizing lube is the Cleanstream Relax.

Relax Lube
Relax Lube

It’s very effective and does the trick, even though at first, she was reluctant about it.
She told me that she felt no pain at all.

You’ll also find no traces of it after you take a shower.

It doesn’t leave some greasy residue like other desensitizing lube brands.

However, I think it’s important to note that this poses some risks.

If you numb the area, then you don’t really know what’s going down there.

For all you know, you could be doing some serious damage in your anal canal and you would have no idea that it’s even happening.

So keep that in mind if you’re considering this option.

The trick is just to make sure that she’s relaxed and she’s not tense down there.

If you’re planning an epic masturbation session and don’t think you can last that long, this could also be a solution to that.

You don’t want to use a lot of it and you don’t want to use it the entire time, but this could be a great help if you want to take a “break” and don’t exactly want to stop.

The best edible lubes

This is great for oral sex, but it’s more a novelty thing to bring into the bedroom and doesn’t actually have much use after the fact.

For some people, going down on someone just isn’t their favorite thing, so this could be good way to make it a lot more pleasant.

Wicked Aqua Mocha Java
Wicked Aqua Mocha Java

We see a lot of articles on Cosmo encouraging women to bring food into the bedroom.

I’ve never really liked that idea.

It sounds messy and unnecessary.

But if taste is something that you feel you might enjoy, there are so many flavored lubes out there that you can choose from.

My favorite one is a departure from the normal fruity route (because when we think flavored, we think fruit).

It’s called Wicked Aqua Mocha Java.

It’s water-based, so it’s easy to clean and won’t stain your sheets.

It honestly tastes and smells like you’re going down on a delectable mocha cake.

Fun.

The best warming lube

This option is really more for the dudes who are going solo.

I don’t find much use for this when I’m having sex with an actual woman because, given that hopefully you’re doing it with someone who is alive, it’s plenty warm down there to begin with.

KY Warming Jelly
KY Warming Jelly

However, if you’re playing with a toy or some sex doll, you might want to use something like this for the added realism.

This is actually very convenient and allows you to skip having to warm up your sex toy.

You don’t have to do anything else other than just the usual lube application before you go to town on it.

My favorite one is the classic KY Warming Jelly.

It’s a well-known brand and it does the job well.

It’s also compatible with any sex toy out there.

The best lube for sensitive skin

If you already know that your skin could develop some reactions to certain products, it would be smart to test out lubes on other places of your body other than your junk.

Down there is not where you want feel any burning or itching.

Thankfully, there are many hypoallergenic options out there for people whose skin is picky and sensitive.

My favorite brand is the Isabel Fay.

Isabel Fay
Isabel Fay

It’s the highest rated lube for sensitive skin out there and is made of all natural ingredients.

It’s safe for sex toys and condoms too.

I like this one because it hardly smells like anything at all and it is made in US.

That means it has been thoroughly tested in order for it to pass the Health Board.

This is a very safe choice if you’re looking for something that is completely paraben-free.

The best lube for sex toys

The first thing you need to consider is what your sex toy is made of.

By and large, water-based lubes are compatible with all sex toys across the board.

But that doesn’t mean you’re stuck with something water-based if that doesn’t exactly float your boat.

Silicone

For silicone toys, you’re pretty much stuck with water-based lubes because silicone essentially melts under any other kind of lube.

It would not be wise to damage something you paid good money for.

Just keep in mind that if it’s made of something soft or something meant to mimic real skin, always go for the water-based option.

Please Gel Lubricant
Please Gel Lubricant

My favorite water-based lube to use with sex toys is the Please Gel Lubricant.

It’s a light gel.

I usually go for that because I find that going with something thicker makes cumming a lot easier for me.

So if I’m playing with, say, a Fleshlight with an insane texture, it’s better for me to go with something with a thinner consistency so the feeling won’t get too intense.

It’s pretty long-lasting too, as far as water-based lubes go, and it will be good for about 15 minutes of pumping before you have to reapply it.

Metal

If you’re into the more kinky stuff like metal toys, you can use pretty much whatever lube you want.

Honestly, metal sex toys are not as intimidating as they are cracked out to be.

We associate BDSM and all that other hardcore stuff with that, but in reality, they’re the most luxurious sex toys around and can be enjoyed by anyone even if you think your sex life is pretty vanilla by most standards.

These are great if you want something that’s versatile (can be used by a guy or girl) and has a little weight to it.

They’re also the easiest to clean.

For our steel butt plugs and metal dildos, we usually use Uberlube.

This is some fancy stuff, but boy, does it feel amazing.

It’s silicone-based and extremely slick.

Like I said before, since it’s silicone-based, you only ever really need to apply it once.

It also comes in a super chic bottle that goes with the whole aesthetic of metal sex toys too.

If it’s that kind of night, we love using this pairing.

Glass

Like metal, you can use whatever lube you want with glass.

Glass sex toys are usually dildos or beads and butt plugs.

If you don’t like the idea of playing with glass (because who does?), I can assure you that the make of these things is very sturdy and you don’t have to worry about any sort of breakage.

The great thing about glass is that it’s non-porous.

That means it won’t absorb anything you put on it.

So you could go oil-based or even a hybrid lube.

My girlfriend’s favorite lube for her glass sex toys is the Sliquid Naturals Silver Silicone Lubricant.

That’s a mouthful.

Since it’s silicone-based, it’s perfect for ass play and for massages.

And because we like to live on the edge and use this in the shower, it’s not water-soluble, so it doesn’t wash off under running water.

Plastic

Plastic sex toys are usually dolls.

Yes, there are some plastic portable sex toys out there, but they’re usually knockoffs of the real thing.

I advise you to steer clear away from these products because they’re not made to pass any health standards here in the States.

But if you’re playing a doll or some plastic anal beads (harder plastic is fine), I have to recommend that you stick with something water-based just in case.

I also have to say that it wouldn’t be a good idea to use any kind of hybrid lubes, soI’d take out the Please Gel for this one as well.

The best lube for travelers

 Licx Gel Lube
Licx Gel Lube

If you travel a lot and your sex toys are always packed away in your suitcase, then you’re going to need lube too.

None of us would be down for carrying big bottles of lube around and you can’t have more than 3.4 ounces in your carry-on.

Thankfully, you don’t have to tolerate just the regular, run of the mill, Durex lube in a packet.

I personally use Licx Gel Lube as it comes in very convenient travel-sized sachets.

It’s water-based so it sex toy compatible.

If you’re a bachelor and are looking to get some action over a weekend getaway, this is safe for condoms as well.

Last minute tips and my final word

As a general rule, when you’re looking for the right kind of lube, it’s best to avoid glycerin, propylene glycol, and chlorhexidine gluconate.

I’m sorry to go scientific all of a sudden, but you’ll thank me later for knowing what you shouldn’t put on your junk.

Overall, lube is there for pleasure, but it does have the added benefit of maintaining sexual health as well.

Happy humping!

How To Get The Best Fleshlight Experience

masturbation fleshlight funny image

How To Use A Fleshlight

In this list, we’ll cover the basics and explore some ways you possibly haven’t tried before.

Let’s get to it.

First thing’s first.

masturbation fleshlight funny image

What’s a Fleshlight?

what's a fleshlight image

This ingenious device was specifically designed to add boosted pleasure for men’s masturbation sessions.

It’s essentially a portable pussy (or ass, or mouth) that feels incredibly realistic and sometimes even better than the real thing, depending on your chosen sleeve texture.

The case could be either clear or opaque and it comes in a number of different sizes.

The most important thing to note about this case, aside from the fact that it’s made to look like a flashlight (hence the name) for discretion, is that is has two caps.

The cap in the front uncovers the opening of the Fleshlight and the other cap can be twisted off to adjust the intensity of the suction.

With the staggering amount of sleeves to choose from, you will never get bored.

These sleeves pretty much dictate how good your masturbation experience is going to be.

Some are more challenging that others and fit any fetish you could be into.

As an added bonus, Interactive Life Forms (ILF), the maker of the Fleshlight, have come up with line of units modeled after your favorite porn stars and cam girls for that personal touch.

 

Getting started

So you’ve joined the millions of satisfied Fleshlight owners all over the world and don’t know the first thing about how to use it or maybe you’ve been using it for quite some time and have run out of ideas on how to mix things up.

Well, don’t worry. I’ve got you covered.

Let’s say you’ve just taken your Fleshlight out of its packaging.

fleshlight go packaging

The first thing you need to do is remove the cardboard tube wedged inside the sleeve.

Don’t get too excited and stick your junk in there right away.

That’s an accident waiting to happen.

Now, with that out of the way, let’s get into prep.

 

Warm up the sleeve

warm up sleeve

If you’re going for a more realistic feel, then you’re going to want to warm up your sleeve to mimic the actual body temperature.

This isn’t really necessary and you don’t have to do it if you don’t feel like it, as the Fleshlight will likely warm up on its own as you use it.

That’s just how friction works.

But if you want to feel the warmth right off the bat, there are a number of ways you can do this.

This is especially good during those cold and lonely winter months when all you want to do is down a couple glasses of bourbon and stick your penis into something warm and comforting.

Sounds like a good time.

The sleeve warmer

fleshlight sleeve warmer

ILF has come up with their very own patented sleeve warmer as a Fleshlight accessory.

It is lightweight, sleek and just as portable as its counterpart.

What’s cool about it is that it can be charged via USB cable, so you can hook it up to your laptop and never have to go through the hassle of buying batteries for it.

There is not much to be said about the device itself because it’s really just rod attached to a sturdy base and it heats up.

There is not much to it, but it makes a world of difference.

You just slide your sleeve down onto the rod and it shouldn’t take more than five minutes for the warmer to make it nice and comfy.

But how warm are we talking here?

It can go up to 90 to 100 degrees Fahrenheit within five minutes, just the right temperature to make it feel like it’s a body.

According to the manual, it can reach up to 135 degrees, which I’m guessing is what it would feel like to have sex with someone with someone who has a high fever.

it's hot temperature

If that’s what you’re into, then whatever floats your boat.

That’s personally a little too warm for me, but it’s all about preference here.

Don’t be alarmed.

It’s never going to feel like your penis is on fire and it’s a definitely a step up from thrusting into something cold and slick.

That sensation reminds me a little too much of my more experimental days when I would masturbate with hollowed-out fruit and tube socks.

 

The old-fashioned way

fleshlight faucet heating

What ILF has always suggested even way before they came up with their warmer is that you soak the sleeve in warm water anywhere from 10 to 15 minutes.

This has always done the trick, but it can be a bit messy and it takes considerably longer.

Take note: DO NOT submerge your sleeve in boiling water or pop it in the microwave.

This will most definitely damage it and that’s about 80 bucks down the drain.

 

Bundle of joy

wrap up dog blanket

This was my personal favorite before getting the sleeve warmer.

I would wrap my sleeve in a blanket or towel and put it on my radiator for a few minutes.

This was great because I didn’t want it to get wet except with lube and when I’m cleaning it out with water.

Just always remember to wrap it something before you do this.

Putting it on a heater directly will also damage it.

If you’ve got one of those electrical warming blankets or a heating pad, those can be good too.

 

Lube up

always time for lubricant

This is very, very important.

You never want to skip this step if you want to avoid a nasty case of chafing.

Because of the Fleshlight’s secret patented combination of rubber polymers, they advise that you should only use water-based lubes.

This is a simple enough instruction to follow, to assure that your sleeve maintains its freshness and integrity.

Again, this is all about preference.

You might want to play around with different kinds of lube to get best masturbation experience.

You could experiment with thin, thick, warming or cooling lubricants.

I personally like to switch it up from time to time because I don’t want the same experience every single time I pleasure myself.

It also adds to the realism bit because I noticed that girls don’t exactly get wet the same way.

This is just a step that you should never be skipped because it protects your junk, so you can be sure that you won’t feel any kind of pain, discomfort or, worse, infections.

 

What’s your style?

Here is where we can get creative.

Men have always been imaginative when it comes to their masturbation techniques from humping sculptures to couch cushions.

That certainly doesn’t end with the Fleshlight.

Here is where you can experiment with different positions and play out your favorite fantasies.

If you can picture it, you can most likely do it.

 

Going old school

fallon masturbation

The Fleshlight is meant as a masturbation aid, so of course the mind automatically goes to just using it with your hand.

Even though this is the most rudimentary way of using it, this is always going to better than just jacking it with your bare hand.

Just find the most comfortable position, maybe even put on right porn clip and you’re good to go.

You can do this on your back or hold it firmly in front of you so you can slide yourself in.

This is great if you want to have full control of how it’s angled.

If you have a willing wife or girlfriend, it’s even better if someone else does this for you.

A trick up your sleeve

fleshlight just sleeve stoya

If the previous method has gotten old for you, one way to step it up is by losing the case and playing with just the sleeve.

You will lose the suction feature because it’s the case that does that, but you’ll be able to adjust the pressure manually by squeezing your sleeve in the right spots.

If you want to get the most out of your chosen texture, it’s good to explore it this way.

Now, ILF came up with their own “renewing powder,” which is actually just pure cornstarch.

It’s recommended that you powder your sleeve every once in a while to maintain the softness and silky texture it had right out of the box.

The reason I bring this up is because it’s advisable to dust your sleeve slightly before you use it to avoid slippage.

If you’re average sized or maybe even a little smaller, then you won’t get the full use of out the diverse range of textures ILF has come up with.

Sometimes, they reserve the really intense configurations for the more endowed and put these crazy textures right at the very end of the sleeve, which you’re not going to get to reach if you’re under 7 inches.

Well, this is perfect workaround to that.

Simply enter your sleeve from the other end to get in on the action.

You could switch up with textures for a more varied experience.

 

If you like to watch

fleshlight launchpad

ILF released the LaunchPAD and it delighted users everywhere because it took into account the obvious: if you’re using the Fleshlight, then you’re most likely watching porn.

It’s a rubber case that fits a 3rd or 4th generation iPad with Velcro straps at the base to fasten and secure your Fleshlight.

Since it’s made of rubber, it’s very easy to grip.

This is perfect for POV videos because this will better immerse you in the fantasy.

 

If you’re in a long distance relationship

onxy pearl

One of the major drawbacks of, say, being halfway across the world from your loved one is that you’re not going to get any action.

But with the recent innovations, cybersex has become a thing that a lot of couples resort to in order to maintain their intimacy.

The LaunchPAD will work for some good old fashioned Skype sex, but if you want to take it to the next level, Kiiroo has partnered with Fleshlight to create the Onyx and the Pearl.

All you need is a reliable internet connection and you can sync these two devices up to provide real time stimulation for both parties.

The amazing part about this setup is that anything one of you does, the other can feel. So if she takes in the Pearl in her pussy, your Onyx will tighten.

This is undeniably better than just having phone sex and playing with yourself with.

Knowing that it’s a shared experienced helps to reestablish the connection with your special someone.

 

If you want to go hands-free

Sometimes, in order to really get into the fantasy, you have to “forget” that you’re jerking yourself off.

The same concept applies to watching movies.

You know that what you’re watching is made up, but your brain automatically suspends your belief.

This way, you’ll be able to relate to the characters and be interested in the plot as if it was real.

Something like this can be achieved if you take your hands out of the equation.

Here are some ways you can have a totally hands-free experience.

These are great ways to practice if you want to incorporate your Fleshlight into your sex life with a partner because it frees up your hands to do other naughty things.

 

On a mission mount by Liberator

fleshlight liberator

I know it’s intimidating to get a piece of furniture that is specifically designed for masturbation, but you have the cash to spare, this is a great addition to any bedroom.

It’s pretty sizable, but it’s very light as it’s made with very firm foam.

The one end is slanted and there is a hole.

This is where your Fleshlight is meant to go into.

It fits very snugly in there and you don’t have to worry about it falling out.

Actually, it takes some force to get it in there.

The angle pretty much makes it feel like you’re having sex in the missionary position.

The good thing about this mount is that it’s extremely comfortable.

You can rest your elbows in the front and pump away.

To use it, all you have to do is position yourself on top of the mount.

Its width is only 9 inches, so it should fit nicely between your legs.

Of course at this point, it should be all lubed up.

You should be able to easily slide yourself in.
Now, you can imagine yourself in all sorts of scenarios.

You could use a mouth orifice paired with a texture that’s meant to simulate a blowjob and pretend that you’re going to town on someone’s face.

If you get bored with this, you can prop it on its side, spoon it and enter from the side.
Because it’s made of faux leather, cleanup is a breeze.

All you need is some all-purpose surface cleaner and a cloth to take care of your messes.

But perhaps the best thing about having one of these is that you can play out that threesome you’ve always wanted.

This only goes to show that using a Fleshlight could not only be a solo activity, but it could spice things up with a willing partner.

 

The shower mount

fleshlight shower mount

This mount will stick onto any smooth surface, preferably tiles.

That’s why they marketed this for some shower fun.

You can also even mount this on glass if you want to stick it onto your shower door.

It’s easy to adjust the angle, so you can get in any safe and comfortable position that you’d like.

Just like with regular shower sex, it can be quite the balancing act.

You have to careful not to slip, so non-slip mats and grips will help a lot.

The most important thing to remember when using your Fleshlight in the shower, make sure you still use water-based lube.

The SuperSkin (the amazing material the Fleshlight sleeves are made of) don’t do well with anything else.

I realize that since you’re going to be in a wet environment, you’d think oil would be the perfect lubrication, but this is really not a good idea.

It will ruin your sleeve.

DO NOT use soap. Your penis will not be happy about it either.

So stick to something water-based even though you’ll probably have to use a lot of it.

The Launch

fleshlight launch stamina pack

This is another collaboration with Kiiroo and probably my favorite Fleshlight accessory.

You would think that this one is for the lazy, but it requires quite a bit of prep.

First, you have to make sure that the device is fully charged and you might want to have a lineup of raunchy videos on Pornhub ready.

Setting up the device itself is pretty simple.

Just attach your Fleshlight by doing a twisting clockwise motion and wait until you hear a nice little click.

That means you’re good to go.

Lube it up and slide on in.

Here is the fun part.

With the Launch, there are two modes: manual and interactive.

If you want to have full control, then go the manual route.

This allows you to set how fast and how long the strokes are.

The controls are intuitive and makes for a very relaxed experience.

I have got to tell you that this thing is a beast. Because it’s a machine, it’ll never tire (that is, until its battery runs out).

The interactive mode, on the other hand, takes the porn-watching experience to the next level.

Pornhub collated their own special content specifically for this device, so you won’t have to worry about running out of new material.

What’s cool about this is that the movement of the Launch is synced very accurately with these videos.

Whatever is happening in the video, you will feel in real life perfectly timed along with it.

Taking it a step further, this device is also VR ready.

I don’t know about you, but when I first heard about this device, I thought we’d arrived in the future.

Use things you have in the house

It doesn’t matter if you can’t afford these Fleshlights accessories just yet.

You can use things that are already lying around in your home.

Another use for your bed

bed party hard

This is one of the sturdier options.

All you have to do is lift your mattress up slightly and wedge your Fleshlight in between that and the box spring or mattress base.

Kneel in front of your bed and thrust in and out to your heart’s content.

This is perfect for replicating doggy-style sex.

And since your bed is a heavy piece of furniture, you don’t have to worry about your Fleshlight going askew.

You can plow the living daylight out it and it will stay put.

Another great thing about this method is that you can put your laptop, tablet, magazine or whatever it is you’re into right in front of you for easy access.

The pillow, towel and couch cushion method

pillow method

An even simpler way to use your Fleshlight is to just stick it in between two pillows and fasten them together with a belt to secure your setup.

This is great if you want to try all sorts of positions, particularly the cowgirl.

Just hug the pillows while on your back and thrust upwards.

You can also wrap a bath towel around it for some height (the angle is way too low if you’re just going to set it on the bed).

This doesn’t take any time at all.

This one is a classic: stick it in between couch cushions.

That is if you have the luxury of being able to masturbate in your living room without having to worry if someone is going to walk in on you.

On your desk

duct tape

The only thing you will need for this is some heavy duty duct tape.

Just secure your Fleshlight in place and be careful not to get cum on your keyboard.

The advantage to this is that your computer is probably on your desk, right?

You can watch your favorite NSFW videos as you use it.

If you think this is lame and you’re pretty handy anyway, take a trip to the hardware store or look around on Amazon and buy a durable clamp.

After this, you can pretty much clamp it onto anything else.

Take your penis for a walk

shoes walking gif

This is as straightforward as it can get.

Just grab any shoe, unlace it and shove your Fleshlight in there.

Tighten the laces to secure it place, lube up, and you’re good to go.

Since the shoe is planted on the floor, this can take a lot of thrusting.

As far as angles go, this is what feels most like having sex in the missionary position.

Honestly, this can be quite the workout, but I’m sure we can all agree that the payoff is worth it.

Get someone else to do it for you

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If you can’t be bothered to do it yourself and if you’re lucky enough to have a willing partner, then get him/her to do it for you.

When most people think about the Fleshlight, they automatically think that it’s a solo activity.

The truth is, this is just another one of those sex toys that you can bring into your bedroom to spice up your sex life with a partner.

Trust me, your partner will appreciate it because he/she will feel included in your fantasy.

This might just seem like an excuse to lay back and watch, but experimenting in the bedroom reinforces intimacy and brings the two (or more) of you closer.

This is also a chance to safely play out your ménage à trois fantasies.

The portable pussy is a lot less threatening than an actual person.

If you don’t have anyone special in your life just yet, you could line up different Fleshlights, perhaps the pussy, ass and mouth options, and imagine the dream threesome you’ve had since you were 17.

Not for the faint-hearted

It sucks when you build up the tolerance for something as pleasurable as an orgasm, but the danger is real and it happens to the best of us.

You can easily retrain yourself and hold off on the masturbation for a while.

The concept is very similar to intermittent fasting.

But if you absolutely have to come as frequently as you do now to de-stress or for whatever reason, these are the options for you.

The super sucker

If you’re all about suction, then this technique is perfect for you.

Lose the case and get a mason jar.

mason jar sucker

You want something big enough to house your sleeve, so it’s most ideal to use a 2-pint jar.

It’s crucial that you use glass, but just be extra careful.

Glass shards and your penis are not a good mix and could lead to a disaster.

Now, the setup. It’s pretty straightforward.

Just put the sleeve in the mason jar as if you were using the normal Fleshlight case.

Find a stiff straw and wedge it in between the rim of the jar and the Fleshlight orifice.

You can then lube it up and put your penis in.

It’s important that your first penetration is done slowly.

Once you’re all the way in, carefully slide the straw out.

This creates pressure inside the jar.

Technique is key here.

If you want something that will suck the living daylight out of you, just pull out as far as you can.

This creates a vacuum.

If it ever gets too intense, just wiggle your finger where the straw used to be to introduce some air inside.

Good vibrations

ILF released their own vibrating option for those who need that extra stimulation.

So if you’re all about sticking to the Fleshlight brand, the Vibro is a cool thing to get.

fleshlight vibro

Out of the box, you are given three vibrating battery operated pellets that you can slip into the sleeve, which create a wonderful vibration that will blow your mind.

Pair it with a challenging sleeve and you might not ever want to leave your bedroom.

If you want to go off-brand, these “bullet” vibrators are available pretty much anywhere.

You can just scour Amazon and find the right size and intensity.

This will definitely save you a couple of dollars too.

The outside of the sleeve have long ridges.

All you have to do is line up the bullets in between these flaps.

You can choose how many bullets you want to put in there depending on how intense you want the vibration to be.

There is a good solution if you think you’re desensitized to a normal Fleshlight and need that extra zing in order to cum.

Conclusion

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These are just some of the more popular ways to use your Fleshlight.

But remember, the only limit is your imagination.

It’s not a surprise that masturbation continues to be a way for men to exercise their creativity.

Just stay safe, stay clean, and have fun!

How To Make Your Own Pocket Pussy

How To Make Your Own Pocket Pussy

An Arts and Crafts Project You Won’t Want To Throw Away

There are so many products out there that are marketed as “Pocket Pussies.”

From the famed Fleshlight to the lesser known fake asses by Cyberskin, these could cost you a pretty penny.

Don’t you worry.

Times are hard and even though you don’t even have the 20 bucks to spare, there are things that are probably lying around in your house that you could use to fashion your very own fake pussy.

Guys have always been known to let their creativity fly when it comes to masturbation.

We take it very seriously, after all.

Why even make a pocket pussy?

Obviously, in order to enhance the masturbation experience, you want something that simulates how the real thing feels.

And you want this thing to be portable and easy to hide because you wouldn’t want your kinks on display for your mom or your girlfriend to see.

Make a pocket pussy
Make a pocket pussy

Overall, it just makes for a more enjoyable time than just using your hand to jack off.

I don’t know if it’s just my age or I do it way too often, but I’ve since lost my liking for masturbating the old fashioned way.

I guess once you’ve experienced something better, it’s hard to justify why you ever want to go back to the most natural way of doing it.

That being said, sometimes a pocket pussy could be a wildly different experience from fucking an actual vagina.

You could experiment with different textures and levels of suction that no pussy, mouth or ass could ever replicate.

This is not say that this is always going to be better than having sex with a person.

That reaches levels that you can’t achieve on your own.

Nothing will ever replace the connection and the intimacy you can have with your partner.

But as far going solo goes, it’s very possible to up your game and break up with your hand once and for all (because, honestly, it’s getting a little weird).

You can find out what texture works best for you.

I also think that it’s important to note that having a pocket pussy has other benefits besides the pleasure that you get from it.

Improve Your Stamina

The most practical one has got to be that it can improve your stamina.

Improve Your Stamina
Improve Your Stamina

Since it feels exponentially better than just using your hand, it can be very challenging to some guys who don’t last long in bed.

I don’t know about you, but I consider it a failure if my girl isn’t fully satisfied after we fool around.

It breaks my heart little, seeing that look of disappointment on her face when I just blew a few pumps a little too soon.
This is a great remedy for that.

With a pocket pussy, you can settle down, relax, and take your time.

Like Going To The Gym, But For Your Cock

The concept is very similar to working out.

The more you exercise a muscle, the more sets of reps you can do.

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure this out.

Just keep going at it until you feel like you’re going to cum, hold off on it, take a break for a few moments, and keep going.

This is why using a pocket pussy isn’t exactly the most self-serving thing you can do.

You can tell your girlfriend that if she ever sees it on your bed side table.

I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t be ticked off for that reason.

She might even thank you for it.

If you don’t have anyone special in your life just yet, having a couple of pocket pussies can help enhance your fantasies.

Fancy having an imaginary ménage à trois? Make three pocket pussies.

Honestly, this just adds another dimension to your whole masturbation experience.

Bring Your Fantasies To Life

Are you into POV porn? This is a way to step that up.

I don’t know about you, but I personally find that it takes away from the fantasy when I just use my hand.

It’s helpful to have a hands-free experience, and we’ll get to that later in this list.

If you do have a partner, this is just another one those things you can bring into the bedroom.

Sex toys aren’t just made for solo play, you can also incorporate them into your sex life.

Another orifice can’t hurt or you maybe you guys just want to play around without having vaginal or anal sex.

Whatever the reason may be, this is the perfect tool to use when things are getting a little stale under the sheets.

Initial instructions

Hold your horses.

Before we get into making you a pocket pussy (or a couple), we have to get prep out of the way.

Lube up

Naturally, your pocket pussy will not be able to get wet just like a real vagina would.

I can’t stress this enough. You need to use some kind of lubrication.

First of all, it makes the whole experience feel good. That’s the obvious bit.

But not only will this easily let you slip your junk in and out of your pocket pussy, it will make a world of difference when it comes to safety.

By using lube, you don’t have to worry about the effects of too much friction.

The skin of your penis is very delicate.

You don’t want to get any scrapes or cuts down there.

That’s the easiest way to get an infection, burns and rashes.

Warm it up

If you’re going for something more on the realistic side, then it’s best to heat things up.

Thrusting yourself into something cold and slimy is going to be weird. No one’s going to enjoy feeling like that.

There are many ways you can warm up your pocket pussies, and here they are.

  1. You might not even have to warm up the thing itself, you could just use a warming lube.
  2. Wrap it in an electric warming blanket.
  3. Wrap it in a towel that has been soaked in hot water or if water won’t compromise the build of your pocket pussy (it doesn’t have tape or glue), take it to your tub with you as you enjoy a warm bath.
  4.  You can microwave your pocket pussy, but make sure you follow the simple microwave rules. No metals and nothing very wet. How the microwave works is that it heats up liquid molecules. That’s why microwaving something very dry, like a chip, won’t heat it up as much as something more dense.
  5. Leave it beside a window where it get direct sunlight, right next to your boiler or on top a heater.

Now that’s out of the way, let’s get into some ways you can construct your own pocket pussy and start having some fun.

Veg out

This is old school.

Guys have been sticking it into fruits and vegetables for centuries, even cooked food, for that matter.

Remember that classic scene from American Pie?

Well, this is a very simple option and it doesn’t take much materials at all.

Stuff you need:

1. A long vegetable that your penis will fit into like a zucchini, eggplant or cucumber. Anything will do as long as it’s straight.

2. A condom

3. A couple of rubber bands

4. A roll of duct tape

5. A sharp knife

Right. Got everything you need?

First, cut the end of your vegetable.

This is where you’re going to insert your penis.

Next, cut it in half, lengthwise.

Remove the seeds.

You’re essentially making a case for your penis.

Don’t forget to leave some flesh so it’s not all skin.

You don’t want the vegetable to lose its sturdiness.

Now, wear your condom and put your penis on one of the halves of the vegetable.

Make sure it fits snugly in there.

Make some adjustments if needed.
If you’re happy with the fit, close her on up and put the other half on top.

Your penis should be enclosed by both sides now.
Next, use the rubber bands to create some tension.

When it’s tight enough to your liking, set it by wrapping the whole thing in duct tape.

Slide yourself out, making sure that you’re holding the rim of the condom so you won’t lose it inside.

Fold it over the opening and fasten it with more tape or rubber bands.
Then you’re good to go.

Pour some lube in there and slide your penis in.

Shiver me Pringles

This is my favorite and you’ll like this one if you’re on the longer side.

And if you ask me, this takes recycling to a whole other level.

You’ll never look at a can of Pringles the same way again.

Stuff you need:
1. An empty tube of Pringles
2. Two sponges (the kind that doesn’t have the scouring pad)
3. A roll of duct tape
4. A medium to large latex glove
5. A sharp knife

Ready?

First, take off the lid.

Easy as pie.

Next, put one sponge on flat surface, place the glove on top of that, and put the other sponge on top.

You should have a glove sandwich by now.

After that, pull the opening where you hand is supposed to go so that it hangs off in between the sponges.

Shove the whole thing inside the Pringles tube.

Make sure that are no gaps and the sponges fill the whole opening out.

Next, take the cuff of the glove and spread it apart.

Carefully pull it back over the opening of the Pringles tube.

You want to make sure that everything is covered at this point.

You won’t be able to see the sponge anymore if you’ve done it correctly.

All you’ll see is a tight slit where the two sponges meet.

For some weight, you can fill the can with some rice or beans before you do all this.

That is if you want something with a little heft to it.

The Towel Method

This is perfect if you’re new to this and you don’t have a ton of materials available or the time to spare.

Stuff you need:
1. A hand towel
2. A medium to large latex glove
3. A belt or rubber bands

Pretty simple, right?

The first thing you need to do is fold the towel two times.

Rest the glove on top of the towel with the opening hanging off to the side.

This is important.

You don’t want to lose the cuff in there.

Now, roll it around the glove very carefully.

Make sure it’s nice and tight, so it will feel like you’re actually fucking something when it’s done.

When you’ve got the tightness that you want down, fasten it with a belt or some rubber bands to keep it from unfolding.

Add more rubber bands if you want it to be even tighter.

Peel back the cuff of the glove back so that it hides the edge of the towel.

And you’re done.

Lube it up and go to town.

Silicone Pocket Pussy

This is for the guys who are little handier, have the patience to wait, and looking to make something less disposable.
Stuff you need:
1. A candle that is bigger than your penis in both length and girth
2. A marker
3. A sharp knife
4. Silicone sealant (You can find this in any hardware store and it’s very cheap. Cheaper than a Fleshlight, that’s for sure.)

First, put your penis against the candle and draw around it with the marker.

Done? Put your penis away.

Next, draw inside the shape and trace one that is 25% smaller than your actual penis.

Now, here comes the precarious part.

Carve off the excess wax.

Start off by cutting lengthwise until you get a nice rectangular block.

What you’re making is a slightly smaller replica or your penis, so smooth it out and make it as penis-like as possible.

You want it a little smaller to get that tightness.
When you’re happy with the “dildo,” it’s time to coat it with the silicone sealant.

You want it to be a little thick, so go for about half an inch.

Then all you have to do is wait a couple of weeks (yes, weeks. I told you that you’d need patience for this!) until the silicone is completely set.

Slide out the candle and you’re done.

If it yields a product that you’re happy with, you might want to keep the candle so you can reuse it for another pocket pussy.

If not, then chuck it and try your hand at it again.

This might need some trial and error if you’re not that skilled.

The Ultimate Fleshlight Guide [UPDATED JAN 2019]

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Ultimate Fleshlight Guide: Exploring the Ins and Outs (Pun Intended) of the Famed Pocket Pussy

Introduction

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The Fleshlight is one of man’s more ingenious inventions since the wheel.

It seriously boggles my mind why it took so long, considering that we’ve been pretty much sticking it in anything from couch cushions to hollowed-out fruit.

If you’ve been living under a rock or having a very faithful love affair with good old righty (or lefty) and have no clue what I’m talking about, let me fill you in on what should be in your bedside drawer.

What Is A Fleshlight?

The fleshlight looks what it sounds like – a flashlight.

It was designed by a guy named Steve Shubin, but honestly, it sure sounds like a bunch of dudes came up with this idea during an epic weed sesh.

This man deserves a medal.

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It looks innocent enough and wouldn’t warrant a second glance, so any wives or moms snooping around wouldn’t even have a clue.

The Fleshlight is as simple as it can get.

It’s still pretty analog, but boy does it feel so much better than just jerking off with your hand.

It’s an encased sleeve with caps you twist off from both ends.

The wider end reveals the opening where you put your wang into and the other end adjusts the suction.

This is pretty great if you’re looking to up your stamina.

I mean, let’s face it. Some dudes last longer than others and it’s really all about preference here.

Special Sleeve

fleshlight just sleeve stoya

The manufacturer won’t really disclose what the sleeve is made of because it’s patented.

They call it the Superskin (and I must say it’s aptly named), which they say is a special blend of rubber polymers and mineral oil for that more realistic feel.

It’s non-toxic and doesn’t have that weird chemical smell so it doesn’t really take you away from the fantasy if you can get over the fact that you’re banging a portable pussy.

Knockoffs are usually made of medical-grade silicone or latex, which can be a hit or miss because some of them can be too hard and can smell a little weird.

You’d know about it if you dabbled in those blow up dolls that were all the rage in the ‘80s.

blow up sex doll

They feel exactly how you would imagine it – like fucking an inflatable pool.

Have It Your Way

fleshlight sleeve options

There are also many different kinds of configurations for the sleeve.

You can buy these separately, so you don’t have to have a suspicious number of “flashlights” lying around, looking like you’ve got the whole town covered for the next blackout.

These configurations have quirky, clever names like the Texas Tornado or the Bump N Grind.

You can also customize your sleeve however way you want, but they’re all made of the same soft, lifelike material.

And the folks over Interactive Life Forms don’t discriminate.

Your little buddy could be any size and it would fit perfectly into any sleeve.

You can’t say that about all women, if you know what I mean.

If you’ve never heard about this, I don’t where you’ve been.

The Fleshlight pretty much took the States by storm when it was first released in the late ‘90s.

Men had a more sophisticated option other than jacking it with their hand with the introduction of this nifty invention.

I don’t know why they didn’t come out with sooner.

Maybe the technology just wasn’t there.

But it had to be done and I think all the guys are happier for it.

But why even get a Fleshlight?

fallon masturbation

So you fancy yourself a creative masturbator and don’t think you need this in your life?

Who knows? That may very well be the case.

But nothing feels as good as something that was specifically designed to give you pleasure.

They had meetings about this stuff.

Experiments were done.

Do you seriously think that this is just going to be as good as humping your mattress?

Think again.

Here are some of the reasons why the Fleshlight is the greatest.

I honestly can’t contain my excitement about this.

You get what you want every single time

we all gonna get laid

The first thing that ought to mention is that you have three choices right off the bat.

You can get the vaginal, anal or oral versions.

Hell, get all three.

So whatever it is your “thing” might be, there is something for you.

Granted, these orifices don’t look like the real thing.

They didn’t exactly make it look realistic and, honestly, I think most guys would prefer it that way.

It’s a little creepy to have a portable severed realistic-looking vagina in your room.

They really weren’t going for a visual experience and that’s fine.

The fun part is still up to your imagination or you could just go on good old reliable PornHub.

However, if you’re a real stickler for realism, then I’m happy to tell you that they’ve come up with a series of Fleshlights that are modeled after your favorite porn stars and cam girls.

fleshlight sales by pornstarThey made a mold out of the girls’ parts and made the openings of their corresponding Fleshlight model look freakishly the same down to the last little flap or crevice.

So if you’ve wondered what a night (or several nights, for that matter) with Stoya or Tori Black would feel like, then this is just about as close as you can get to the real thing.

And since I’m guessing that no one is going to be involved in your masturbation sessions other than yourself, you can use jack it pretty much any time you want.

No one is going to say no.

It’s guaranteed to be safe

safety first

The Fleshlight is a pretty big, notable brand now.

That means a lot of people (including myself) swear by their products and the company takes people’s safety very seriously.

Of course, no one wants a lawsuit filed against them.

By going the classic route and getting the OG instead of the cheaper knockoffs, you will be assured that you are getting the best quality materials that feel the best, are very safe for your skin and are easy to clean.

You don’t want to stick your thing into anything cheap and poorly made.

Since this is a widely known commercial product, it has undergone and passed many different standardized tests to make sure no one wakes up with a strange rash.

It’s your little secret

fleshlight secret

It’s pretty obvious that since they made this thing as innocent-looking as possible, discreteness was one of their main concerns.

You don’t have to worry about being shipped a human-shaped package either.

I’m sure you don’t want the UPS guy to know how kinky you are.

This also won’t show up on your credit card bill as a blaring sex toy purchase.

They’ve got you covered. It will be all in a hush-hush and you definitely won’t get flack for this.

It’ll help if things are getting stale

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Even though when we think Fleshlight, we automatically think solo, this doesn’t mean that you can’t bring this toy into the bedroom to spice things up with your partner.

Using sex toys with a partner and keeping things exciting by playing and discovering each other’s kinks and hidden pleasure spots would strengthen any relationship.

So you could make the argument that this isn’t such a selfish purchase.

Ladies, if you’re hesitant about getting your man a Fleshlight or just letting him get one for himself, I can assure you that this is no substitute for the real thing.

Nothing really beats the sensation of being with an actual person, so you should never be threatened by an object.

But with that said, it’s still pretty fun.

Believe me, he’ll get a kick out of it if you participate.

This will reassure him and make him feel that it’s safe to share his desires with you.

A lot of focus is given to the woman’s orgasm because it’s harder to achieve.

So if you’ve got a good guy on your arm, you probably get all the attention and all the cool new toys.

Adding a Fleshlight to the mix will let him know that his pleasure is important too.

Improving your stamina

sex stamina make love all night

Clearly, using a Fleshlight is nothing like doing it with another person apart from the sensation.

You could go at any pace you want. You can adjust the suction however way you want.

What I’m getting at is, this is all about your pleasure.

There is nothing and no one else to consider.

You can take your own sweet time and train yourself to last longer.

The fleshlight feels so good, you would want to prolong using it as much as possible.

Now, if you have trouble with premature ejaculation, this is a good way to practice.

If you’re good in bed, it’s always still good for edging.

You won’t believe how intense your orgasms can get when using this product.

Either way, it’s always good to up your endurance.

How do you use a Fleshlight?

Getting warmer?

The truth is, your imagination is the limit.

If you can picture it, you can do it.

But here are some of the more popular and basic techniques on how guys use the Fleshlight.

Make it wet

always time for lubricant

To simulate real sex as much as possible, you want to be all lubed up before you penetrate the sleeve.

Chafing in any sort of scenario is never a good feeling.

The unit comes with a couple of packets of sample lubes that they offer.

Some of these have a warming or cooling effect.

You’ll be able to try them out to see what you prefer.

Put some on your junk and inside the sleeve as well.

You could tease yourself by rubbing the tip of your penis against the opening.

Once you get hard, you’ll be able to slide right in easily.

Warm it up

warm up sleeve

Some guys like to heat up their sleeve before going to town on it.

I personally like to do this because it adds to the fantasy.

The sleeve pretty much warms up on its own as you keep thrusting into it.

That’s just how friction works.

But if you want it warm right away, there is a fairly simple solution to that.

Just dip the sleeve in warm water for 2-5 minutes and it’s good to go.

If you’re a fancy lad and have the cash to spare, ILF offers a sleeve warmer.

This is way faster than the warm water method and you can charge it via USB cable.

This is also guaranteed to not damage your Fleshlight at all.

It looks pretty sleek and is a great accessory to have.

Another interesting way I’ve found is wrapping the sleeve in a towel and putting it on my radiator.

This will take a bit more time, but it gets the job done.

Just make sure you wrap it in a towel first and don’t put it directly on there.

And never, never get any clever ideas about putting it in a microwave.

Positioning is key

Back to basics

The simplest way to use a Fleshlight is exactly the same way you usually jack off.

Only this time, you’ll be using the sleeve.

You could be on your back or sitting down, whatever works for you.

Then slide it up and down your shaft as you normally would.

Get creative

that's creativity

This is my personal favorite.

I usually wedge my Fleshlight in between my mattress and the base of the bed.

I kneel down in front of it and thrust away.

This very much feels like you’re doing it doggy-style.

This way, it feels more like a simulation of the act itself and it doesn’t seem like I’m just masturbating.

You could also stick in between couch cushions, some pillows or even a sneaker.

Get on top of it and pleasure yourself missionary style.

If you want something more legit and don’t have to explain to anyone why you have sex furniture, there is a mount that is specially made for the Fleshlight for the best hands-free experience made by Liberator.

It fits perfectly between your legs and once you’ve inserted yourself in, you can rest your elbows on the front and thrust away.

If this gets boring, you could spoon it and slide yourself in from the side.

It’s lightweight and covered with pleather, so that means it’s easy to clean up and it’s not a pain to move it to any room you want.

And since it’s hands-free, your hands and mouth are free if you are going to want to pleasure someone else while you’re pleasuring yourself.

This is great for playing out a threesome fantasy with a partner.

Another option is to get a suction cup for the base of the Fleshlight.

You could stick it on a smooth surface like glass or tiles and play with it while you’re in the shower.

There is also something called the Launchpad, which is essentially a base for your iPad and Fleshlight.

fleshlight launchpad

It’s made of rubber so it’s easy to grip.

This is perfect if you’re watching POV videos for the extra realism or you’re just having good old fashioned Skype sex.

Some dudes take it to the next level by treating it as an attachment.

I really get a kick out of seeing these guys’ subtle innovations.

There are automatic milking machines that pump for you that could make it seem like you’re getting a blowjob or being ridden.

You could also make it so it’s spinning as you thrust in and out of it. Like I said before, if you can think it, you can make it happen.

So which one should I get?

Do you feel like you’re sold on this yet?

Well, selecting your Fleshlight is a little more complicated that coming up with your coffee order.

However, it’s much more fun and a lot more rewarding.

First thing’s first, you have got to ask yourself a couple of simple questions.

What’s your size?

Knowing (and admitting) the size of your penis is very important when it comes to selecting sleeves.

It’s also worth nothing whether your circumcised or not.

There would be no point in choosing a sleeve that varies all the way through if you’re not going to be able to reach it anyway.

Also, knowing your girth can save you a lot of discomfort.

You don’t want anything too tight because some men report to have bruising after having tried sticking it in a Fleshlight that’s not the right size.

What do you like?

fleshlight orifice options

You could be a pussy, mouth or ass man.

There are available options for all three.

It doesn’t matter much because this doesn’t affect the build of the insert.

You can definitely mix and match.

But it helps to keep the fantasy alive by pairing the outer part of the orifice with a sleeve that simulates that particular orifice.

Maybe you’d like lips for the added stimulation and a sleeve that mimics the throat texture.

How long do you last and would you like to improve?

stamina training unit

I’m going to be real with you and confess that I struggled with premature ejaculation.

After about ten pumps, I already feel like I’m going to blow.

But after using the Fleshlight for quite a while now, my stamina has improved significantly.

I’ve tried textures that are crazier than the usual ridges in an actual vaginal canal and have slowly but surely trained myself to last longer.

Honestly, the concept I’ve applied here is very similar to the one I apply when working out.

After some time, you’ll find it easy to do multiple sets with a pair of weights.

This is how you know you’re ready for some heavier ones.

Similarly, when I feel that a relatively simpler texture is getting easy for me, I just replace it with a different one that’s tighter, has more bumps and ridges.

It’s a challenge I never get tired of overcoming and my girlfriend has definitely benefited from this too.

Do you have any geeky fetishes or have a thing for a popular porn star?

that's my fetish

Again, this all boils down to preference.

It’s a nice extra bonus to be able to pick the opening of your Fleshlight, if you ask me.

This adds to its overall visual appeal. If you’ve ever had a fantasy with alien interspecies sex, there is a blue skin that is available.

Star Wars fans rejoice

. Now, you can bang the hot Twi’lek of your dreams.

They really considered what everyone might like.

If you’re into more futuristic stuff, you could go for the cyborg pussy.

Fancy getting a blowjob from a vampire?

There is a vampire mouth option available complete with fangs (they won’t hurt).

If that isn’t really your thing, you could choose from a number of porn stars from their Girls line.

These Fleshlights are molded out of their orifices with their signature on the side for a more personal touch.

Choosing the right texture

Okay, you’re ready to join the more satisfied population of men on the planet.

Good on you.

I’ve done my research (as far as jobs go, mine rules) and I’ll give you the lowdown on all the textures available right now.

For the rookie

You don’t want to get too carried away and overreach when it comes to your first Fleshlight.

You can just breeze through your Fleshlight journey.

You want to enjoy it.

So it’s best to start off with something milder and more similar to the real thing.

You can then level up from there once you get used to the feeling.

If you have more or less the average sized penis, here are the best choices for you.

The Mini Lotus

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The mini lotus in uncomplicated and feels very much like the actual thing.

This is a great beginner model because it’s the easiest feeling to get used to.

This is also the perfect choice if you’re a bit on the shorter side.

There are four notches that are very close to the opening that feel incredibly lifelike.

The Kendra Sutherland Angel

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You might be familiar with the hot, young, blonde bombshell, Kendra Sutherland.

This is modeled after her pussy.

The sleeve, however, is a different story.

I don’t know any woman who is built like that.

It might look a little crazy with all its different textures, but it really surprised me how realistic this one feels.

You’ll definitely feel the variety of ridges and twisted ribs in there, but it’s far from overwhelming and won’t make you cum as fast as you think.

The Teagan Presley Bulletproof

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This sleeve looks innocuous enough, but it certainly doesn’t feel boring if you try it out.

In my opinion, this simulates anal sex the best.

The Vortex

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The name seems like it would be a challenge and looking at it doesn’t really scream “gentle,” but you’d be surprised.

This is very cleverly designed as it simulates being massaged in a twisting motion.

Think very enthusiastic hand job, but with the softest hands ever.

For the purists

Maybe you’re a no-frills kind of guy and don’t want anything fancy or complicated.

I certainly thought like this when I was just first starting out. Why complicate something as simple as masturbation?

I’ve long changed by mind since then, but it’s good to get back to the basic and see how ILF earned their fans from all over the world.

The Classic

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While the more experienced users would probably say that this is the most lackluster out of all the products they offer, I think it’s worth knowing what the original feels like.

This is the one that created all the buzz in the first place.

It will get the job done and if you’re the type of guy who gets a little too excited just looking at the more complicated textures, this is the one you should get first.

FleshSkins

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This one doesn’t come with a case and your hand will still be in control of the tightness when jacking off. Think of it as an upgraded version of masturbating the usual way.

It’s transparent, so if seeing your penis getting milked gets you off, that’s a plus. They also include a drying rack for cleanup.

For blowjob lovers

Sometimes, getting a blowjob feels better for me than actually having sex.

I like the idea that the focus in entirely on me and I get to lay back and just enjoy the sensation.

But not all girls are dying to just go down on you, that’s a fact.

And there’s nothing worse than a half-hearted blowjob.

Here are my favorite models that mimic that little piece of heaven.

The Turbo Ignition

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Hats off to the folks over at ILF.

They outdid themselves with this one.

They even made the opening to feel like lips around your penis.

As you slide in the “throat,” there is some resistance and gets tighter, which actually mimics deepthroating.

This is around time your girlfriend will start to gag if she’s even willing to do it.

The texture doesn’t even look remotely like an actual throat.

Not even close.

But man, it sure feels like the real thing.

You’re going to want to get this one if you want to know what it feels like to be sucked off by a master and one who doesn’t know how to say no and will swallow every single time.

The Launch

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If you want to take it a step further and get a totally hands-free experience, get the Launch.

Powered by Kiroo, this one is a fully automated piece of genius innovation.

I got a kick out of this one because it’s compatible with some VR porn clips that could be easily accessed on your favorite incognito websites.

Every movement of the hottest girls you see on the screen, you will feel.

I had to train a long time to even last 5 minutes.

Additionally, you can manually program the strokes however way you want.

You control how fast it is and how long you want the strokes to be.

This was dangerous for me. I never wanted to leave my room.

For the veterans

If you’re looking to improve your endurance or you just want the most mind-blowing orgasms ever, here are your options.

The Stamina Training Unit

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This is perhaps the most redeeming out of all the Fleshlights if you’re going to have to explain yourself to a wife or girlfriend.

No woman is going to say no if your excuse is that you want to last longer in bed. I’ve got to applaud you for wanting to step your game up.

But if you have no one special in your life and just want to prolong and savor your masturbation sessions, this is a good for that reason too.

Simply put, this is the one that feels most like the vaginal canal. It’s very tight and can be quite the challenge for the one who get two pumps in and they’re done.

The technique to practicing how to hold off on cumming is to stop whenever you need to and go again.

This is not very possible if you’re having sex with a partner.

Most women will egg you on and don’t want you to stop.

With the STU, you can take your own sweet time.

Trust me, the more you hold off, the more intense your orgasms get (as I’m sure you’ve figured out by yourself).

The Stoya Destroya

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I love Stoya.

She’s that dark-haired, snow white vixen with the smoldering eyes.

She’s not exactly the girl-next-door, but more like the mysterious librarian who you just know has some tricks up her sleeve when it comes to the bedroom.

She is known for her hardcore and fetish scenes and has formed quite the sizable fan base.

Honestly, the name lives up to the sleeve itself.

It is a destroyer.

There is an amazing variety of protrusions and ridges that will tickle and squeeze the living daylight out of you.

This is not one for the faint-hearted.

The Jenna Haze Obsession

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If tightness is your thing, this is your best bet.

If you look at this texture, you can see that it has got a concentration of soft bristle-like nubs all throughout.

They are arranged at an optimal angle that offers the most resistance.

You barely have to adjust the suction on this one because it will literally suck you in.

You can also see the it gets more intense as you push further in.

If you can last more than 10 minutes with this one, I’d be thoroughly impressed.

This design was conceptualized with the least amount of BS.

It will get the job done, guaranteed.

The Nikki Benz Reign

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You’ve got to a bit bigger than average to fully enjoy this one.

There are three chambers you can pump into that are divided by two very tight and narrow constrictions.

The first one is a simple crisscross.

This opens into the next chamber where there are rectangular bumps and this leads into the first constriction.

These two alone would make any guy blow, but of course, it doesn’t end there.

You get a ribbed texture that feels like anal sex and then it ends with the classic angled nubs.

If you’re longer than 7 inches, beyond these nubs, it just gets tighter.

This is the one that I haven’t quite gotten over and still go back to every once in a while.

If you like a challenge, then this one is for you.

The Adriana Chechik Next Level

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This one is a doozy.

I mean it just looks insane.

The main chamber is just loaded with these tiny bumps.

Although it’s not the tightest, once you get passed that about 1.4 inches in, then you’ll feel the constriction.

The last chamber is where it’s at.

Again, 7-inchers or more are the only ones who can get to this part, so it’s very important to match the right textures with you penis size to get the best results.

This chamber is unique and houses two long strips along the walls of the sleeve.

Both of them have bumps that you’ll feel from all sides of your penis.

I’ve got to say that this is a strong finish.

One of the upsides of this texture is that it’s very easy to clean unlike most of the more intense sleeves.

It actually has a lot of space and is quicker to air dry.

The Dominika Butterfly

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Dominika C is up there when it when it comes to my all-time favorite porn stars list.

Modeled after her beautiful pussy, this sleeve’s opening is not very difficult.

Especially if you’re particularly endowed girth-wise, the first chamber is a walk in the park.

But the second chamber is where it gets intense and it’s a challenge from there on.

It’s very narrow and the walls have been packed very tightly with soft nubs.

The last chamber is why this texture stands out for me.

It looks like a bunch of stacked rectangular bumps.

Even without pumping so much, the stimulation from these bumps against the head of your penis is sure to drive you wild.

What I like about this texture, apart from the distinct last chamber, is that it doesn’t look that intimidating.

It looks like it was designed with a lot of thought and it gives the user the right stimulation on the right spots.

The Vibro

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Who says vibrators are only for women?

The Vibro comes with what they call “bullets” which you put batteries into and insert in the sleeve.

These create the most amazing vibrations to surely make you go overboard with pleasure.

If the other models are just not cutting it for you, then this one is surely worth the try.

For those who like to see all the action

I’m not sure why I’ve developed a liking for seeing my penis slide in and out of a Fleshlight and at this point, I don’t really care to know.

I’m just glad they included this option for us who are a little freakier.

The Fleshlight ICE

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The ICE comes with three different openings called Lady, Butt and Pure.

The Lady and Butt are pretty self-explanatory, but the Pure is just a hole.

It’s perfect for the minimalist.

According to most reviews, this is the most highly-rated one.

Its main selling point is that it’s see-through, so you get the visual stimulation of watching yourself penetrate the device.

This is also built to accommodate even the bigger penises as it’s about 10 inches long.

It’s big and definitely not discrete.

The case can also house any sleeve you want, so you can replace it any time you want.

The sleeve is very soft like a firmer Jell-O.

The best thing about the ICE is the suction.

Gentlemen, this feels like being sucked off by lady with a vengeance.

I can’t really compare the texture of the ICE to anything else.

It doesn’t feel like vaginal, anal or oral sex.

It is truly exceptional and I can see why everyone is raving about it.

For the traveler

Most of these Fleshlights, even though innocent-looking enough, can be quite bulky and not exactly luggage-friendly.

And like any other sane person, you would want to avoid being held up by the TSA because they just needed to check out this “suspicious” item.

The Quickshot

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As the name implies, this is perfect for when you want to just stroke one out and pass out on your hotel bed.

It’s tiny and can easily fit in a bigger toiletries case and it’s very low-key.

No one would even bat an eye.

This not only comes in handy if you travel a lot.

This could also be good if you are living with roommates or you have a girlfriend who doesn’t like the idea of you jacking off with a toy.

Since it’s significantly smaller than a normal Fleshlight, it’s the easiest to clean too.

The Fleshlight Go Surge

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The Fleshlight Go series is a line of Fleshlights designed to be smaller and, might I add, a little sleeker.

Since it’s more compact, you’ll also have the added bonus of having your junk look larger (if that matters to you).

If you want something easier to carry around and don’t want to compromise on sensation, go with the Surge option.

Last minute tips and my final word

If you’re still having trouble picking the right one, you could easily just customize your very own Fleshlight.

You can have options with every step from the case, the orifice and the sleeve.

I hope I’ve convinced you that this is something that you should own if you want to explore news ways to pleasure yourself.

There are very few things we can constantly enjoy in life, so we might as well make the best of it and get the right tools.

The Ultimate Fleshlight Guide [UPDATED JAN 2019]

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Ultimate Fleshlight Guide: Exploring the Ins and Outs (Pun Intended) of the Famed Pocket Pussy

Introduction

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The Fleshlight is one of man’s more ingenious inventions since the wheel.

It seriously boggles my mind why it took so long, considering that we’ve been pretty much sticking it in anything from couch cushions to hollowed-out fruit.

If you’ve been living under a rock or having a very faithful love affair with good old righty (or lefty) and have no clue what I’m talking about, let me fill you in on what should be in your bedside drawer.

What Is A Fleshlight?

The fleshlight looks what it sounds like – a flashlight.

It was designed by a guy named Steve Shubin, but honestly, it sure sounds like a bunch of dudes came up with this idea during an epic weed sesh.

This man deserves a medal.

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It looks innocent enough and wouldn’t warrant a second glance, so any wives or moms snooping around wouldn’t even have a clue.

The Fleshlight is as simple as it can get.

It’s still pretty analog, but boy does it feel so much better than just jerking off with your hand.

It’s an encased sleeve with caps you twist off from both ends.

The wider end reveals the opening where you put your wang into and the other end adjusts the suction.

This is pretty great if you’re looking to up your stamina.

I mean, let’s face it. Some dudes last longer than others and it’s really all about preference here.

Special Sleeve

fleshlight just sleeve stoya

The manufacturer won’t really disclose what the sleeve is made of because it’s patented.

They call it the Superskin (and I must say it’s aptly named), which they say is a special blend of rubber polymers and mineral oil for that more realistic feel.

It’s non-toxic and doesn’t have that weird chemical smell so it doesn’t really take you away from the fantasy if you can get over the fact that you’re banging a portable pussy.

Knockoffs are usually made of medical-grade silicone or latex, which can be a hit or miss because some of them can be too hard and can smell a little weird.

You’d know about it if you dabbled in those blow up dolls that were all the rage in the ‘80s.

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They feel exactly how you would imagine it – like fucking an inflatable pool.

Have It Your Way

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There are also many different kinds of configurations for the sleeve.

You can buy these separately, so you don’t have to have a suspicious number of “flashlights” lying around, looking like you’ve got the whole town covered for the next blackout.

These configurations have quirky, clever names like the Texas Tornado or the Bump N Grind.

You can also customize your sleeve however way you want, but they’re all made of the same soft, lifelike material.

And the folks over Interactive Life Forms don’t discriminate.

Your little buddy could be any size and it would fit perfectly into any sleeve.

You can’t say that about all women, if you know what I mean.

If you’ve never heard about this, I don’t where you’ve been.

The Fleshlight pretty much took the States by storm when it was first released in the late ‘90s.

Men had a more sophisticated option other than jacking it with their hand with the introduction of this nifty invention.

I don’t know why they didn’t come out with sooner.

Maybe the technology just wasn’t there.

But it had to be done and I think all the guys are happier for it.

But why even get a Fleshlight?

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So you fancy yourself a creative masturbator and don’t think you need this in your life?

Who knows? That may very well be the case.

But nothing feels as good as something that was specifically designed to give you pleasure.

They had meetings about this stuff.

Experiments were done.

Do you seriously think that this is just going to be as good as humping your mattress?

Think again.

Here are some of the reasons why the Fleshlight is the greatest.

I honestly can’t contain my excitement about this.

You get what you want every single time

we all gonna get laid

The first thing that ought to mention is that you have three choices right off the bat.

You can get the vaginal, anal or oral versions.

Hell, get all three.

So whatever it is your “thing” might be, there is something for you.

Granted, these orifices don’t look like the real thing.

They didn’t exactly make it look realistic and, honestly, I think most guys would prefer it that way.

It’s a little creepy to have a portable severed realistic-looking vagina in your room.

They really weren’t going for a visual experience and that’s fine.

The fun part is still up to your imagination or you could just go on good old reliable PornHub.

However, if you’re a real stickler for realism, then I’m happy to tell you that they’ve come up with a series of Fleshlights that are modeled after your favorite porn stars and cam girls.

fleshlight sales by pornstarThey made a mold out of the girls’ parts and made the openings of their corresponding Fleshlight model look freakishly the same down to the last little flap or crevice.

So if you’ve wondered what a night (or several nights, for that matter) with Stoya or Tori Black would feel like, then this is just about as close as you can get to the real thing.

And since I’m guessing that no one is going to be involved in your masturbation sessions other than yourself, you can use jack it pretty much any time you want.

No one is going to say no.

It’s guaranteed to be safe

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The Fleshlight is a pretty big, notable brand now.

That means a lot of people (including myself) swear by their products and the company takes people’s safety very seriously.

Of course, no one wants a lawsuit filed against them.

By going the classic route and getting the OG instead of the cheaper knockoffs, you will be assured that you are getting the best quality materials that feel the best, are very safe for your skin and are easy to clean.

You don’t want to stick your thing into anything cheap and poorly made.

Since this is a widely known commercial product, it has undergone and passed many different standardized tests to make sure no one wakes up with a strange rash.

It’s your little secret

fleshlight secret

It’s pretty obvious that since they made this thing as innocent-looking as possible, discreteness was one of their main concerns.

You don’t have to worry about being shipped a human-shaped package either.

I’m sure you don’t want the UPS guy to know how kinky you are.

This also won’t show up on your credit card bill as a blaring sex toy purchase.

They’ve got you covered. It will be all in a hush-hush and you definitely won’t get flack for this.

It’ll help if things are getting stale

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Even though when we think Fleshlight, we automatically think solo, this doesn’t mean that you can’t bring this toy into the bedroom to spice things up with your partner.

Using sex toys with a partner and keeping things exciting by playing and discovering each other’s kinks and hidden pleasure spots would strengthen any relationship.

So you could make the argument that this isn’t such a selfish purchase.

Ladies, if you’re hesitant about getting your man a Fleshlight or just letting him get one for himself, I can assure you that this is no substitute for the real thing.

Nothing really beats the sensation of being with an actual person, so you should never be threatened by an object.

But with that said, it’s still pretty fun.

Believe me, he’ll get a kick out of it if you participate.

This will reassure him and make him feel that it’s safe to share his desires with you.

A lot of focus is given to the woman’s orgasm because it’s harder to achieve.

So if you’ve got a good guy on your arm, you probably get all the attention and all the cool new toys.

Adding a Fleshlight to the mix will let him know that his pleasure is important too.

Improving your stamina

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Clearly, using a Fleshlight is nothing like doing it with another person apart from the sensation.

You could go at any pace you want. You can adjust the suction however way you want.

What I’m getting at is, this is all about your pleasure.

There is nothing and no one else to consider.

You can take your own sweet time and train yourself to last longer.

The fleshlight feels so good, you would want to prolong using it as much as possible.

Now, if you have trouble with premature ejaculation, this is a good way to practice.

If you’re good in bed, it’s always still good for edging.

You won’t believe how intense your orgasms can get when using this product.

Either way, it’s always good to up your endurance.

How do you use a Fleshlight?

Getting warmer?

The truth is, your imagination is the limit.

If you can picture it, you can do it.

But here are some of the more popular and basic techniques on how guys use the Fleshlight.

Make it wet

always time for lubricant

To simulate real sex as much as possible, you want to be all lubed up before you penetrate the sleeve.

Chafing in any sort of scenario is never a good feeling.

The unit comes with a couple of packets of sample lubes that they offer.

Some of these have a warming or cooling effect.

You’ll be able to try them out to see what you prefer.

Put some on your junk and inside the sleeve as well.

You could tease yourself by rubbing the tip of your penis against the opening.

Once you get hard, you’ll be able to slide right in easily.

Warm it up

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Some guys like to heat up their sleeve before going to town on it.

I personally like to do this because it adds to the fantasy.

The sleeve pretty much warms up on its own as you keep thrusting into it.

That’s just how friction works.

But if you want it warm right away, there is a fairly simple solution to that.

Just dip the sleeve in warm water for 2-5 minutes and it’s good to go.

If you’re a fancy lad and have the cash to spare, ILF offers a sleeve warmer.

This is way faster than the warm water method and you can charge it via USB cable.

This is also guaranteed to not damage your Fleshlight at all.

It looks pretty sleek and is a great accessory to have.

Another interesting way I’ve found is wrapping the sleeve in a towel and putting it on my radiator.

This will take a bit more time, but it gets the job done.

Just make sure you wrap it in a towel first and don’t put it directly on there.

And never, never get any clever ideas about putting it in a microwave.

Positioning is key

Back to basics

The simplest way to use a Fleshlight is exactly the same way you usually jack off.

Only this time, you’ll be using the sleeve.

You could be on your back or sitting down, whatever works for you.

Then slide it up and down your shaft as you normally would.

Get creative

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This is my personal favorite.

I usually wedge my Fleshlight in between my mattress and the base of the bed.

I kneel down in front of it and thrust away.

This very much feels like you’re doing it doggy-style.

This way, it feels more like a simulation of the act itself and it doesn’t seem like I’m just masturbating.

You could also stick in between couch cushions, some pillows or even a sneaker.

Get on top of it and pleasure yourself missionary style.

If you want something more legit and don’t have to explain to anyone why you have sex furniture, there is a mount that is specially made for the Fleshlight for the best hands-free experience made by Liberator.

It fits perfectly between your legs and once you’ve inserted yourself in, you can rest your elbows on the front and thrust away.

If this gets boring, you could spoon it and slide yourself in from the side.

It’s lightweight and covered with pleather, so that means it’s easy to clean up and it’s not a pain to move it to any room you want.

And since it’s hands-free, your hands and mouth are free if you are going to want to pleasure someone else while you’re pleasuring yourself.

This is great for playing out a threesome fantasy with a partner.

Another option is to get a suction cup for the base of the Fleshlight.

You could stick it on a smooth surface like glass or tiles and play with it while you’re in the shower.

There is also something called the Launchpad, which is essentially a base for your iPad and Fleshlight.

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It’s made of rubber so it’s easy to grip.

This is perfect if you’re watching POV videos for the extra realism or you’re just having good old fashioned Skype sex.

Some dudes take it to the next level by treating it as an attachment.

I really get a kick out of seeing these guys’ subtle innovations.

There are automatic milking machines that pump for you that could make it seem like you’re getting a blowjob or being ridden.

You could also make it so it’s spinning as you thrust in and out of it. Like I said before, if you can think it, you can make it happen.

So which one should I get?

Do you feel like you’re sold on this yet?

Well, selecting your Fleshlight is a little more complicated that coming up with your coffee order.

However, it’s much more fun and a lot more rewarding.

First thing’s first, you have got to ask yourself a couple of simple questions.

What’s your size?

Knowing (and admitting) the size of your penis is very important when it comes to selecting sleeves.

It’s also worth nothing whether your circumcised or not.

There would be no point in choosing a sleeve that varies all the way through if you’re not going to be able to reach it anyway.

Also, knowing your girth can save you a lot of discomfort.

You don’t want anything too tight because some men report to have bruising after having tried sticking it in a Fleshlight that’s not the right size.

What do you like?

fleshlight orifice options

You could be a pussy, mouth or ass man.

There are available options for all three.

It doesn’t matter much because this doesn’t affect the build of the insert.

You can definitely mix and match.

But it helps to keep the fantasy alive by pairing the outer part of the orifice with a sleeve that simulates that particular orifice.

Maybe you’d like lips for the added stimulation and a sleeve that mimics the throat texture.

How long do you last and would you like to improve?

stamina training unit

I’m going to be real with you and confess that I struggled with premature ejaculation.

After about ten pumps, I already feel like I’m going to blow.

But after using the Fleshlight for quite a while now, my stamina has improved significantly.

I’ve tried textures that are crazier than the usual ridges in an actual vaginal canal and have slowly but surely trained myself to last longer.

Honestly, the concept I’ve applied here is very similar to the one I apply when working out.

After some time, you’ll find it easy to do multiple sets with a pair of weights.

This is how you know you’re ready for some heavier ones.

Similarly, when I feel that a relatively simpler texture is getting easy for me, I just replace it with a different one that’s tighter, has more bumps and ridges.

It’s a challenge I never get tired of overcoming and my girlfriend has definitely benefited from this too.

Do you have any geeky fetishes or have a thing for a popular porn star?

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Again, this all boils down to preference.

It’s a nice extra bonus to be able to pick the opening of your Fleshlight, if you ask me.

This adds to its overall visual appeal. If you’ve ever had a fantasy with alien interspecies sex, there is a blue skin that is available.

Star Wars fans rejoice

. Now, you can bang the hot Twi’lek of your dreams.

They really considered what everyone might like.

If you’re into more futuristic stuff, you could go for the cyborg pussy.

Fancy getting a blowjob from a vampire?

There is a vampire mouth option available complete with fangs (they won’t hurt).

If that isn’t really your thing, you could choose from a number of porn stars from their Girls line.

These Fleshlights are molded out of their orifices with their signature on the side for a more personal touch.

Choosing the right texture

Okay, you’re ready to join the more satisfied population of men on the planet.

Good on you.

I’ve done my research (as far as jobs go, mine rules) and I’ll give you the lowdown on all the textures available right now.

For the rookie

You don’t want to get too carried away and overreach when it comes to your first Fleshlight.

You can just breeze through your Fleshlight journey.

You want to enjoy it.

So it’s best to start off with something milder and more similar to the real thing.

You can then level up from there once you get used to the feeling.

If you have more or less the average sized penis, here are the best choices for you.

The Mini Lotus

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The mini lotus in uncomplicated and feels very much like the actual thing.

This is a great beginner model because it’s the easiest feeling to get used to.

This is also the perfect choice if you’re a bit on the shorter side.

There are four notches that are very close to the opening that feel incredibly lifelike.

The Kendra Sutherland Angel

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You might be familiar with the hot, young, blonde bombshell, Kendra Sutherland.

This is modeled after her pussy.

The sleeve, however, is a different story.

I don’t know any woman who is built like that.

It might look a little crazy with all its different textures, but it really surprised me how realistic this one feels.

You’ll definitely feel the variety of ridges and twisted ribs in there, but it’s far from overwhelming and won’t make you cum as fast as you think.

The Teagan Presley Bulletproof

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This sleeve looks innocuous enough, but it certainly doesn’t feel boring if you try it out.

In my opinion, this simulates anal sex the best.

The Vortex

original-vortex-fleshlight-texture-test

The name seems like it would be a challenge and looking at it doesn’t really scream “gentle,” but you’d be surprised.

This is very cleverly designed as it simulates being massaged in a twisting motion.

Think very enthusiastic hand job, but with the softest hands ever.

For the purists

Maybe you’re a no-frills kind of guy and don’t want anything fancy or complicated.

I certainly thought like this when I was just first starting out. Why complicate something as simple as masturbation?

I’ve long changed by mind since then, but it’s good to get back to the basic and see how ILF earned their fans from all over the world.

The Classic

fleshlight original sleeve

While the more experienced users would probably say that this is the most lackluster out of all the products they offer, I think it’s worth knowing what the original feels like.

This is the one that created all the buzz in the first place.

It will get the job done and if you’re the type of guy who gets a little too excited just looking at the more complicated textures, this is the one you should get first.

FleshSkins

fleshskins blue ice

This one doesn’t come with a case and your hand will still be in control of the tightness when jacking off. Think of it as an upgraded version of masturbating the usual way.

It’s transparent, so if seeing your penis getting milked gets you off, that’s a plus. They also include a drying rack for cleanup.

For blowjob lovers

Sometimes, getting a blowjob feels better for me than actually having sex.

I like the idea that the focus in entirely on me and I get to lay back and just enjoy the sensation.

But not all girls are dying to just go down on you, that’s a fact.

And there’s nothing worse than a half-hearted blowjob.

Here are my favorite models that mimic that little piece of heaven.

The Turbo Ignition

fleshlight turbo ignition

Hats off to the folks over at ILF.

They outdid themselves with this one.

They even made the opening to feel like lips around your penis.

As you slide in the “throat,” there is some resistance and gets tighter, which actually mimics deepthroating.

This is around time your girlfriend will start to gag if she’s even willing to do it.

The texture doesn’t even look remotely like an actual throat.

Not even close.

But man, it sure feels like the real thing.

You’re going to want to get this one if you want to know what it feels like to be sucked off by a master and one who doesn’t know how to say no and will swallow every single time.

The Launch

fleshlight launchpad

If you want to take it a step further and get a totally hands-free experience, get the Launch.

Powered by Kiroo, this one is a fully automated piece of genius innovation.

I got a kick out of this one because it’s compatible with some VR porn clips that could be easily accessed on your favorite incognito websites.

Every movement of the hottest girls you see on the screen, you will feel.

I had to train a long time to even last 5 minutes.

Additionally, you can manually program the strokes however way you want.

You control how fast it is and how long you want the strokes to be.

This was dangerous for me. I never wanted to leave my room.

For the veterans

If you’re looking to improve your endurance or you just want the most mind-blowing orgasms ever, here are your options.

The Stamina Training Unit

stamina training unit

This is perhaps the most redeeming out of all the Fleshlights if you’re going to have to explain yourself to a wife or girlfriend.

No woman is going to say no if your excuse is that you want to last longer in bed. I’ve got to applaud you for wanting to step your game up.

But if you have no one special in your life and just want to prolong and savor your masturbation sessions, this is a good for that reason too.

Simply put, this is the one that feels most like the vaginal canal. It’s very tight and can be quite the challenge for the one who get two pumps in and they’re done.

The technique to practicing how to hold off on cumming is to stop whenever you need to and go again.

This is not very possible if you’re having sex with a partner.

Most women will egg you on and don’t want you to stop.

With the STU, you can take your own sweet time.

Trust me, the more you hold off, the more intense your orgasms get (as I’m sure you’ve figured out by yourself).

The Stoya Destroya

fleshlight-stoya-destroyer-sleeve

I love Stoya.

She’s that dark-haired, snow white vixen with the smoldering eyes.

She’s not exactly the girl-next-door, but more like the mysterious librarian who you just know has some tricks up her sleeve when it comes to the bedroom.

She is known for her hardcore and fetish scenes and has formed quite the sizable fan base.

Honestly, the name lives up to the sleeve itself.

It is a destroyer.

There is an amazing variety of protrusions and ridges that will tickle and squeeze the living daylight out of you.

This is not one for the faint-hearted.

The Jenna Haze Obsession

jenna haze obsession fleshlight

If tightness is your thing, this is your best bet.

If you look at this texture, you can see that it has got a concentration of soft bristle-like nubs all throughout.

They are arranged at an optimal angle that offers the most resistance.

You barely have to adjust the suction on this one because it will literally suck you in.

You can also see the it gets more intense as you push further in.

If you can last more than 10 minutes with this one, I’d be thoroughly impressed.

This design was conceptualized with the least amount of BS.

It will get the job done, guaranteed.

The Nikki Benz Reign

nikki-benz-reign-fleshlight

You’ve got to a bit bigger than average to fully enjoy this one.

There are three chambers you can pump into that are divided by two very tight and narrow constrictions.

The first one is a simple crisscross.

This opens into the next chamber where there are rectangular bumps and this leads into the first constriction.

These two alone would make any guy blow, but of course, it doesn’t end there.

You get a ribbed texture that feels like anal sex and then it ends with the classic angled nubs.

If you’re longer than 7 inches, beyond these nubs, it just gets tighter.

This is the one that I haven’t quite gotten over and still go back to every once in a while.

If you like a challenge, then this one is for you.

The Adriana Chechik Next Level

 Adriana Chechik Next Level

This one is a doozy.

I mean it just looks insane.

The main chamber is just loaded with these tiny bumps.

Although it’s not the tightest, once you get passed that about 1.4 inches in, then you’ll feel the constriction.

The last chamber is where it’s at.

Again, 7-inchers or more are the only ones who can get to this part, so it’s very important to match the right textures with you penis size to get the best results.

This chamber is unique and houses two long strips along the walls of the sleeve.

Both of them have bumps that you’ll feel from all sides of your penis.

I’ve got to say that this is a strong finish.

One of the upsides of this texture is that it’s very easy to clean unlike most of the more intense sleeves.

It actually has a lot of space and is quicker to air dry.

The Dominika Butterfly

dominika butterfly fleshlight

Dominika C is up there when it when it comes to my all-time favorite porn stars list.

Modeled after her beautiful pussy, this sleeve’s opening is not very difficult.

Especially if you’re particularly endowed girth-wise, the first chamber is a walk in the park.

But the second chamber is where it gets intense and it’s a challenge from there on.

It’s very narrow and the walls have been packed very tightly with soft nubs.

The last chamber is why this texture stands out for me.

It looks like a bunch of stacked rectangular bumps.

Even without pumping so much, the stimulation from these bumps against the head of your penis is sure to drive you wild.

What I like about this texture, apart from the distinct last chamber, is that it doesn’t look that intimidating.

It looks like it was designed with a lot of thought and it gives the user the right stimulation on the right spots.

The Vibro

Fleshlight-Vibro-Pink-Lady-Touch-1

Who says vibrators are only for women?

The Vibro comes with what they call “bullets” which you put batteries into and insert in the sleeve.

These create the most amazing vibrations to surely make you go overboard with pleasure.

If the other models are just not cutting it for you, then this one is surely worth the try.

For those who like to see all the action

I’m not sure why I’ve developed a liking for seeing my penis slide in and out of a Fleshlight and at this point, I don’t really care to know.

I’m just glad they included this option for us who are a little freakier.

The Fleshlight ICE

ice lady composite

The ICE comes with three different openings called Lady, Butt and Pure.

The Lady and Butt are pretty self-explanatory, but the Pure is just a hole.

It’s perfect for the minimalist.

According to most reviews, this is the most highly-rated one.

Its main selling point is that it’s see-through, so you get the visual stimulation of watching yourself penetrate the device.

This is also built to accommodate even the bigger penises as it’s about 10 inches long.

It’s big and definitely not discrete.

The case can also house any sleeve you want, so you can replace it any time you want.

The sleeve is very soft like a firmer Jell-O.

The best thing about the ICE is the suction.

Gentlemen, this feels like being sucked off by lady with a vengeance.

I can’t really compare the texture of the ICE to anything else.

It doesn’t feel like vaginal, anal or oral sex.

It is truly exceptional and I can see why everyone is raving about it.

For the traveler

Most of these Fleshlights, even though innocent-looking enough, can be quite bulky and not exactly luggage-friendly.

And like any other sane person, you would want to avoid being held up by the TSA because they just needed to check out this “suspicious” item.

The Quickshot

fleshlight quickshot

As the name implies, this is perfect for when you want to just stroke one out and pass out on your hotel bed.

It’s tiny and can easily fit in a bigger toiletries case and it’s very low-key.

No one would even bat an eye.

This not only comes in handy if you travel a lot.

This could also be good if you are living with roommates or you have a girlfriend who doesn’t like the idea of you jacking off with a toy.

Since it’s significantly smaller than a normal Fleshlight, it’s the easiest to clean too.

The Fleshlight Go Surge

fleshlight go surge

The Fleshlight Go series is a line of Fleshlights designed to be smaller and, might I add, a little sleeker.

Since it’s more compact, you’ll also have the added bonus of having your junk look larger (if that matters to you).

If you want something easier to carry around and don’t want to compromise on sensation, go with the Surge option.

Last minute tips and my final word

If you’re still having trouble picking the right one, you could easily just customize your very own Fleshlight.

You can have options with every step from the case, the orifice and the sleeve.

I hope I’ve convinced you that this is something that you should own if you want to explore news ways to pleasure yourself.

There are very few things we can constantly enjoy in life, so we might as well make the best of it and get the right tools.

Prostate Massagers: Everything You Need To Know [UPDATED JAN 2019]

P-Spot 101

The prostate is a sensitive – and rarely discussed – area. Many men express trepidation about prostate play or finding their P-spot. We’re here to help!

The anus is a sensitive area; it has thousands upon thousands of sensory nerve endings. 

We tend to enjoy sexual experiences more when they focus on our bodies erogenous, sensitive areas, and for that reason, anal play is becoming very popular.

In contemporary Western culture, the anus is taboo for men.

It’s seen as off-limits, something to be avoided in heterosexuality, and something transgressive otherwise.

That shouldn’t be the case!

Men should be free to stimulate their erogenous areas.

As you will see in this article, there are both pleasure and health-related reasons for stimulating the prostate, and in order to do so, you’re going to need to know about the best prostate massagers on the market.

So lube up, and let’s get started!

Rectum and anuses are part of the genitals, hence stimulation of the anus will refer stimulation to other areas as well.

The prostate gland (or the much-mythologized “P-spot”, is the key to prostate pleasure.

Figuring out what’s going on down there will help you crack the code, and lead to extremely pleasurable experiences.

You need to explore every inch of your body to understand what triggers the ultimate pleasure for you.

You (and your partner, if you have one) need to understand each other’s needs and wants in bed and then slowly start exploring and satisfying those needs, and the prostate is just as important as any other body part in that.

If you are open to experimentation and are a little adventurous, there are endless ways one can get prostate pleasure, whether you’re alone with your massager or with a partner!

What is the prostate gland?

The prostate hangs out at the base of the penis, under the bladder between the urethra and rectum – it’s a small, walnut-sized, sensory gland. 

The primary function of this gland is to store seminal fluid, and muscles around it contract and relax in ejaculation.

Basically, it’s a very important sex organ, that we don’t talk or think about enough.

Stimulation of the outside (the “taint”) between testicles and anus directly stimulates the prostate.

Many people call the prostate gland the ‘P’ spot (or male ‘G’ spot).

This is analogous to the women’s ‘G’ spot, the specific place inside the vagina where women can find intense pleasure.

Whether or not you directly stimulate the prostate, it’s involved in normal ejaculation.

So bringing your attention and energy towards it can really energize your ejaculations and make you come more strongly and powerfully than ever.

Some men can reach orgasm through prostate stimulation alone.

Moreover, men who engage in prostate massage or anal sex report that their orgasms are stronger and more intense,  and last longer when compared to their normal, boring, penile-only orgasms.

This makes sense! Women’s clitorises have thousands of nerve endings, and us men need to get to the prostate in order to access our own dense nerve ending bundle.

Excitingly, you can have prostate orgasms without ejaculating, so you can finally have multiple orgasms without that pesky refractory period.

Imagine being able to have orgasm after orgasm, waves of pleasure pulsing through your body, all at the tip of your fingers.

You have full control, and you can do whatever you want.

It’s a dream.

Why should one massage the prostate?

Let’s keep it simple: prostate orgasms feels incredibly good.

Thousands of men have vouched that these orgasms are vastly satisfying than “regular” penile orgasms.

Secondly, there are also health benefits.

If you’re anything like me, you live a pretty sedentary lifestyle.

Between sitting at work, sitting in the car, sitting on public transit, and sitting at your computer, there’s a LOT of sitting in a normal day.

As you sit for a long time, pockets of the prostate calcify and harden. 

These calcifications lead to inflammation, otherwise known as prostatitis.

The best way to eliminate these build-ups and oxygenate is through massaging the prostate.

The fact that it feels amazing is a pretty nice bonus.

Here’s what you can do to maintain good prostate health:

  • Regularly massage or milk the prostate. Milking the prostate at least once a month helps in reducing the occurrence of prostate cancer.
  • Make sure you have more than 10 orgasms each month. This will have numerous health benefits: it increases your serotonin level, which in turn increases your lymphocytes (white blood cells), and reduces stress, which helps in boosting immunity.
  • Increase your intake of anti-inflammatory spices and herbs like oregano, ginger, green tea and rosemary.

Massaging the prostate is the best thing you can do for maintaining prostate health.

I was initially reluctant to include prostate play in my sexual practice, but by going slow and working my way in, I was able to come like never before.

It’s been a literal life changer.

Get Your Massage On

Begin your prostate massage session with relaxation.

This is extremely important, especially if this kind of stimulation is new for you.

Take a series of deep belly breaths.

Hold them in for 10 seconds, then breathe out while counting to 10.

This will help you relax the pelvic muscles, which will allow for more comfortable stimulation.

Don’t skip this step – it’s as important as any other one.

  Next, clean the area around your anus thoroughly.

After this, you need to be ready for two things: anal play and masturbation.

You’re going to need a lot of lubricant, gloves, and your prostate toy of choice.

Silicone lubricant is usually preferred for anal play. 

Your prostate swells when you’re aroused, so you’ll find that helpful to locate it.

Here’s what you do to get started:

  • Get an erection and keep stroking the penis until your arousal level is around 6 out of 10  – where 10 is an orgasm.
  • Next, apply some lube around the anus using your finger.
  • Slowly insert your finger to the first knuckle and then start masturbating again. Pull out the finger and re-apply more lubricant.
  • Keep on masturbating and place the finger back inside, up to the second knuckle. Continue the entire process until you can get the third knuckle inside easily.
  • Remember to keep relaxing and breathing deeply.
  • Insert your finger deeply, and feel for a rough little lump about 3 inches inside the rectum, pointed up towards the penis root. Congratulations, you’ve found your prostate!   
  • Now know where the prostate gland is, you could use a prostate-specific sex toy to stimulate yourself.
  • You’re going to need 25-30 minutes in order to do this process properly, so many sure to give yourself enough time to relax and really get into it.

Products available to satisfy your needs

Once you find your prostate and get a sense of what’s going on, you’re going to need a prostate toy.

Here, I’ve reviewed a few of my favorites, ranging from inexpensive to high-end, and I’ve recommended one that I think that everyone should have.

Read on to get to prostate heaven!

LELO Loki Vibrating Prostate Massager

LELO’s Loki is a super-powerful, luxury vibrating prostate massager.

It’s a premium model designed for those who want the best of stimulation machines.

It’s my #1 recommended toy, and I think everyone would be happy with it.

It’ll help you find your P-spot like never before.

It has the most 5-star reviews of any prostate massager on Amazon and I personally love using it.

It’s a great all-round choice.

Its elegant curves, along with uncompromising power and satisfying thickness, will give you unbelievably powerful orgasms.

It’s definitely an investment worth making – you only need to buy it once, and you can come over and over again!

Features

  • The massager comes with 6 different vibration patterns which are ideal for exploring new feelings and sensation.
  • The vibration types range between normal continuous vibes and “wave and pulse” modes,  and it can be easily controlled through an interface on the base. This feature is KEY – you’ll definitely be able to find a vibration frequency that suits your desires.
  • This massager is 100% water-resistant and can be used in the shower or bath.
  • Many men find that they’re able to relax more in the shower, and the hot water of the bath helps you relax your pelvic floor muscles, leading to easier and more pleasurable anal sensations.
  • USB-rechargeable. Just plug it into your laptop and take it wherever you need to go.
  • It offers a 1-year manufacturer’s warranty
  • It is made of smooth, silky silicone, so it feels great on your skin. If you apply water-based moisturizer it glides very easily.
  • The tip of the massager is thick, and it narrows down to the neck for a sensuous, comfortable, and natural feeling.
  • The shape of the base is designed in such a way that it allows for additional external stimulation while offering extra stability.

Nexus Revo 2 Rotating Prostate Massager (Rechargeable)

Nexus have been making prostate massagers for a LONG time.

They’re well known as a leading manufacturer, and they’re very reputable.

The Revo 2 is a completely unique product, redesigned from the ground up.

Features

  • It offers dual stimulation with a two-speed rotating shaft and a 3-level perineum vibrator. Its vibrations can be VERY powerful, so be careful if you’re new to prostate pleasure
  • It is made of hypoallergenic silicone with an easy to handle plastic base
  • It is fully rechargeable and has a unique pad with magnetic charging and can be connected to any USB-compatible device
  • The Revo 2 massager is water resistant and can be cleaned easily, but unlike the LELO Loki, this one cannot be submerged in water.
  • It should be used with the water-based lubricants only.

Aneros MGX Prostate Gland Stimulator

This is a great massager for beginners.

Aneros came up with a patented design, which works well for men who have minimal experience or need help relaxing their pelvic floor.

It’s a great toy for all those men out there who wish to experience prostate stimulation for the first time.

This device works in a harmony with the regular movement of the body and stimulates both the perineum and prostate in rhythmic motion which builds up to an unprecedented orgasm.

With this one, you have to be careful to keep breathing deeply.

The pelvic floor moves up and down with your in and out breath, and the Aneros massager will move in conjunction with that activity.

So if you’re tight, it’s going to create even more tension, which can be both painful and a serious buzzkill.

Features

  • It is good for both experienced and beginner prostate players
  • Easy to use
  • This device is well balanced and has a ribbed stem for stimulating anal canal
  • Perineum tab helps with external massage

The Aneros’ fusion of ancient eroticism and modern engineering will enhance sexual pleasure. It is one of the best addition to one’s sex life for own use or to use it along with loved ones.

While I don’t always use this toy, I definitely have one in my collection, and I come back to it all the time.

It’s a great choice for when you don’t want a vibrating toy.

Tantus Prostate Vibrating Silicone 4.5-inch Butt Plug

This prostate vibrator from Tantus is a great. The diameter is 1 inch and 4.5 inches long.

Features

  • This health vibrator comes with a flexible shaft which bends easily with the curves of your body.
  • The vibration along with the bulbous end massages the prostate gland, and helps you learn to relax those tight muscles surrounding the glands, which reduces the risk of prostatitis.
  • It is made of 100% medical grade silicone, so it can be bleached or boiled and is dishwasher safe.
  • It has an ergonomic base, which assists you to hold it comfortably with your thumb.
  • Non-porous, so it won’t harbor dangerous pathogens.

L’Amourose Rosa Rouge

I love this massager too.

It has a special thermal regulation system, which both creates more pleasure and helps you relax your muscles, creating a positive feedback loop of pleasure.

Features

  • This device has a very versatile motion with technology known as “flex and shift”. This helps the device to adjust to your specific body type, giving you ultimate comfort.
  • It provides dual stimulation. The two adjustable motors that stimulate externally and internally.
  • The thermal regulation system keeps the temperature between 40 to 42 degree Celsius.
  • The diamond cut shape of the device offers supreme ease and comfort
  • Easy to charge, with a  charging dock.
  • It offers a lifetime quality guarantee and 18-month warranty.
  • Made of FDA-approved PC ABS/Silicone.
  • Comes with 9 vibrator mode, and 12 types of temperature regulation.
  • It has a seamless design so it’s easy-to-clean and also waterproof.
  • You get 3 hours of medium speed use from 2 hours of charging, and seven minutes when used on full speed with the heat function is engaged. Trust me, you won’t need more than that at high speed!
  • The device comes along with hands-free charging dock, luxury gift box, user manual, velvet carrying pouch, and authenticity card.

HE21602 Nexus-G-play

This product is great for beginners who are curious to explore the delights and pleasure of anal adventures.

It’s a more simple model, but it has everything you need for prostate play.

If you’re just getting into P-spot pleasure, this is definitely a great one to start with.

Features

  • Three different sizes – choose the one you want.
  • It is made of HQ silicone
  • The shafts are ergonomically designed for steady and strong vibration.
  • AAA battery and one vibration setting.
  • Even though the medical grade silicones are used, it can be used along with only water-based lubricants.

8-inch waterproof multi-speed massager for men – Neon Luv Touch

With this product, you could ensure that you get the perfect touch of sensation with its incredible vibe.

Features

  • The Neon Luv Touch has a slender look and comes in six different colors- orange, yellow, pink, green, blue and purple. 
  • The ergonomically curved tip helps in giving amazing stimulation, and multiple speeds just add to the pleasure.
  • Very water resistant – use it in the spa, shower, or wherever you like
  • You should use lots of lubricant for extra wild, extra wet encounter.
  • You need to clean this device after the use with warm water and toy cleaner.
  • The battery required for this device is 2 AAA and it’s not included along with the device. Whenever you are done using the device you should remove the batteries from it.
  • The lubricant recommended for this device is water based.
  • Materials used for making this are ABS plastic with Polyurethane PU Cote.

Prostate massages used for relieving back pain

The prostate vibrator is now known for its ability to offer multiple or trigger intense orgasms. 

The makers of these products are gradually convincing men to leave their inhibitions about anal sex and explore the new arena of pleasure.

Now the manufacturers of prostate massager’s claim that this medically patented device got the potential to relieve back pain.

The walnut-shaped prostate organ which lies between the anus and penis which secrets fluid for ejaculation can actually affect the men’s back. 

When there is inflammation due to the build-up of fluid, it tweaks the surrounding muscle which causes pains and aches throughout the groin and runs upwards to the lower back.

Also, it creates painful ejaculation or urination.

Pain while ejaculating-

Sex could be pleasurable and fun at any time but sometimes it won’t be.

The main reason for this is if a person is suffering from the case of painful ejaculation. 

The massagers’ help in solving the blockage caused in duct due to fluid buildup.

These blockages are the main reason for causing the uncomfortable feel while ejaculating.

If you use these massagers, it not only relieves the fluid buildup but also it lifts up the excitement level in having sex. 

The pain will cease after using the device for some time. 

But you could still use the massager continuously just to experience a new level of ecstasy.

Urination-

People who are suffering from prostate problems will face difficulty in passing urine.

This condition will definitely improve if you use the prostate massager.

Also, it helps in keeping a check so that the prostate problem does not worsen.  

Once you start enjoying the pleasure this massager gives, it would be hard to stop it too.

You can continue using it to lead a healthy lifestyle and discover more pleasure these devices have to offer.

Sitting for too long at work and various other modern lifestyles cause this fluid build-up. 

Also, medical practitioner’s claims that the inflammation can be caused because of illness or if there had been any kind of direct injury to the prostate. 

Most of the men who suffer from prostatitis too suffer from chronic back pain.

Prostate massagers were used for prostatitis treatment from the beginning of the 20th century. 

The idea behind this was that if you manually broke up secretions that are built up in prostate then it would release some pressure. 

Of course, while it helps in relieving the back pain at the same it can offer the orgasm that you have never ever imagined.

The prostate massagers’ available in the market come in different varieties.

You have the freedom to choose the one which suits your need. 

Below mentioned are few of the variants available.

Different variants available

Massage modes-

The prostate massager comes with different variants of massage modes.

You could try out each mode and check to find the one gives you extreme pleasure.

The different modes help in giving a different sensation and you can keep changing the different modes to give you a new experience each time.

Vibrating motors-

The vibrating mode of the massagers gives you great stimulation when compared to the normal device.

More sensation and ecstasy can be experienced when the massager got vibration features.

Re-chargeable options-

These massagers mostly come with rechargeable options which let you fulfill all your desires whenever you want.

You could carry it along with you wherever you travel and could be used as and when pleased.

High-speed vibrations-

In order to satisfy all the needs of men and to take you to new heights, different speed options in massagers are available. 

Men who want to experience extreme pleasure can opt for high speed which gives you an intense and powerful orgasm.

Tips to keep in mind while using the massager

But you need to take care while using the massagers.

You should ensure that it is cleaned thoroughly after every use.

Even your body and hands should be cleaned well once you are done with using the massager. 

It helps in preventing the spreading of any kind of disease.

Also, one should take proper rest and follow healthily diet to take care of the problem related to the prostate gland. 

Ensure that the device is charged properly after every usage so that whenever you use it next time, the device does not get switched off when you are at the pleasure peak. 

While you travel, always keep the device switched off as you don’t want it to get switched on while you are on transit.

Always remember to keep the battery out of the device when it’s not in use.

Conclusion

Each individual has their own desires and ways of achieving pleasure.

Understanding your needs is the first step to discover sexual pleasure.

Before you pick the massager for you, understand what your body needs and do proper research on all the massagers available in the market.

Read through the reviews carefully; take part in the discussion forum to widen your knowledge about these devices and how to use the device correctly to feel ultimate pleasure.

Prostate Massagers: Everything You Need To Know [UPDATED JAN 2019]

P-Spot 101

The prostate is a sensitive – and rarely discussed – area. Many men express trepidation about prostate play or finding their P-spot. We’re here to help!

The anus is a sensitive area; it has thousands upon thousands of sensory nerve endings. 

We tend to enjoy sexual experiences more when they focus on our bodies erogenous, sensitive areas, and for that reason, anal play is becoming very popular.

In contemporary Western culture, the anus is taboo for men.

It’s seen as off-limits, something to be avoided in heterosexuality, and something transgressive otherwise.

That shouldn’t be the case!

Men should be free to stimulate their erogenous areas.

As you will see in this article, there are both pleasure and health-related reasons for stimulating the prostate, and in order to do so, you’re going to need to know about the best prostate massagers on the market.

So lube up, and let’s get started!

Rectum and anuses are part of the genitals, hence stimulation of the anus will refer stimulation to other areas as well.

The prostate gland (or the much-mythologized “P-spot”, is the key to prostate pleasure.

Figuring out what’s going on down there will help you crack the code, and lead to extremely pleasurable experiences.

You need to explore every inch of your body to understand what triggers the ultimate pleasure for you.

You (and your partner, if you have one) need to understand each other’s needs and wants in bed and then slowly start exploring and satisfying those needs, and the prostate is just as important as any other body part in that.

If you are open to experimentation and are a little adventurous, there are endless ways one can get prostate pleasure, whether you’re alone with your massager or with a partner!

What is the prostate gland?

The prostate hangs out at the base of the penis, under the bladder between the urethra and rectum – it’s a small, walnut-sized, sensory gland. 

The primary function of this gland is to store seminal fluid, and muscles around it contract and relax in ejaculation.

Basically, it’s a very important sex organ, that we don’t talk or think about enough.

Stimulation of the outside (the “taint”) between testicles and anus directly stimulates the prostate.

Many people call the prostate gland the ‘P’ spot (or male ‘G’ spot).

This is analogous to the women’s ‘G’ spot, the specific place inside the vagina where women can find intense pleasure.

Whether or not you directly stimulate the prostate, it’s involved in normal ejaculation.

So bringing your attention and energy towards it can really energize your ejaculations and make you come more strongly and powerfully than ever.

Some men can reach orgasm through prostate stimulation alone.

Moreover, men who engage in prostate massage or anal sex report that their orgasms are stronger and more intense,  and last longer when compared to their normal, boring, penile-only orgasms.

This makes sense! Women’s clitorises have thousands of nerve endings, and us men need to get to the prostate in order to access our own dense nerve ending bundle.

Excitingly, you can have prostate orgasms without ejaculating, so you can finally have multiple orgasms without that pesky refractory period.

Imagine being able to have orgasm after orgasm, waves of pleasure pulsing through your body, all at the tip of your fingers.

You have full control, and you can do whatever you want.

It’s a dream.

Why should one massage the prostate?

Let’s keep it simple: prostate orgasms feels incredibly good.

Thousands of men have vouched that these orgasms are vastly satisfying than “regular” penile orgasms.

Secondly, there are also health benefits.

If you’re anything like me, you live a pretty sedentary lifestyle.

Between sitting at work, sitting in the car, sitting on public transit, and sitting at your computer, there’s a LOT of sitting in a normal day.

As you sit for a long time, pockets of the prostate calcify and harden. 

These calcifications lead to inflammation, otherwise known as prostatitis.

The best way to eliminate these build-ups and oxygenate is through massaging the prostate.

The fact that it feels amazing is a pretty nice bonus.

Here’s what you can do to maintain good prostate health:

  • Regularly massage or milk the prostate. Milking the prostate at least once a month helps in reducing the occurrence of prostate cancer.
  • Make sure you have more than 10 orgasms each month. This will have numerous health benefits: it increases your serotonin level, which in turn increases your lymphocytes (white blood cells), and reduces stress, which helps in boosting immunity.
  • Increase your intake of anti-inflammatory spices and herbs like oregano, ginger, green tea and rosemary.

Massaging the prostate is the best thing you can do for maintaining prostate health.

I was initially reluctant to include prostate play in my sexual practice, but by going slow and working my way in, I was able to come like never before.

It’s been a literal life changer.

Get Your Massage On

Begin your prostate massage session with relaxation.

This is extremely important, especially if this kind of stimulation is new for you.

Take a series of deep belly breaths.

Hold them in for 10 seconds, then breathe out while counting to 10.

This will help you relax the pelvic muscles, which will allow for more comfortable stimulation.

Don’t skip this step – it’s as important as any other one.

  Next, clean the area around your anus thoroughly.

After this, you need to be ready for two things: anal play and masturbation.

You’re going to need a lot of lubricant, gloves, and your prostate toy of choice.

Silicone lubricant is usually preferred for anal play. 

Your prostate swells when you’re aroused, so you’ll find that helpful to locate it.

Here’s what you do to get started:

  • Get an erection and keep stroking the penis until your arousal level is around 6 out of 10  – where 10 is an orgasm.
  • Next, apply some lube around the anus using your finger.
  • Slowly insert your finger to the first knuckle and then start masturbating again. Pull out the finger and re-apply more lubricant.
  • Keep on masturbating and place the finger back inside, up to the second knuckle. Continue the entire process until you can get the third knuckle inside easily.
  • Remember to keep relaxing and breathing deeply.
  • Insert your finger deeply, and feel for a rough little lump about 3 inches inside the rectum, pointed up towards the penis root. Congratulations, you’ve found your prostate!   
  • Now know where the prostate gland is, you could use a prostate-specific sex toy to stimulate yourself.
  • You’re going to need 25-30 minutes in order to do this process properly, so many sure to give yourself enough time to relax and really get into it.

Products available to satisfy your needs

Once you find your prostate and get a sense of what’s going on, you’re going to need a prostate toy.

Here, I’ve reviewed a few of my favorites, ranging from inexpensive to high-end, and I’ve recommended one that I think that everyone should have.

Read on to get to prostate heaven!

LELO Loki Vibrating Prostate Massager

LELO’s Loki is a super-powerful, luxury vibrating prostate massager.

It’s a premium model designed for those who want the best of stimulation machines.

It’s my #1 recommended toy, and I think everyone would be happy with it.

It’ll help you find your P-spot like never before.

It has the most 5-star reviews of any prostate massager on Amazon and I personally love using it.

It’s a great all-round choice.

Its elegant curves, along with uncompromising power and satisfying thickness, will give you unbelievably powerful orgasms.

It’s definitely an investment worth making – you only need to buy it once, and you can come over and over again!

Features

  • The massager comes with 6 different vibration patterns which are ideal for exploring new feelings and sensation.
  • The vibration types range between normal continuous vibes and “wave and pulse” modes,  and it can be easily controlled through an interface on the base. This feature is KEY – you’ll definitely be able to find a vibration frequency that suits your desires.
  • This massager is 100% water-resistant and can be used in the shower or bath.
  • Many men find that they’re able to relax more in the shower, and the hot water of the bath helps you relax your pelvic floor muscles, leading to easier and more pleasurable anal sensations.
  • USB-rechargeable. Just plug it into your laptop and take it wherever you need to go.
  • It offers a 1-year manufacturer’s warranty
  • It is made of smooth, silky silicone, so it feels great on your skin. If you apply water-based moisturizer it glides very easily.
  • The tip of the massager is thick, and it narrows down to the neck for a sensuous, comfortable, and natural feeling.
  • The shape of the base is designed in such a way that it allows for additional external stimulation while offering extra stability.

Nexus Revo 2 Rotating Prostate Massager (Rechargeable)

Nexus have been making prostate massagers for a LONG time.

They’re well known as a leading manufacturer, and they’re very reputable.

The Revo 2 is a completely unique product, redesigned from the ground up.

Features

  • It offers dual stimulation with a two-speed rotating shaft and a 3-level perineum vibrator. Its vibrations can be VERY powerful, so be careful if you’re new to prostate pleasure
  • It is made of hypoallergenic silicone with an easy to handle plastic base
  • It is fully rechargeable and has a unique pad with magnetic charging and can be connected to any USB-compatible device
  • The Revo 2 massager is water resistant and can be cleaned easily, but unlike the LELO Loki, this one cannot be submerged in water.
  • It should be used with the water-based lubricants only.

Aneros MGX Prostate Gland Stimulator

This is a great massager for beginners.

Aneros came up with a patented design, which works well for men who have minimal experience or need help relaxing their pelvic floor.

It’s a great toy for all those men out there who wish to experience prostate stimulation for the first time.

This device works in a harmony with the regular movement of the body and stimulates both the perineum and prostate in rhythmic motion which builds up to an unprecedented orgasm.

With this one, you have to be careful to keep breathing deeply.

The pelvic floor moves up and down with your in and out breath, and the Aneros massager will move in conjunction with that activity.

So if you’re tight, it’s going to create even more tension, which can be both painful and a serious buzzkill.

Features

  • It is good for both experienced and beginner prostate players
  • Easy to use
  • This device is well balanced and has a ribbed stem for stimulating anal canal
  • Perineum tab helps with external massage

The Aneros’ fusion of ancient eroticism and modern engineering will enhance sexual pleasure. It is one of the best addition to one’s sex life for own use or to use it along with loved ones.

While I don’t always use this toy, I definitely have one in my collection, and I come back to it all the time.

It’s a great choice for when you don’t want a vibrating toy.

Tantus Prostate Vibrating Silicone 4.5-inch Butt Plug

This prostate vibrator from Tantus is a great. The diameter is 1 inch and 4.5 inches long.

Features

  • This health vibrator comes with a flexible shaft which bends easily with the curves of your body.
  • The vibration along with the bulbous end massages the prostate gland, and helps you learn to relax those tight muscles surrounding the glands, which reduces the risk of prostatitis.
  • It is made of 100% medical grade silicone, so it can be bleached or boiled and is dishwasher safe.
  • It has an ergonomic base, which assists you to hold it comfortably with your thumb.
  • Non-porous, so it won’t harbor dangerous pathogens.

L’Amourose Rosa Rouge

I love this massager too.

It has a special thermal regulation system, which both creates more pleasure and helps you relax your muscles, creating a positive feedback loop of pleasure.

Features

  • This device has a very versatile motion with technology known as “flex and shift”. This helps the device to adjust to your specific body type, giving you ultimate comfort.
  • It provides dual stimulation. The two adjustable motors that stimulate externally and internally.
  • The thermal regulation system keeps the temperature between 40 to 42 degree Celsius.
  • The diamond cut shape of the device offers supreme ease and comfort
  • Easy to charge, with a  charging dock.
  • It offers a lifetime quality guarantee and 18-month warranty.
  • Made of FDA-approved PC ABS/Silicone.
  • Comes with 9 vibrator mode, and 12 types of temperature regulation.
  • It has a seamless design so it’s easy-to-clean and also waterproof.
  • You get 3 hours of medium speed use from 2 hours of charging, and seven minutes when used on full speed with the heat function is engaged. Trust me, you won’t need more than that at high speed!
  • The device comes along with hands-free charging dock, luxury gift box, user manual, velvet carrying pouch, and authenticity card.

HE21602 Nexus-G-play

This product is great for beginners who are curious to explore the delights and pleasure of anal adventures.

It’s a more simple model, but it has everything you need for prostate play.

If you’re just getting into P-spot pleasure, this is definitely a great one to start with.

Features

  • Three different sizes – choose the one you want.
  • It is made of HQ silicone
  • The shafts are ergonomically designed for steady and strong vibration.
  • AAA battery and one vibration setting.
  • Even though the medical grade silicones are used, it can be used along with only water-based lubricants.

8-inch waterproof multi-speed massager for men – Neon Luv Touch

With this product, you could ensure that you get the perfect touch of sensation with its incredible vibe.

Features

  • The Neon Luv Touch has a slender look and comes in six different colors- orange, yellow, pink, green, blue and purple. 
  • The ergonomically curved tip helps in giving amazing stimulation, and multiple speeds just add to the pleasure.
  • Very water resistant – use it in the spa, shower, or wherever you like
  • You should use lots of lubricant for extra wild, extra wet encounter.
  • You need to clean this device after the use with warm water and toy cleaner.
  • The battery required for this device is 2 AAA and it’s not included along with the device. Whenever you are done using the device you should remove the batteries from it.
  • The lubricant recommended for this device is water based.
  • Materials used for making this are ABS plastic with Polyurethane PU Cote.

Prostate massages used for relieving back pain

The prostate vibrator is now known for its ability to offer multiple or trigger intense orgasms. 

The makers of these products are gradually convincing men to leave their inhibitions about anal sex and explore the new arena of pleasure.

Now the manufacturers of prostate massager’s claim that this medically patented device got the potential to relieve back pain.

The walnut-shaped prostate organ which lies between the anus and penis which secrets fluid for ejaculation can actually affect the men’s back. 

When there is inflammation due to the build-up of fluid, it tweaks the surrounding muscle which causes pains and aches throughout the groin and runs upwards to the lower back.

Also, it creates painful ejaculation or urination.

Pain while ejaculating-

Sex could be pleasurable and fun at any time but sometimes it won’t be.

The main reason for this is if a person is suffering from the case of painful ejaculation. 

The massagers’ help in solving the blockage caused in duct due to fluid buildup.

These blockages are the main reason for causing the uncomfortable feel while ejaculating.

If you use these massagers, it not only relieves the fluid buildup but also it lifts up the excitement level in having sex. 

The pain will cease after using the device for some time. 

But you could still use the massager continuously just to experience a new level of ecstasy.

Urination-

People who are suffering from prostate problems will face difficulty in passing urine.

This condition will definitely improve if you use the prostate massager.

Also, it helps in keeping a check so that the prostate problem does not worsen.  

Once you start enjoying the pleasure this massager gives, it would be hard to stop it too.

You can continue using it to lead a healthy lifestyle and discover more pleasure these devices have to offer.

Sitting for too long at work and various other modern lifestyles cause this fluid build-up. 

Also, medical practitioner’s claims that the inflammation can be caused because of illness or if there had been any kind of direct injury to the prostate. 

Most of the men who suffer from prostatitis too suffer from chronic back pain.

Prostate massagers were used for prostatitis treatment from the beginning of the 20th century. 

The idea behind this was that if you manually broke up secretions that are built up in prostate then it would release some pressure. 

Of course, while it helps in relieving the back pain at the same it can offer the orgasm that you have never ever imagined.

The prostate massagers’ available in the market come in different varieties.

You have the freedom to choose the one which suits your need. 

Below mentioned are few of the variants available.

Different variants available

Massage modes-

The prostate massager comes with different variants of massage modes.

You could try out each mode and check to find the one gives you extreme pleasure.

The different modes help in giving a different sensation and you can keep changing the different modes to give you a new experience each time.

Vibrating motors-

The vibrating mode of the massagers gives you great stimulation when compared to the normal device.

More sensation and ecstasy can be experienced when the massager got vibration features.

Re-chargeable options-

These massagers mostly come with rechargeable options which let you fulfill all your desires whenever you want.

You could carry it along with you wherever you travel and could be used as and when pleased.

High-speed vibrations-

In order to satisfy all the needs of men and to take you to new heights, different speed options in massagers are available. 

Men who want to experience extreme pleasure can opt for high speed which gives you an intense and powerful orgasm.

Tips to keep in mind while using the massager

But you need to take care while using the massagers.

You should ensure that it is cleaned thoroughly after every use.

Even your body and hands should be cleaned well once you are done with using the massager. 

It helps in preventing the spreading of any kind of disease.

Also, one should take proper rest and follow healthily diet to take care of the problem related to the prostate gland. 

Ensure that the device is charged properly after every usage so that whenever you use it next time, the device does not get switched off when you are at the pleasure peak. 

While you travel, always keep the device switched off as you don’t want it to get switched on while you are on transit.

Always remember to keep the battery out of the device when it’s not in use.

Conclusion

Each individual has their own desires and ways of achieving pleasure.

Understanding your needs is the first step to discover sexual pleasure.

Before you pick the massager for you, understand what your body needs and do proper research on all the massagers available in the market.

Read through the reviews carefully; take part in the discussion forum to widen your knowledge about these devices and how to use the device correctly to feel ultimate pleasure.

Ultimate Guide To Bondage Rope [UPDATED 2019]

Get Tied Up

Starting with ropes

You might have seen these amazing Japanese knots –  or it just that your boyfriend’s allergic to metal, and you have to use hump ropes to tie him down?

Following years of experience as a rope master in Wisconsin’s BDSM scene, I’m here to share some of my wisdom, and help you with your first BDSM rope ties.

What kind of rope do you need?

In general, good quality rope can be costly – but this is one of those things where you don’t want to go cheap.

Looking around at your local hardware store, you will find that there are some sturdy options that won’t break the bank.

First, start off with a little rather than a lot.

It’s better to have to reorder more rope because you like it than to be stuck with a bunch of rope you don’t want to use.

Most beginners don’t know if rope is something they’ll like, so they go to the hardware store and buy a pack or two of cotton or nylon rope.

This rope is good for a beginner, but long term a rigger will want to upgrade their kit.

For one, it has no grip, so many of the twists and turns that are made while tying slip and move around.

This rope holds knots well –  but a little too well.

Cotton and nylon tend to compress and the knots tighten rather than allowing the rigger (ie. the person tying the ropes) to put the correct tension on.

The best place to buy rope is from a vendor on the web. The important thing is to find one with a good reputation that people recommend.

I like to have rope in both 6mm and 8mm thickness.

It just depends on what ties you use or who your subject is.

Different Ropes For Different Folks

I think 6mm looks less than ideal in most ties – but a lot of people on Fetlife use it for pretty photos when tying very small rope bottoms.

Make sure you have various lengths on hand too (just make sure you know it… you never cut a rope unless it is an emergency situation).

I don’t really like joining two sections and rope that is too long can be cumbersome.

Too short and you can’t complete the tie or will have to join rope.

The perfect lengths also depend on the rope bottom as well.

Obviously bigger bottoms will require longer ropes.

Choosing rope is a very personal decision so it’s important that you think about your needs and wants and choose appropriately as your rope will become the tool of your trade.

Once you’ve found the rope you want to use you will be anxious to wrap it around someone.

But first you need to become familiar with the rope and how to use it safely (next writing on this) and effectively. But right now we will focus on becoming familiar with the history.

Lets geek out on some history

Most rope bondage done in kink today is Japanese in origin. You might have heard the terms Shibari or Kinbaku, but for me those are too much.

In my mind the bondage we do in the West is more plain and simple then those fine arts.

Here’s a good story.

During the feudal Edo era in Japanese history, samurai used rope in combat and to restrain prisoners of war with a brutal art called hojojutsu that has nothing to do with the fun-loving-erotic thing we enjoy today.

At the time, official laws used knots to torture and extort confessions from captives, and to display alleged criminals to the public.

Public punishment specifically fit the crime, so the tie used to administer it created a legible, symbolic admonition for crowds of onlookers.

The samurai (being both honorable and practical) tied their captives as restrictively, but also as ornately as possible.

The more ornate and complicated the tie, the more respect was shown, so they got VERY complicated.

Safety, Safety, Safety

Safety is not sexy, but neither are accidents.

Rope bondage can be a dangerous activity.

Neither the human body nor ropes are completely predictable and as such, the combination of the two comes with certain inherent risks that are never completely avoidable.

You don’t want your bottom to get hurt – even a tiny bit – and you especially don’t want to put their life at risk!

What may be entirely safe with one person may cause injury in someone else, and in no way do I suggest that bondage will be safe even if you follow all the guidelines set forth in this article.

Rules To Live By

Don’t do it if you’re not sure what you are doing.

Know what you are doing and don’t go too fast.

Train on everything before you do it for real.

Going step by step is slow and boring but it is a real necessity.
Make sure you always have scissors, knife, EMT shears, or something similar on hand.

Don’t wait for the leg to become blue or your subject to faint. If you’re in doubt, cut the rope.

Know what you know and don’t try to do more.

It is probably a bad idea to some amazing pictures and think that you can do the same.

Practice Makes Perfect

Do the groundwork first.

Remember the finger rule – any tie should be loose enough you can slip a finger between the rope and skin.

Talk to your bottom. Make sure you know about any medical issues, fears, etc.
Know your ropes, your hooks, your round steel rings and your D rings.

Make sure they are all maintained and in good condition.
Don’t make quick decisions.

Plan it all in advance.

True, it is not sexy but it is a must.
Your bottom is the main attraction.

Talk to him/her.

Make sure to warn her/him before you are doing anything special, anything that will require him to do some effort.

If he/she said that something is wrong then something is wrong.

Stop and check.

In Conclusion

You are responsible for your own actions so use your head and when necessary, get medical advice.

Ultimate Guide To Bondage Rope [UPDATED 2019]

Get Tied Up

Starting with ropes

You might have seen these amazing Japanese knots –  or it just that your boyfriend’s allergic to metal, and you have to use hump ropes to tie him down?

Following years of experience as a rope master in Wisconsin’s BDSM scene, I’m here to share some of my wisdom, and help you with your first BDSM rope ties.

What kind of rope do you need?

In general, good quality rope can be costly – but this is one of those things where you don’t want to go cheap.

Looking around at your local hardware store, you will find that there are some sturdy options that won’t break the bank.

First, start off with a little rather than a lot.

It’s better to have to reorder more rope because you like it than to be stuck with a bunch of rope you don’t want to use.

Most beginners don’t know if rope is something they’ll like, so they go to the hardware store and buy a pack or two of cotton or nylon rope.

This rope is good for a beginner, but long term a rigger will want to upgrade their kit.

For one, it has no grip, so many of the twists and turns that are made while tying slip and move around.

This rope holds knots well –  but a little too well.

Cotton and nylon tend to compress and the knots tighten rather than allowing the rigger (ie. the person tying the ropes) to put the correct tension on.

The best place to buy rope is from a vendor on the web. The important thing is to find one with a good reputation that people recommend.

I like to have rope in both 6mm and 8mm thickness.

It just depends on what ties you use or who your subject is.

Different Ropes For Different Folks

I think 6mm looks less than ideal in most ties – but a lot of people on Fetlife use it for pretty photos when tying very small rope bottoms.

Make sure you have various lengths on hand too (just make sure you know it… you never cut a rope unless it is an emergency situation).

I don’t really like joining two sections and rope that is too long can be cumbersome.

Too short and you can’t complete the tie or will have to join rope.

The perfect lengths also depend on the rope bottom as well.

Obviously bigger bottoms will require longer ropes.

Choosing rope is a very personal decision so it’s important that you think about your needs and wants and choose appropriately as your rope will become the tool of your trade.

Once you’ve found the rope you want to use you will be anxious to wrap it around someone.

But first you need to become familiar with the rope and how to use it safely (next writing on this) and effectively. But right now we will focus on becoming familiar with the history.

Lets geek out on some history

Most rope bondage done in kink today is Japanese in origin. You might have heard the terms Shibari or Kinbaku, but for me those are too much.

In my mind the bondage we do in the West is more plain and simple then those fine arts.

Here’s a good story.

During the feudal Edo era in Japanese history, samurai used rope in combat and to restrain prisoners of war with a brutal art called hojojutsu that has nothing to do with the fun-loving-erotic thing we enjoy today.

At the time, official laws used knots to torture and extort confessions from captives, and to display alleged criminals to the public.

Public punishment specifically fit the crime, so the tie used to administer it created a legible, symbolic admonition for crowds of onlookers.

The samurai (being both honorable and practical) tied their captives as restrictively, but also as ornately as possible.

The more ornate and complicated the tie, the more respect was shown, so they got VERY complicated.

Safety, Safety, Safety

Safety is not sexy, but neither are accidents.

Rope bondage can be a dangerous activity.

Neither the human body nor ropes are completely predictable and as such, the combination of the two comes with certain inherent risks that are never completely avoidable.

You don’t want your bottom to get hurt – even a tiny bit – and you especially don’t want to put their life at risk!

What may be entirely safe with one person may cause injury in someone else, and in no way do I suggest that bondage will be safe even if you follow all the guidelines set forth in this article.

Rules To Live By

Don’t do it if you’re not sure what you are doing.

Know what you are doing and don’t go too fast.

Train on everything before you do it for real.

Going step by step is slow and boring but it is a real necessity.
Make sure you always have scissors, knife, EMT shears, or something similar on hand.

Don’t wait for the leg to become blue or your subject to faint. If you’re in doubt, cut the rope.

Know what you know and don’t try to do more.

It is probably a bad idea to some amazing pictures and think that you can do the same.

Practice Makes Perfect

Do the groundwork first.

Remember the finger rule – any tie should be loose enough you can slip a finger between the rope and skin.

Talk to your bottom. Make sure you know about any medical issues, fears, etc.
Know your ropes, your hooks, your round steel rings and your D rings.

Make sure they are all maintained and in good condition.
Don’t make quick decisions.

Plan it all in advance.

True, it is not sexy but it is a must.
Your bottom is the main attraction.

Talk to him/her.

Make sure to warn her/him before you are doing anything special, anything that will require him to do some effort.

If he/she said that something is wrong then something is wrong.

Stop and check.

In Conclusion

You are responsible for your own actions so use your head and when necessary, get medical advice.

How To Use Butt Plugs: The Ultimate Guide

Everything Butt Plugs

tons of butt plugs

Butt plugs are a fun and varied kind of toy for those with an interest or fondness for anal play.

There are many kinds of butt plugs, and many ways to use them, allowing a wide range of people to enjoy them for different reasons.

Decorated butt plugs can be used during sex to add extra stimulation, or by yourself for masturbation or even a hidden bit of pleasure for a night out on the town.

Butt plugs with tails can be used during sex for pulling, or during regular activities, worn about the house to help stay in pet space.

There are also vibrating butt plugs, for those who enjoy more exciting anal stimulation.

Perhaps you are interesting in exploring anal play and want to know the ins and outs of what you will need and how to proceed.
If so, then you’ve come to the right place.

Types of Lube

lube

Let’s start with the basics!

Lube.

There are three main types of lubricants out there for you to pick from, oil-based, silicone-based, and water-based.

Each of these three types has its upsides, but also their own drawbacks.

Oil Lubricants

Oil-based lubricants are great for extended use of toys like butt plugs or any other kind of insertable.

They last a long time without drying out, and are smoother, meaning it will feel easier moving a toy in or out.

However, they come with the drawback of being incompatible with latex, whether it be latex clothing or a latex condom.

An oil-based lubricant will eat through the latex, and the resulting mix can be dangerous.

It’s safest to use oil-based lubricants on metal, glass, or silicone toys and butt plugs.

Oil-based lubricants are also harder to clean up, as they don’t dissolve in water, so make sure you have plenty of time set aside for cleaning.

Never use petroleum jelly.

The best kinds are gentle, natural oils, like jojoba oil, for example.

Silicone Lubricants

Silicone-based lubricants are similar to oil-based ones in that they stay wet a long time, and don’t dry out, they also share that same smooth feeling.

They stay wetter for longer and so are really good for prolonged play, especially of the anal variety.

Silicone lubes are also hypoallergenic, meaning they are unlikely to cause an allergic reaction or irritate sensitive skin.

Unlike oil-based lubes, they can be used with latex toys or condoms safely, but they will dissolve other silicone products.

Using silicone lube with a silicone toy or plug will be very dangerous to the user’s health.

The silicon can be absorbed into the body, and cause serious harm.

Silicone-based lubricants are also easier to clean up afterwards, making it easier to safely clean and maintain your toys.

Water Lubricants

Water-based lubricants are super versatile, being safe to use with any toy, however they can dry out fast, producing a sticky residue.

They can be used with plugs and other toys safely.

You just have to make sure to regularly re-apply the lube, and to be mindful if it begins drying.

They are also the easiest kind of lube to clean up, being soluble in water.

However this also means they are not the best choice for any anal play in water.

Some of the better lubricants on the market that you might want to look into are:

Water-based lubricants

Sliquid Natural Lube (Amazon)
Aloe Cadabra (Amazon)
Pink Water (Amazon)

Oil-based lubricants

Jojoba oil
Coconut oil
Olive oil

Silicone-based lubricants

Uberlube (Amazon)
Wet Platinum (Amazon)
Swiss Navy Silicone Lubricant (Amazon)
Pjur Original (Amazon)
Gun Oil (Amazon)

Remember to stay clear of lubes containing propylene glycol, parabens, glycerin, L-Argenine and petroleum.

Materials:

For a beginner, the different materials may seem a bit confusing, but they are very simple.

Silicone plugs will be warmer and softer than the alternative of glass or metal.

If you’re worried about using a plug for your first time, a silicone plug will be a safe choice.

It is also better for anal training and prolonged use with less discomfort.

Softer plugs will give a very different feeling from harder plugs.

You may wish to buy a second plug made from glass or metal, once you are comfortable with your silicone plug.

Silicone plugs do come with the drawback of not being safe for use with silicone lubricants, though.

You should use only water- or oil-based lubricants with a silicone plug.

Metal and glass plugs are safe for use with any lubricant, so if you have lube left over from your silicone plug, you can use it safely with a glass or metal plug if you decide to buy one.

Glass plugs are made of pyrex – a heat, crack and break resistant glass that is body-safe and fun to use.

Definitely a harder material than silicone, it should be used once you are comfortable with anal insertables.

Both pyrex and steel plugs are smooth to use and so easier for anal play that involves any sort in and out movement.

They can be cold at first but will quickly warm to the body’s temperature for better comfort.

While you can wear or use glass or steel plugs for long periods of time, they may cause discomfort if you are not used to them.

Take it slow.

The best way to work yourself to this point is through anal training.

Anal Training

Depending on the size of your butt plug, you may want to stretch yourself out first.

A smaller training plug may only require a few minutes of stretching with fingers, but a large plug may need you to swap between smaller plugs.

Using your fingers, you’ll want to stretch your anus slightly and slowly, don’t rush yourself, and relax your stomach.

There are a number of anal training kits you can find at a variety of sex toy and kink shops online.

Once you feel confident you can insert your plug, you’ll want to follow the steps listed in the next section that explores the nitty gritty on how to safely insert your plug.

How to Insert A Butt Plug

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You’ve finally made it! You’ve purchased your first plug, you also have some great lube.

Now it is time for the test drive.

Inserting a butt plug may seem daunting, but the most important part is relaxation.

You’ll want to pick the right position for insertion which depends on a variety of factors.

If your plug has a suction cup or flat base, you can secure it to the floor, the bathtub basin, etc.

, and you will want to slowly lower yourself onto it.

If you can secure it to a wall you can also push back to insert.

Doing so in the doggy position is easiest.

For decorated plugs or those with tails, laying on your side is easiest and most efficient.

It keeps your muscles relaxed and does not cause discomfort in trying to reach.

Whichever position you pick, you must be able to relax yourself.

If staying on your knees is causing you to tense your stomach and pelvic floor muscles, you will have a harder time with the insertion.

Once you have chosen a position that works for you, start pressing the plug into your butt.

The first layer, the one you can see, will be easy enough to push the toy into.

The sphincter muscles however, will prove stubborn at first.

They usually begin around 4cm into the anus, and will clench without you meaning to sometimes.

The tip to passing the sphincter is to relax your stomach, and move slow.

Trying to cram it in will only hurt you, and could lead to a serious injury.

You need to move slowly and let your sphincter relax each time you make some progress.

Once you have made some progress, continue the same way until the largest section of the plug begins to enter.

Your sphincter may clench up, but you need to remain persistent.

Continue to push steadily, and always remember to breathe in a measured fashion.

When you pass the bulbous shape of the plug, you will find it tapers down.

That is where your anus will close around the plug.

The base is to remain outside of the body so that you will be able to remove it without issue.

When you are ready to remove the plug, you will want to grab the stem of the plug, and start gently pulling.

The problem here is that unlike when you insert the plug, the widest part needs to come out first.

Using force here may hurt you, and prove ineffective in removing the plug.

You’ll want to get into a position like before, where you can relax, and begin pulling the toy, while pushing with your stomach, as though you are having a bowel movement.

It may feel uncomfortable at first, but repeating a similar method from before, to remove it slowly and steadily, you will be able to remove the plug.
For longer plugs with graduated bulbs, take each one slowly.

Never ever attempt to forcefully pull the plug from your body as this may cause perforation of the walls or anal prolapse.

Conclusion

There are many types of plugs for you to test out and a number of ways to get started.

The best way is to start small and soft and work your way up in size and to harder materials.

Always use the right lube to assist in insertion and removal of the plug.

When inserting, slow and steady wins the race.

Relax as best you can and forge forward.

Anal play can be great as an addition to other types of play or fun on its own.

Enjoy experimenting to find the most fulfilling way to add anal play to your sex life!

Sex Dolls: The Ultimate Guide

What is a sex doll?

A sex doll, also known as a love doll is a replica  of a human, female or male that is “anatomically correct” as described in the movie “Lars and The Real Girl.”  

These dolls may be inflatable or solid, and are made of different types of plastic and silicone.

Normally these are  life sized replicas of an entire person, ranging from about 4 feet to almost 6 feet tall weight from 20- over 100 lbs.

There are torsos with a head but no arms or legs, which can be considered a doll.  

Any other replica of human sexual organs or body parts is a sex toy and not a doll.   

Not Just For Sex

Yes, dolls are a very sophisticated sex toy, but they are also used for companionship by many people. We’ll explore that in another article.  

Sex dolls come in different forms, but they should not be confused with sex robots which are a little bit more of anthropomorphic creations that are designed to exhibit more complex actions and will soon be enhanced with artificial intelligence or “AI.”  

Production of sex dolls took several leaps forward towards the end of the 20th century and by 1970, silicone, latex, and vinyl had taken lead as the choice of material used in making of sex dolls.

TPE and Silicone

There are two main material bases for Sex Dolls – Silicone, and TPE (ThermoPlastic Elastomer).

Silicone is considered the higher end material, primarily for its durability and quality of detail.

In the last several years TPE dolls –  once considered throwaway like inflatables –  have gained leaps and bounds in quality for durability an appearance.  

While a platinum cured silicone doll will last you 10 years if well cared for, a TPE dolls can last 3 or 4 rather than a year or so which was the case for a long time.   

Currently, both types are produced on large scale. Quality TPE dolls range from ~$1000-$3,000. While Silicone dolls range form ~$2500- $7,000 and up.  There is a doll for every budget!

Why a sex doll?

Masayuki Ozaki, a 45-year-old Japanese businessman explains the reason why he decided get Mayu, his doll. “Men expect to have someone who can listen to them without necessarily grumbling when they get back home from work”,  Like other men, he has found happiness in his artificial woman despite being married for years.

It may sound odd that a man who has been married for many years can find happiness and satisfaction with a doll who does not speak or move.

However, men and women like Ozaki, allow their dreams, imagination and fantasy help them create a partner and give their dolls a personality.  

Others just like to have a doll on hand to “take the edge off” when they need/want sex.

People’s relationships can fail for many reasons.

They may not like the dating scene or want to go through the hassle of online match-making only to have another failed relationship and the emotional stress that goes with it.  

You don’t have to get worried about the insecurity that comes along in relationships.

Maybe a spouse can no longer physically engage in intimacy due to medical or the conditions;  dolls are a way to maintain that type of relationship while getting one’s needs met.

For years men and women sought extra curricular lovers which eventually caused broken homes, hearts and the financial and emotional debacle of divorce.

Money runs the world, and it often dictates the success of any relationship.

Sex Dolls Vs Sex Workers

Other sought satisfaction through sex worker,  which now has risen to a new level of taboo with the crack-down of websites like BackPage and raids of massage parlors all over.  

The oldest profession is being targeted to bring more money into the legal system.  

The stigma of being arrested for patronizing a sex worker is much worse than it ever was.

Why risk embarrassment, losing your job, and legal troubles when you can have a doll?

Then there is the financial drain hundreds of dollars for an hour of pleasure and the increased risk of STD’s.

You will NEVER get a STD from a doll.   

Three visits to a sex worker a month can cost $600- $1000!

In 3 months you will have saved enough for a decent quality sex doll and then have sex with her (or him) everyday!

Personal and financial safety in the long run and not risking another failed relationship. Dolls are starting to sound appealing…aren’t they?  

Types of Dolls

Realistic life sized sex dolls have been in existence for many years, despite the fact most people find it odd discussing these human-size sex dolls.  

This observation could be attributed to the different cultures and beliefs that hold onto sex as being a sensitive matter.

As the world changes, more people of different generations and background are getting out to explore worldly pleasures without giving a second thought of what others might think of them.

More and more men and women of different ages and status are buying sex dolls as a way to fulfill their sexual desires and fantasies as an option to a human partner.

That is the main reason why TPE dolls and silicone love dolls are increasing in popularity, becoming intriguing yet remaining controversial.

Several manufacturers have gone as far as to experiment with incorporating artificial intelligence into their dolls.  

Let’s look at the two main types of Sex Dolls

TPE

TPE sex dolls are made from a ThermoPlastic Elastomer (hence the name).  

The material has recently become very popular for making sex toys due to its flexibility and softness and it’s price-point.  

The material is quite handy in making small detailed features that are crucial for a sex doll.  Some of these features include the nose, mouth and labia.

Some, believe TPE sex dolls feel more realistic due to its softness, and can feel like touching human skin. Other views see it as too soft.

The material does not clean very easily, it is susceptible to stains from clothing and can tear.  This is why TPE material is less expensive than platinum cure silicone.

The following are some characteristics of TPE:

  1. Non-allergic

Unfortunately, you might have had allergic reactions with the previous sex dolls making you to stop using them.

With TPE pleasure dolls, that’s been fixed with materials that don’t trigger any form of allergy.

  1. Odors

TPE does have an odor.

Better quality TPE manufacturers have been able to virtually eliminate the odor once associated with it.

Less expensive dolls still have an odor but have greatly improved in the last year or so.

  1. Feeling

The flexibility and soft rubbery texture provides you with the realistic feeling that enhances your sexual pleasure.

These toys are gentle, flexible, but with proper care these dolls are durable enough enough to meet your needs.

  1. Price point

TPE materials are less expensive than silicone but have greatly improved in quality in the last 2 years.

That makes them a great choice for a first doll and more.

The materials possess all the essential features that have attracted many people to use TPE sex dolls.

  1. Temperature

Thermoplastic elastomer materials are known to withstand the body temperatures but it not recommended  to heat them with heating pads, electric blankets, or portable heaters.

This can cause dents and malformations in the material.

Silicone sex dolls

When you think of realistic love dolls, silicone sex dolls are what you likely have seen.

Silicone sex dolls have been featured on TV shows like Real Sex, My Strange Addiction Vice and others.

These pleasure dolls are made using very high-quality platinum cured silicone.

Tin cured silicone was used previously, but platinum cured is much more durable and does continue to cure and this break down after 7 or 8 years.

Silicone love dolls are either made with a light usually foam based core and a metal and PVC skeleton with posable joints.

TPE vs Silicone Sex Dolls – What is the difference?

Both types of dolls come in different sizes and body proportions that range from average human woman measurements to fantasy sized breasts and butts.

You can choose from Caucasian, Asian, African, dark skin, light skin, depending on your preferences. You can choose what you like the most in terms of the skin tone, color of the hair, eye color and much more.

One of the most crucial parts of choosing a sex doll, is the type of the materials which the doll is made of.

Materials for TPE and Silicone pleasure dolls are almost similar but have a noticeable difference in feel.  

TPE is becoming more and more popular as many users discover the recent improvements.

TPE dolls are heavier than silicone dolls because they have no core.

The molten TPE injected directly into a mold over the skeleton and has to cool.  

The foam core used in silicone dolls would melt during this process.

The multi part Silicone mixture is poured into a mold at room temperature and cures around the skeleton through a chemical reaction.  

Both types of dolls have flexible and an articulated skeletons that makes them easy to position in different ways you never imagined.

As we discussed earlier silicone dolls are priced higher as compared to TPE sex dolls due to the cost of the material and labor involved in the manufacturing process.

TPE pleasure dolls are gaining popularity not only for their affordability but also, the material is softer to touch in some ways in comparison to silicone.

The two most important factors in selecting your doll are:

  1. Your budget.
  2. Your preference for the feel of the material.

Once you have determined that, you can select a doll and customize her/him to your liking!

 

Sex Dolls: The Ultimate Guide

What is a sex doll?

A sex doll, also known as a love doll is a replica  of a human, female or male that is “anatomically correct” as described in the movie “Lars and The Real Girl.”  

These dolls may be inflatable or solid, and are made of different types of plastic and silicone.

Normally these are  life sized replicas of an entire person, ranging from about 4 feet to almost 6 feet tall weight from 20- over 100 lbs.

There are torsos with a head but no arms or legs, which can be considered a doll.  

Any other replica of human sexual organs or body parts is a sex toy and not a doll.   

Not Just For Sex

Yes, dolls are a very sophisticated sex toy, but they are also used for companionship by many people. We’ll explore that in another article.  

Sex dolls come in different forms, but they should not be confused with sex robots which are a little bit more of anthropomorphic creations that are designed to exhibit more complex actions and will soon be enhanced with artificial intelligence or “AI.”  

Production of sex dolls took several leaps forward towards the end of the 20th century and by 1970, silicone, latex, and vinyl had taken lead as the choice of material used in making of sex dolls.

TPE and Silicone

There are two main material bases for Sex Dolls – Silicone, and TPE (ThermoPlastic Elastomer).

Silicone is considered the higher end material, primarily for its durability and quality of detail.

In the last several years TPE dolls –  once considered throwaway like inflatables –  have gained leaps and bounds in quality for durability an appearance.  

While a platinum cured silicone doll will last you 10 years if well cared for, a TPE dolls can last 3 or 4 rather than a year or so which was the case for a long time.   

Currently, both types are produced on large scale. Quality TPE dolls range from ~$1000-$3,000. While Silicone dolls range form ~$2500- $7,000 and up.  There is a doll for every budget!

Why a sex doll?

Masayuki Ozaki, a 45-year-old Japanese businessman explains the reason why he decided get Mayu, his doll. “Men expect to have someone who can listen to them without necessarily grumbling when they get back home from work”,  Like other men, he has found happiness in his artificial woman despite being married for years.

It may sound odd that a man who has been married for many years can find happiness and satisfaction with a doll who does not speak or move.

However, men and women like Ozaki, allow their dreams, imagination and fantasy help them create a partner and give their dolls a personality.  

Others just like to have a doll on hand to “take the edge off” when they need/want sex.

People’s relationships can fail for many reasons.

They may not like the dating scene or want to go through the hassle of online match-making only to have another failed relationship and the emotional stress that goes with it.  

You don’t have to get worried about the insecurity that comes along in relationships.

Maybe a spouse can no longer physically engage in intimacy due to medical or the conditions;  dolls are a way to maintain that type of relationship while getting one’s needs met.

For years men and women sought extra curricular lovers which eventually caused broken homes, hearts and the financial and emotional debacle of divorce.

Money runs the world, and it often dictates the success of any relationship.

Sex Dolls Vs Sex Workers

Other sought satisfaction through sex worker,  which now has risen to a new level of taboo with the crack-down of websites like BackPage and raids of massage parlors all over.  

The oldest profession is being targeted to bring more money into the legal system.  

The stigma of being arrested for patronizing a sex worker is much worse than it ever was.

Why risk embarrassment, losing your job, and legal troubles when you can have a doll?

Then there is the financial drain hundreds of dollars for an hour of pleasure and the increased risk of STD’s.

You will NEVER get a STD from a doll.   

Three visits to a sex worker a month can cost $600- $1000!

In 3 months you will have saved enough for a decent quality sex doll and then have sex with her (or him) everyday!

Personal and financial safety in the long run and not risking another failed relationship. Dolls are starting to sound appealing…aren’t they?  

Types of Dolls

Realistic life sized sex dolls have been in existence for many years, despite the fact most people find it odd discussing these human-size sex dolls.  

This observation could be attributed to the different cultures and beliefs that hold onto sex as being a sensitive matter.

As the world changes, more people of different generations and background are getting out to explore worldly pleasures without giving a second thought of what others might think of them.

More and more men and women of different ages and status are buying sex dolls as a way to fulfill their sexual desires and fantasies as an option to a human partner.

That is the main reason why TPE dolls and silicone love dolls are increasing in popularity, becoming intriguing yet remaining controversial.

Several manufacturers have gone as far as to experiment with incorporating artificial intelligence into their dolls.  

Let’s look at the two main types of Sex Dolls

TPE

TPE sex dolls are made from a ThermoPlastic Elastomer (hence the name).  

The material has recently become very popular for making sex toys due to its flexibility and softness and it’s price-point.  

The material is quite handy in making small detailed features that are crucial for a sex doll.  Some of these features include the nose, mouth and labia.

Some, believe TPE sex dolls feel more realistic due to its softness, and can feel like touching human skin. Other views see it as too soft.

The material does not clean very easily, it is susceptible to stains from clothing and can tear.  This is why TPE material is less expensive than platinum cure silicone.

The following are some characteristics of TPE:

  1. Non-allergic

Unfortunately, you might have had allergic reactions with the previous sex dolls making you to stop using them.

With TPE pleasure dolls, that’s been fixed with materials that don’t trigger any form of allergy.

  1. Odors

TPE does have an odor.

Better quality TPE manufacturers have been able to virtually eliminate the odor once associated with it.

Less expensive dolls still have an odor but have greatly improved in the last year or so.

  1. Feeling

The flexibility and soft rubbery texture provides you with the realistic feeling that enhances your sexual pleasure.

These toys are gentle, flexible, but with proper care these dolls are durable enough enough to meet your needs.

  1. Price point

TPE materials are less expensive than silicone but have greatly improved in quality in the last 2 years.

That makes them a great choice for a first doll and more.

The materials possess all the essential features that have attracted many people to use TPE sex dolls.

  1. Temperature

Thermoplastic elastomer materials are known to withstand the body temperatures but it not recommended  to heat them with heating pads, electric blankets, or portable heaters.

This can cause dents and malformations in the material.

Silicone sex dolls

When you think of realistic love dolls, silicone sex dolls are what you likely have seen.

Silicone sex dolls have been featured on TV shows like Real Sex, My Strange Addiction Vice and others.

These pleasure dolls are made using very high-quality platinum cured silicone.

Tin cured silicone was used previously, but platinum cured is much more durable and does continue to cure and this break down after 7 or 8 years.

Silicone love dolls are either made with a light usually foam based core and a metal and PVC skeleton with posable joints.

TPE vs Silicone Sex Dolls – What is the difference?

Both types of dolls come in different sizes and body proportions that range from average human woman measurements to fantasy sized breasts and butts.

You can choose from Caucasian, Asian, African, dark skin, light skin, depending on your preferences. You can choose what you like the most in terms of the skin tone, color of the hair, eye color and much more.

One of the most crucial parts of choosing a sex doll, is the type of the materials which the doll is made of.

Materials for TPE and Silicone pleasure dolls are almost similar but have a noticeable difference in feel.  

TPE is becoming more and more popular as many users discover the recent improvements.

TPE dolls are heavier than silicone dolls because they have no core.

The molten TPE injected directly into a mold over the skeleton and has to cool.  

The foam core used in silicone dolls would melt during this process.

The multi part Silicone mixture is poured into a mold at room temperature and cures around the skeleton through a chemical reaction.  

Both types of dolls have flexible and an articulated skeletons that makes them easy to position in different ways you never imagined.

As we discussed earlier silicone dolls are priced higher as compared to TPE sex dolls due to the cost of the material and labor involved in the manufacturing process.

TPE pleasure dolls are gaining popularity not only for their affordability but also, the material is softer to touch in some ways in comparison to silicone.

The two most important factors in selecting your doll are:

  1. Your budget.
  2. Your preference for the feel of the material.

Once you have determined that, you can select a doll and customize her/him to your liking!